New study shows that same-sex unions are less monogamous than heterosexual unions

Story from the radically leftist New York Times.


New research at San Francisco State University reveals just how common open relationships are among gay men and lesbians in the Bay Area. The Gay Couples Study has followed 556 male couples for three years — about 50 percent of those surveyed have sex outside their relationships, with the knowledge and approval of their partners.

That consent is key. “With straight people, it’s called affairs or cheating,” said Colleen Hoff, the study’s principal investigator, “but with gay people it does not have such negative connotations.”…

None of this is news in the gay community, but few will speak publicly about it. Of the dozen people in open relationships contacted for this column, no one would agree to use his or her full name, citing privacy concerns. They also worried that discussing the subject could undermine the legal fight for same-sex marriage.

Maggie Gallagher writes in National Review:

I do not think same-sex marriage will serve child well-being in any appreciable way, and I don’t think there is much sign that that is the goal. The gay community is by and large supporting same-sex marriage as a right, not as a norm at all. Relatively few same-sex couples enter same-sex marriages and the dissolution rates (at least in Sweden, where we have hard data) are extraordinarily high (roughly 50 percent higher for gay men, 100 percent higher for lesbian couples).

Same-sex marriage is primarily an attempt to serve the dignity interests of gay people. It represents the government’s good housekeeping seal of approval on the idea that their relationships are the same as anyone else. Let’s not fool ourselves; we’re not doing this for the kids.

My previous post on why people favor traditional marriage is here. It talks about another study showing the differences between same-sex and heterosexual couples.

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5 thoughts on “New study shows that same-sex unions are less monogamous than heterosexual unions”

  1. I think that Maggie gal is onto something: there seems to be an inherent good for children whose parents remain monogamous. (And divorce can have very extreme effects for children.)

    Contrast that with gay relationships which are often “open” … how can that be good for children of gay “parents”?

    Another thing I don’t get is that with the open-relationship lifestyle of the gay and lesbian community, why do they want marriage when marriage is all about remaining monogamous? Is it for respect? Yet the normality of marriage is that it remains monogamous – that’s what’s respected. Even if gay marriage were permitted, how, based on the above articles you cite, can it be respected in the same light as traditional marriage?


  2. The New York Times article also included evidence of this being a growing trend among heterosexual relationships as well. It would be useful if we’re talking about the importance and relevance of marriage to include this fact as well.


    1. I agree. I actually think that things like unilateral divorce and cohabitation are huge threats to marriage, bigger than SSM. My concerns about SSM are more related to freedom of speech as well as the impact on children.


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