In this post, I wanted to show a couple of videos to illustrate this point: when Christian men or socially conservative men teach women to be 1) entitled and 2) immune to accountability, they are causing the decline of dating and marriage. So, I’ll start by explaining what men want from marriage and what they don’t want from marriage. Then we’ll see the videos, then I’ll make the general point.

Problem Statement

So, I think what most men want from marriage is a helper. The Bible says that men are designed to be the heads of their homes and women are supposed to help them with their plans. And Christian men are expected to have a Christian plan that serves God, so his marriage plan should be oriented towards making a marriage that serves God, first and foremost.

My plan for marriage was 5 things:

1. 3-4 homeschooled kids who would go on to become influential Christians, preferably in the mold of Dr. Walter Bradley.
2. Teach evidential apologetics in the church, maybe with guest speakers or conferences.
3. Open the home to small group apologetics ministry, including to neighbors and co-workers.
4. Some kind of apologetics ministry, like a blog, podcast or online book study group.
5. Some kind of political involvement to improve the liberty, prosperity and security and that marriage depends on.

And here are some examples of threats to this plan:

1. Divorce initiated by wife, with alimony, child support, loss of custody, loss of visitation.
2. False accusations at work that would cause loss of employment.
3. Crime or violence from criminals or criminal illegal immigrants.
4. Indoctrination of kids by public schools and / or university leftists.
5. Socialism making the marriage and parenting plan unaffordable.

So, when interviewing women for that plan, I would be looking for demonstrated ability in areas like evidential apologetics, basic economics, evidence-based positions on moral issues like natural marriage and pro-life, advocacy for conservative policies, STEM degree, private sector work experience, no debt, chastity, sobriety and so on.

Research Findings

Let’s focus on that divorce risk for a moment. You can actually look at social science research and see what behaviors are more likely to cause divorce.

So, here are two examples of independent risk factors to divorce:

1. outstanding debt from loans and wastful spending
2. multiple recreational premarital sex partners

And here are some articles about studies for the first one:

• 1 in 8 divorces is caused by student loans (CNBC)
• Fidelity® Research Reveals Many Borrowers Delaying Major Life Milestones Due to Student Loan Debt (Fidelity)

And the studies for the second one:

• Teachman (2003) – “Premarital Sex, Premarital Cohabitation, and the Risk of Subsequent Marital Dissolution Among Women” (Journal of Marriage and Family).
• Smith & Wolfinger (2024) – “Re-Examining the Link Between Premarital Sex and Divorce” (Journal of Family Issues; PMC available).

That’s how I (a software engineer) make decisions. I think about what the Bible says I should be doing, I make a plan, I identify threats, and then I execute the plan. Divorce is bad for marital stability so I am rejecting candidates with a higher risk of divorce. Not only is student loan debt an independent risk factor for divorce, but even if there is no divorce, there are other bad effects related to my plan, such as delays in purchasing a home and delaying the production of children.

Data

So, with all that said, take a look at this video from well-known simp Dave Ramsey.

So what to make of this? Well, this is a case where a man has set a condition of marriage to him that she pay off her own loans. Is this a good rule? Yes, as we saw from the research, a woman with outstanding debts prior to the marriage raises the risk of divorce. But what does Dave Ramsey say? He says to the woman “You’re a princess!” and that her boyfriend has NO RIGHT to set conditions on her high-risk behavior in order to marry him. Dave Ramsey doesn’t know or care how debt affects marital stability.

Now let’s see the second video, featuring another well-known simp, Mark Regnerus.

So, what to make of this? Well, this is a case where a Christian virgin has decided to reject a woman for marriage because she has demonstrated her view that sex is something to have with men who are attractive but who do not first commit to her. And Mark and Lila Rose respond to this by saying nothing about the research, nothing about divorce-avoidance, but instead they say – without any evidence! – that he is probably rejecting her because he looks at porn. So, instead of praising the man for setting boundaries that are likely to give him a stable marriage, which is better for serving God, they condemn him for not serving their real God – which is the non-virgin woman’s own sense of entitlement and lack of accountability.

Analysis

Both videos show men being cowardly and weak in the vain hope that women will like them. The first video about the student loans shows that women have a sense of entitlement. They think marriage should not impose any duties on them. And Dave Ramsey, simp extraordinaire, responds to this entitled attitude by affirming it: “You’re a Princess!”. And the second video shows the lack of accountability. The woman chose a man on the basis of his attractiveness, and gave him premarital sex. It’s not commitment ability that gets sex from her – it’s attractiveness. She wanted validation from a man who had what she valued most: good looks. The virgin man looked at that and said “I have made decisions in my life to demonstrate my ability to commit and be loyal, but you are not attracted to that (in your actions), so I’ll find someone who is”. And Mark Regnerus and Lila Rose blame and shame the man for putting a stable marriage – which is better for God’s purposes in the world – above the woman’s desire to avoid accountability.

