New study: women who have fewer premarital sex partners have lower risk of divorce

Consider this article from Family Studies that talks about how the number of pre-marital sex partners that a woman has increases her risk of divorce.

It says:

American sexual behavior is much different than it used to be. Today, most Americans think premarital sex is okay, and will have three or more sexual partners before marrying. What, if anything, does premarital sex have to do with marital stability?

This research brief shows that the relationship between divorce and the number of sexual partners women have prior to marriage is complex. I explore this relationship using data from the three most recent waves of the National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG) collected in 2002, 2006-2010, and 2011-2013. For women marrying since the start of the new millennium:

  • Women with 10 or more partners were the most likely to divorce, but this only became true in recent years;
  • Women with 3-9 partners were less likely to divorce than women with 2 partners; and,
  • Women with 0-1 partners were the least likely to divorce.

Earlier research found that having multiple sex partners prior to marriage could lead to less happy marriages, and often increased the odds of divorce.

[…]Even more noteworthy has been the decline in the proportion of women who get married having had only one sex partner (in most cases, their future husbands). Forty-three percent of women had just one premarital sex partner in the 1970s.

[…]By the 2010s, only 5 percent of new brides were virgins. At the other end of the distribution, the number of future wives who had ten or more sex partners increased from 2 percent in the 1970s to 14 percent in the 2000s, and then to 18 percent in the 2010s. Overall, American women are far more likely to have had multiple premarital sex partners in recent years (unfortunately, the NSFG doesn’t have full data on men’s premarital sexual behavior, and in any event they recall their own marital histories less reliably than do women).

Here’s the change:

Women have freely chosen to dismiss the Bible and the moral law
Women have freely chosen to dismiss the Bible and the moral law

And the problem with this, of course, is that more premarital sex partners means a higher risk of divorce:

Even one non-husband premarital sex partner raises risk of divorce
Even one non-husband premarital sex partner raises risk of divorce

Why is the 2-partner number so high?

In most cases, a woman’s two premarital sex partners include her future husband and one other man. That second sex partner is first-hand proof of a sexual alternative to one’s husband. These sexual experiences convince women that sex outside of wedlock is indeed a possibility. The man involved was likely to have become a partner in the course of a serious relationship—women inclined to hook up will have had more than two premarital partners—thereby emphasizing the seriousness of the alternative.

The Christian Post had an article about some recent numbers from the Centers for Disease Control about virgins.

Excerpt:

A new Centers for Disease Control study examines teenage health behaviors in connection to their self-reported sexual activity and shows those who remain abstinent are much healthier on many fronts than their sexually active peers.

The report, titled “Sexual Identity, Sexual Contacts, and Health-Related Behaviors Among Students in Grades 9-12, United States and Selected Sites,” showcased the results from a 2015 survey that monitored several categories of health-related behaviors like tobacco usage, drug and alcohol use, sexual habits, unhealthy dietary behaviors, and behaviors that contribute to unintentional injuries and violence.

The report concludes “that students who had no sexual contact have a much lower prevalance of most health-risk behaviors compared with students” who had sexual contact.

The article quotes Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, who I have featured on this blog many times:

In a Monday interview with The Christian Post, Jennifer Roback Morse, founder and president of the Ruth Institute, said, “this study is remarkable because it asks questions and reports the answers, rather than avoiding questions or assuming answers.”

As Glenn Stanton noted last week in The Federalist, the results from those questions and answers are remarkable.

With regard to smoking, teenage virgins are 3,300 percent less likely to smoke daily than their peers who are sexually involved with someone of the opposite sex, Stanton computed from the report’s data. Teen virgins are 9,500 percent less likely to smoke daily than their peers who are sexually involved with someone of the same sex or in a bisexual relationship, he added. Chaste young people are also extremely less likely to use indoor tanning beds, binge drink, smoke marijuana, ride in cars as passengers with a drunk driver, and get into physical fights than their sexually active peers. Abstinent youth are also more likely to get a solid eight hours of sleep every night and eat breakfast daily.

