This article from the UK Daily Mail scares me.
First, an anecdote:
One of my male friends is looking to move home, out of the city centre and into the suburbs. I asked where he fancied – north, south, east or west. He shrugged. ‘I have no say in it,’ he said. ‘It’s not my decision.’
I pointed out that choosing where to live is one of the biggest decisions we make. Plus, he’d be paying for at least half of it. Surely he had some say? He shook his head. ‘The wife decides.’
This same friend last year kowtowed to his then girlfriend’s desire for a massive wedding with more than 200 guests and costing more than £20,000, even though he admitted that his preference would have been for a much smaller and more intimate affair.
And another anecdote:
One of my friends, a stay-at-home mother to two young children, says she is absolutely ‘the decider’ in her marriage.
‘My husband earns the money and I decide how we spend it,’ she says. ‘I feed and dress us all. I decide where and when we go on holiday. I choose everything for the house and have just decided to get an extension.
‘I even buy my own birthday present from my husband and our children. Actually, I quite often feel as if I have three children, not two. But that’s the way it is.’
She went on: ‘If I had to consult and strive for equality in every decision, we’d never get anything done. It sounds very old-fashioned, but basically my husband is the provider – in financial terms – and I am in charge of running the show.
‘Some people would no doubt say my husband’s “under the thumb” or that I “wear the trousers”. Although I hate the thought, it’s probably true.’
Then the research:
Studies appear to confirm that women are increasingly the dominant decision-making force in relationships.
A recent report found that by 2020 women will be driving the world economy and will have the final say in the majority of financial decisions in Britain’s homes.
Another study found that women make 80 per cent of all purchasing decisions, and 94 per cent of home furnishing purchases.
The study also found that in nearly half of all relationships men have no share in decision-making in the following four areas: household finances, big home purchases, the location of their homes, shared weekend activities and television viewing.
Does that sound like a good deal for men?
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