It’s important to note that neither of these “Christian” men care what the Bible says about best practices for marriage. Their real religion is female entitlement and female lack of accountability. And when their real religion conflicts with the Bible, the Bible loses.

Conclusion

There are morally good Christian men out there with multiple STEM degrees, 6-figure incomes, 7-figure net worths, and evidence-backed Christian worldviews in action. But the young women who are being manufactured by the simp pipeline of weak Christian leaders, weak Christian pastors, and weak social conservatives are not helpful for our plans. And that’s why dating, marriage and child-rearing are in decline. Good men simply decline to enter into a bad deal.

I saw that Terrell Clemmons recently completed an 8-part series of posts on Science and Culture about the human body. This is not something that I talk about in my standard list of arguments against naturalism and for Christian theism. So, let’s take a look at this evidence and see if it is something for me to add to the list. And first, we will review the list to see what evidence is already in there.

So here is the current list of evidences:

1. origin of the universe
2. cosmic fine-tuning
3. origin of life (specified complexity)
4. Cambrian explosion (and other fossil record bursts)
5. galactic, stellar and planetary habitability
6. molecular machines, e.g. – bacterial flagellum
7. non-material mind, e.g. – split brain surgery
8. the waiting time problem

And you can always add philosophical arguments to the list, like the moral argument, if you work at McDonald’s and want to impress your co-workers.

Should we add the design of the human body to this list?

Well, let’s see what Terrell’s 8 posts are about.

1. The Spinal Column
2. The Laryngeal Nerve
3. The Eye (Retina Wiring)
4. Wisdom Teeth and Jaw
5. The Pelvis (Birth)
6. Faulty Reasoning by Evolution Advocates
7. How Academia Suppresses Dissent
8. The Human Body as an Argument for Designer

So, the first five are body parts. Had you heard about all of these? One of my friends contacted me about the laryngeal nerve article, shocked about how it relates to intelligent design. Well, I am not a big biology person, so I had not heard of any of them except for the wiring of the human retina.

This quote from the first one really appealed to me as an engineer who has debated evolutionists:

At Bristol University, engineering researchers have been studying the human vertebral column in order to copy design details and transfer them to bridge design. It is expected that bridges can be made more robust and efficient by copying details of the human spinal column. So at the same university we have the anatomy department claiming the human spine is a bad design, whilst the engineering department is improving bridge design by copying the optimal engineering of the human back! One department is basing claims on the philosophical predictions of macroevolution, whilst the other department is basing claims on physical reality and scientific testing. … From an engineering perspective, it’s common optimal design by a common designer.

The fifth article about the pelvis was new to me. What he had to say about that one did remind me of tradeoffs in software design:

The female pelvis is a good example of multi-objective optimization. … An engineer would say that the female pelvis is the perfect compromise, the perfect size. It’s just wide enough for a baby to be born, but it’s just narrow enough that women can run remarkably fast at sprinting and long-distance running. … If the female birth canal were any larger to make birth easier, running would be much more difficult because the legs would be too far apart. If the birth canal were any smaller, birth would be really difficult. So an engineer looks at the pelvis and says, it’s the perfect compromise. … Lucy Hyde cannot propose a better design. … No one has ever explained how childbirth could be better designed. In fact, in my book, I quote from research papers showing that it’s an incredibly well-designed process.

I don’t know how people can live in an age of information technology and not understand this. If you want to have a laptop, and you want to use it for software development, you might need things like Docker, an integrated development environment, virtual machines, build tools, etc. Maybe more. And all of that computational power is going to make your laptop more expensive. You can’t have everything! Performance costs more money.

The last one I wanted to talk about was in part 7. First, let’s see a quote and then I want to make a comment about this after:

Terrell: If it’s true that the evidence favors intelligent design, why do you think the evolutionary narrative persists — as in the article we’ve been discussing by Lucy Hyde, your anatomist colleague at the University of Bristol.

Stuart: There is a saying that “in China you cannot criticize the government, but you can criticize evolution; in the West you can criticize the government, but you cannot criticize evolution.” There is enormous peer pressure for academics not to question evidence for evolution.

I often speak with my academic colleagues about evolution, and they will often admit in private that the evidence is overwhelming for intelligent design, especially in areas like the origin of life. But you’re just not allowed to admit that in public. It’s an unwritten rule that you don’t support intelligent design in academia.

I had a good friend who was not a Christian, a really senior biologist. He was head of school, a world-leading microbiologist. And he said his colleagues have admitted to him that what’s most important to them is pay, promotion, pension, and parking. Those things are more important than evolution being right or wrong. People don’t want to stick their head above the parapet and say, “Hang on, the evidence points to intelligent design!”