[…]The CDC report also included findings from 25 state surveys, and 19 large, urban school district surveys conducted among students in grades 9–12 which took place between December of 2014 and September of 2015.

Now, many pro traditional marriage people will tell young men “feminism and the sexual revolution change nothing about a woman’s suitability for marriage, so go out there and get married to these women anyway”. In my experience, no one is telling women NOT to follow their hearts, and explaining to them the harm that they do by allowing their feelings to determine who they will engage in relationships.

I would like to see women make better decisions with men before they marry, rather than be influenced by their peers and culture to give themselves to men who are not marriage-minded. Maybe a little skepticism should be shown to “follow your heart”? Women need to understand what they are losing when they choose to have premarital sex.

In my group of friends, the men are aware of the Biblical prohibition on premarital sex. My friends know about the research on marriage, and what it takes to make a marriage work. We don’t follow our hearts, because we do what we know will work to achieve the results we want. We don’t listen to the culture, and we don’t listen to radical feminists. Men generally take an engineering approach to marriage – we want to know what the best practices and tradeoffs are, and then we plan and act to succeed.

LGBT activists charged with using adopted children to make child porn

On the weekend, I saw a lot of people tweeting a quotation from an article by The Gospel Coalition, in which the author urged Christians to accept same-sex marriage as the law of the land. Should Christians capitulate to the secular left about the definition of marriage? Or should they think harder about how to argue in favor of natural marriage, with evidence?

This is from the Instagram of The Gospel Coalition:

The Gospel Coalition

They want Christians to affirm same-sex marriage.

Here is a recent story from the New York Post:

A Georgia couple has been charged with using their two adopted children to record child pornography, police said.

Walton County Sheriff’s Office raided a home in Loganville July 27 on reports that a man there was downloading child porn.

After interviewing the suspect, who was not identified, police said they learned there was another suspect in the county who was “producing homemade child sexual abuse material with at least one child who lived in the home,” the sheriff’s office said Thursday.

Around 11:30 p.m. that same night, executed a search warrant in Oxford at the home of William Dale Zulock, 32, and Zachary Jacoby Zulock, 35.

[…]During their search, deputies found evidence the pair, who were the children’s adoptive fathers, “were engaging in sexually abusive acts and video documenting this abuse,” the sheriff’s office said.

Early the next morning, the Zulocks were both booked at the Walton County Jail.

Both men were charged with aggravated child molestation, sexual exploitation of a child and enticing a child for indecent purposes, WSBTV reported. William Zulock was additionally charged with child molestation.

Andy Ngo, a gay journalist who holds gay activists accountable for their behavior, had more about the story:

William and Zachary Zulock are gay rights activists who have a long social media history of support for liberal and leftist causes. In 2018, William Zulock announced they had adopted two boys. Between the two suspects’ social media accounts, there are posts about “pizza,” BLM, radical trans rights, and adoration of the Human Rights Campaign, a queer lobbying group with close ties to the Democrat Party. Photos show the children were taken to the headquarters of the HRC in Washington, D.C. in September 2019.

Do you remember seeing those little flags on the backs of people’s cars that signaled support for same-sex marriage? The blue ones with the yellow equal signs? That’s the Human Rights Campaign flag. The gay couple in the story were big fans of that flag. I posted the image of one of them above, as the “featured image” for this post. (Source: Twitter)

Also, this was shared by Andy Ngo on Witter:

Gay activists

“No hate”. If you disagree with same-sex marriage, because it’s not the best environment for children, does that make you a hater?

The Gospel Coalition doesn’t want to make the case against same-sex marriage. They want Christians to accept it. They think “who cares about how same-sex marriage affects children?”