Terrell: Truth is not the priority.

Stuart: Yes, sadly. It’s human nature. Academics want an easy life like most people do. And the easiest life is sticking to the current paradigm, not stirring things up but just sticking to accepting evolution. You’ve got that inertia. It’s very hard to change that inertia.

I have been doing a weekly Bible study with a wonderful Christian lady who has the most amazing Christian worldview. She is also very productive as a Christian apologist – writing, teaching and speaking. We have been going through the gospel of John.

The gospel of John is about how Jesus is constantly using “signs” (miracles) to prove to people that he is a reliable source of truth about who He is and what God the Father is really like. The big mystery in the book is why doesn’t everyone “believe the works” even if they don’t “believe the words”. Well, my friend and I have been talking about this. And one of the things we decided is that it is that it is often the case that people just don’t want to embrace views that will make them look “dumb” to their colleagues – even if they think their colleagues are factually wrong.

This is something I have faced myself in IT. Word gets around that I am a Christian, and even though I can wipe the floor with every other employee in terms of Christian apologetics, that doesn’t stop the gossiping. People talk about how you “hate women” for being pro-life. How you don’t want “gay people to marry who they love”. How you think that non-Christians “should be sent to Hell for failing a theology quiz”. And that stuff has caused me some setbacks in my IT career.

Last week, we studied John 12. So, I wanted to share this passage from John 12, which is one that was very significant for my hero and role model, Dr. Walter Bradley, in his famous lecture “Giants in the Land” (part 1, part 2).

John 12:37, 42-43: [NASB]

³⁷ But though He had performed so many signs in their sight, they still were not believing in Him.

⁴² Nevertheless many, even of the rulers, believed in Him, but because of the Pharisees they were not confessing Him, so that they would not be excommunicated from the synagogue;

⁴³ for they loved the approval of people rather than the approval of God.

I wanted to highlight this, because it’s becoming more and more obvious that there are very good reasons for people to decline to be a follower of Jesus even when they cannot beat the evidential case. We are living in a time of mob hysteria over fashionable mythologies. Why do well-educated people believe that surgeries can change a man into a woman or a woman into a man? Because they don’t want to lose the approval of their colleagues. Because there is a lot of money to be made. Because they don’t want to miss out on “pay, promotion, pension, and parking”.

Think about it. What Jesus requires is not the right answer to a theology quiz. You are expected to pay a price in loss of reputation in order to “follow the leader”. I don’t think you should do this naively. By all means, do the best you can at education and career and finances. Stuart himself is only able to say the things he says because he is at the top of his field in engineering.

In part 7, he says:

I’ve had a big advantage because I’m based in engineering. Had I been based in biology, I would have had a completely different life. I doubt I would have kept my job! I’ve had a lot of support from my engineering colleagues and my bosses, including head of school and dean.

Yes, you have to take care to answer questions honestly about who you are and what is important to you. But that does not mean that you have to live a reckless kind of a life, getting a degree in English, running up student loans, traveling to Europe, and buying luxury items to impress your friends. Save your money, write and podcast using an alias, be careful about your social connections, and make yourself a “hard target”. Boldness doesn’t come from piety or from feelings. It comes from knowing that you have made great decisions to protect your own supply lines.

Conclusion

So, should we add this evidence to the list? I would be willing to do it if I had the book, thoroughly understood the evidence and could recall the evidence in a conversation. Although, you know what they say about walking in the forest with an atheist and you meet a bear. You only have to outrun the atheist. I don’t think my atheist co-workers are studying evidence.

Further study

Finally, there is a nice lecture about this material from – where else? – the 2026 Dallas Conference on Science and Faith:

I highly recommend those conferences. If you missed them, they have all the past lectures on YouTube. And they have the conferences every year.

Everyone is doing a great job of sharing clips of Francesca Hong, the current  front-runner in the Democrat primary for Wisconsin governor. But what about the Tennessee governor? Some people are saying that Marsha Blackburn isn’t as conservative as John Rose or Monty Fritts. Are they right? Let’s take a look at the candidates and see who would be the most conservative governor of the great state of Tennessee.

Well, for Marsha Blackburn, there is a long track record, trending conservative. I get my “conservative score” from the Heritage Foundation, which is the largest and most respected conservative think tank. You might remember that we had a couple of their scholars – Jay Richards and Lora Ries – on our podcast.

And here is what they have for Marsha Blackburn:

• Session Score: 98%
• Lifetime Score: 88%

State Senator

When I think of Marsha Blackburn, I think of her leading the fight against an attempt to legislate a state income tax in Tennessee (they don’t have one).

U.S. House of Representatives

In the U.S. House (2003–2019), she ranked among the most conservative members, backed the Tea Party movement, supported tax cuts, a balanced-budget constitutional amendment, and efforts to defund Planned Parenthood. I would say that her biggest concerns are tax cuts and pro-life. She also voted for the 2017 Tax Cuts and Jobs Act and has pushed to make those cuts permanent while introducing bills for across-the-board non-defense spending reductions. I like non-defense spending reductions, because I am a peace through strength guy. For example, I love that we are replacing our 40-year-old Ohio class ballistic missile submarines and our 40-year-old Los Angeles class attack submarines with newer models. I use these things in wargames, and the old ones we are not great against China and Russia.

U.S. Senate

When she got elected senator (2019-present), she helped repeal the military’s COVID-19 vaccine mandate. Also good on border security and immigration enforcement. She supported requiring ICE to arrest and detain illegal immigrants who commit crimes. She has championed DNA/fingerprinting requirements at the border to combat child exploitation and trafficking. She voted to strengthen state and local law enforcement against criminal illegal aliens. And she has opposed CRT in schools, pushed to curb teachers’ unions’ political influence, and supported school choice. (More on the education issue in a minute – this is the big difference between the candidates)

John Rose and Monty Fritts

So, what about her rivals – John Rose and Monty Fritts. Well, I scanned the Tennessee Conservative and the Tennessee Star, and found some interesting new stuff has come out about John Rose this week.

Tennessee Star:

Campaign finance records reviewed by The Tennessee Star reveal U.S. Representative John Rose (R-TN-06) donated to multiple Tennessee Democrats who were in favor of establishing a state income tax during the pivotal political fight between 1998 and 2002 that culminated in Tennessee passing a constitutional amendment banning the income tax in 2014.

Rose donated at least $19,000 to Democrats between 1998 and 2010, with several of those Democrats involved in the unsuccessful 2002 effort to pass a law to establish a state income tax on ordinary earned income in Tennessee. Never in the history of the state has it imposed a tax on ordinary earned income, an aspect of the state’s governance that many economists attribute as a key factor in its ongoing economic growth.

Blackburn led the successful fight to kill the income tax. Rose was writing checks to the Democrats who were trying to impose it.

But it’s worse than that – he votes for Democrats in Democrat primaries:

Election records reviewed by The Star also reveal Rose has participated in three Democratic primary elections since 2000.

Rose’s first recorded vote in a Democratic election occurred on May 7, 2002, when he completed a Democratic Party ballot during the DeKalb County primary election for county offices.

Records show Rose next participated in Democratic electoral politics on February 10, 2004, during the Democratic presidential preference primary as Democrats sought to unseat former President George W. Bush, who nonetheless won Tennessee and cruised to reelection with comfortable majorities.

That right there disqualifies Rose, but there’s still more below on education policy.

I should note that Tennessee Star also had a recent story about Rose’s strange stock trading and tax returns.

But the real differentiator between Blackburn, Rose and Fritts is education policy. Tennessee has a weird fascination with public education and teacher unions, so much so, that even Republicans side with public schools and teacher unions, protecting them against accountability to parents. I remember in 2022, Beth Harwell, a left-leaning Republican, ran against Andy Ogles who I blogged about yesterday. She was a former speaker of the House in Tennessee, and was endorsed by the Tennessee Edcation Association – a teacher’s union. So there is a lot of leftism among Tenessee Republicans on this education policy issue.

Education policy

My source for the information below is the Tennessee Firefly, which is an independent, non-partisan source for information on education policy. I care about school choice because I don’t want poor children stuck in failing schools and I don’t want parents having to pay teachers who just turn around and fund far-left teacher unions with their union dues. I certainly don’t want public school teachers being paid more than they already get!

Here is what they say about the candidates on athat school choice issue.

School Choice and Education Freedom Scholarships (EFS)

Marsha Blackburn strongly supports expanding school choice – she likens the fight for school choice to her famous fight against the state income tax. She also supports expanding charter schools.

John Rose supports school choice but he also supports putting a public school teacher in charge of education policy AND increasing spending on public schools. Like Blackburn, he supports expanding charter schools.

Monty Fritts wants to end the school choice program, which is what the Democrat candidate also wants to do.

Conclusion

John Rose donates to Democrats, votes in Democrat primaries, is weaker than Blackburn on expanding school choice, and supports public education and teacher unions. Monty Fritts opposes school choice.

So, I think Blackburn is the best choice for conservatives. I’m delighted to see people endorsing Marsha, like Robby Starbuck, Senator Bill Haggerty, Congressman Tim Burchett, Congressman Matt Van Epps, former Congressman Mark Green, and the NRA Political Victory Fund.

Anti-woke warrior Robby Starbuck interviewed Marsha Blackburn:

If you’re in Tennessee, make sure you get out there to vote for Marsha Blackburn on Thursday, August 6th. Find your polling location here. And be proud that Tennessee is rated #1 in the country for election integrity.