What I’d like to see from The Gospel Coalition, Christianity Today, the ERLC, and other secular leftist, anti-intellectual “Christian” groups is an argument against same-sex marriage that defends Jesus’ definition of marriage (one man, one woman). Is that too much to ask? I’ve made secular arguments against same-sex marriage based on evidence many times on this blog. It’s not that hard, but you do have to read books about it, rather than just virtue signal to the secular left in the hope (the VAIN hope) that they will like you.

You don’t have to be a Christian to disagree with same-sex marriage. You can argue in favor of natural marriage on completely non-religious grounds. That’s what I’d like to see from our “elite” Christian leaders. Statistically, children do better when they are raised by two biological parents.  That’s a non-sectarian argument against same-sex marriage.

Knight and Rose Show – Episode 17: Common Muslim Objections to Christianity

Welcome to episode 17 of the Knight and Rose podcast! In this episode, Wintery Knight and Desert Rose discuss common Muslim objections to Christianity. If you like this episode, please subscribe to the podcast, and subscribe to our YouTube channel. We would appreciate it if you left us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

Podcast description:

Christian apologists Wintery Knight and Desert Rose discuss apologetics, policy, culture, relationships, and more. Each episode equips you with evidence you can use to boldly engage anyone, anywhere. We train our listeners to become Christian secret agents. Action and adventure guaranteed. 30-45 minutes per episode. New episode every week.

Episode 17:

Episode  Summary:

Wintery Knight and Desert Rose discuss five common objections that Muslims raise against Christianity. We evaluate each objection using historical evidence, evidence from non-Christian New Testament scholars, and claims from the Qur’an itself. We also talk about how these arguments fair in scholarly debates. We recommend several of our favorite resources on the topic. We conclude with a story from Rose about an interaction she had with a Muslim friend when she responded to one of these common objections.

Speaker biographies

Wintery Knight is a black legal immigrant. He is a senior software engineer by day, and an amateur Christian apologist by night. He has been blogging at winteryknight.com since January of 2009, covering news, policy and Christian worldview issues.

Desert Rose did her undergraduate degree in public policy, and then worked for a conservative Washington lobbyist organization. She also has a graduate degree from a prestigious evangelical seminary. She is active in Christian apologetics as a speaker, author, and teacher.

References:

OBJECTION #1:

Peter J. Williams debates Bart Ehrman on his book “Misquoting Jesus” by Wintery Knight

The Islamic Dilemma

a. The Qur’an affirms the inspiration, authority, and preservation of the Gospels

i. Divine inspiration: Qur’an 3:3-4; 5:47

ii. Ongoing authority: Qur’an 5:47; 5:68 (Note: If the Gospels were reliable in the 7th century, then they’re reliable now because our Gospels are based on manuscripts that pre-date the 7th century)

iii. Perfect preservation: Qur’an 6:115; 18:27

b. But the Qur’an contradicts the Gospels on key issues

i. Deity of Jesus: Qur’an 5:116; 5:72

ii. Death of Jesus: Qur’an 4:157

iii. Resurrection of Jesus

c. So, if the Gospels ARE trustworthy, then the Qur’an is not trustworthy because the Qur’an contradicts the Gospels on key issues.

d. But if the Gospels ARE NOT trustworthy, then the Qur’an is not trustworthy because the Qur’an says the Gospels are trustworthy

e. Either way, the Qur’an is false (and Islam stands or falls on the reliability of the Qur’an)

OBJECTION #2:

Objection comes from Qur’an 5:116; 5:72

Did the early church invent the divinity of Jesus over a long period of time? by Wintery Knight

The Date Of Mark’s Gospel: Insight from the Law in Earliest Christianity by non-Christian New Testament scholar Dr. James Crossley

OBJECTION #3:

What do skeptical ancient historians think of the earliest Christian creed? by Wintery Knight

OBJECTION #4:

Episode #1 of Knight and Rose Show: Easter: Making the Case for the Resurrection of Jesus to Non-Christians

William Lane Craig debates James Crossley on the resurrection of Jesus

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Strength Of The Titans by Kevin MacLeod
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