Before you marry, have enough money saved to keep your kids out of public schools

Women react to Clinton loss
Women react to Clinton loss

My friend William shared this excellent article from The Federalist, which talks about how public schools, under the influence of Common Core, are exposing children to pornography in order to advance a leftist culture agenda. The article has the stories of several heroic mothers who stood up to the school system and got the pornographic materials removed. Let’s look at one of them, and then I’ll comment on how public school administrators and teachers should be viewed, then I’ll comment on the issue of financing these public schools, then I’ll talk about planning for schooling of your children.

Excerpt:

In 2012, Lebanon, Oregon, mother of two Macey France began studying the nationwide implementation of Common Core. While looking through a document titled “Common Core Appendix B” that contained reading exemplars, Macey found the book, “The Bluest Eye” listed as an example of appropriate assigned literature for eleventh- and twelfth-grade students.*

France, a contributor to the website PolitiChicks, took to her keyboard and typed up a scathing condemnation of the book as not high-school appropriate, including quotes directly from the book, such as:

I am not putting pornographic excerpts from public school books on this blog, duh.

We continue:

As a result, her article “Common Core-Approved Child Pornography” was viewed and shared hundreds of thousands of times and Macey was nominated for a CPAC blogger award for Best Sunlight Post of 2013.

“This is when I first became a ‘target’ for the progressives who support public education and minimize parental rights,” said France, who had a hard time understanding how her well-researched, truthful article could make her the target of the kind of emotional, hateful rhetoric she experienced. It frustrated her to be personally attacked for wanting to protect her kids. It also frustrated her to find many parents who weren’t concerned about their teens reading “The Bluest Eye” because they believed school officials knew more about what was best for their children than they did.

“I was called names, accused of being backwards, racist [Toni Morrison is a black woman], ignorant, a flat-earther, and even received private messages on Facebook telling me how hateful I was,” France said. “I was first introduced to the phrase ‘white privilege.’ At one point, I was called Hitler. I was misunderstood and accused of wanting to ban and burn books [even though] I went out of my way to convey that I am not an advocate for banning literature. I am a huge parental rights advocate. I got the distinct impression I was not supposed to question the manner in which they [educators] related to my kids.”

My problem with public school is not that education school graduates are selecting high brow reading material that is above me. I love Shakespeare and Spenser and Dickens and Austen and other classical writers. The problem I have with public schools is that some of the teachers, and most of the administrators, have this agenda to break down traditional morality and sexualize children at earlier and earlier ages. This is part of the secular progressive agenda – they know that sexualizing children makes them less likely to become conservative, less likely to marry, less likely to have children who are raised by a mom and dad, and who are therefore more resistant to the will of the secular leftist government.

Public schools are leftist indoctrination seminaries

A good example of how this works can be found in the province of Ontario, Canada. There, the Liberal Party government is led by a lesbian woman who left her husband and children to move in with her lover. The Liberal Party decided to re-write the education curriculum so that it would be more in line with their supporters in the Sexual Revolution crowd, e.g. -secularists, LGBT activists, abortion providers, etc. And so, they hired a convicted child pornographer to re-write the curriculum. They didn’t see the public school’s priority as teaching children how to get the skills needed to find jobs that pay. They wanted the public schools to make children non-judgmental about the immoral behaviors of the selfish adults.

It’s very important for parents to understand that people don’t just find themselves in education programs and then in public schools by accident. Sometimes they are in there because they couldn’t find real work in the private sector. Sometimes they are there because they want to indoctrinate your kids with their left-wing ideology. You can’t assume that the people in public schools want to partner with you to pass on prudent and practical Judeo-Christian wisdom to your children. The public school monopoly attracts those who are looking for job security and insulation from the disapproval of their customers. It’s true that some teachers are there to educate students so they have useful skills in order to find good jobs. But in my experience, many of teachers aren’t, and most of the administrators aren’t.

Note: private school teachers and administrators have to compete with other schools, so they are sensitive to meeting the needs of parents. At least you have a choice about where you send your kids, so they have to care what you want for your kids, and how much you are able to pay.

Don’t vote for bigger government if you value quality education

So how do these public schools get their funding? Well, it’s simple. They appeal to voters by saying that the more they spend on public schools, the more children will learn. This actually works on voters who don’t bother to familiarize themselves with the facts:

Education spending has tripled since 1970
Education spending has tripled since 1970

The truth is that parents who want children to do well should always vote for smaller government, lower taxes, and the pushing down of decision-making in education policy to the state and local level. We shouldn’t be swayed by “it’s for the children” rhetoric, because throwing more money at the problem only gives us more sexual revolution indoctrination and more gay rights agenda. Most of the new money goes to administrators anyway – not to the teachers in the classrooms. You might think that the public schools are there to help your children to get a job, but that’s not what they public school administrators think they are there for.

Getting married? Make a plan to provide for your kids’ education

One final point. I am finding myself surrounded by male Christian apologists who want to get married, and who are not interested in being providers. They’ve spend their entire 20s in school as students, they’ve taken money from their parents, they’ve never worked a day in their lives, they have outstanding student loans, they have no savings, and yet they all talk to women they like about marriage. My view is that Christian men should not be allowed to talk to women – even to ask them the time of day or for directions – until they have a STEM degree, 2 years of private sector work experience, all debts paid off, a car and some savings. And why not? Well, for reasons like this article on the public schools.

The public schools are what they are, and Christian parents cannot rely on them to educate our kids. If a man is talking about marriage without having taken steps to get a STEM degree, STEM private sector work history, and an investment account that is added to every month, then he has no business talking to a woman about marriage. He has to be able to show her that he is serious about providing the children with homeschooling or a private school education. How parents plan to educate their kids is a major issue in marriage – it affects whether the children will be effective and influential, or not. A woman should not trust the promises of any man who has not taken practical steps in the past to prepare for the needs of his children in the future. She cannot accept intentions and promises that make her feel good, she has to see evidence of his ability to put aside his ambitions in order to provide for her and the children – that is his obligation as a man (1 Tim 5:8). A man who wants marriage should prepare well in advance for it by having a career that will allow him to earn and save so that his wife and children will not be threatened in their worldview more than they can bear. If he has to give up some student stuff and some ministry stuff in order to prepare for husband / father responsibilities, then he should do that – before the wedding day.

7 thoughts on “Before you marry, have enough money saved to keep your kids out of public schools”

  1. I’d challenge this advice, not because I don’t think it’s ideal — but because ideals rarely survive first contact with reality :) In my experience, it’s rare to find large-ish families (3+ kiddos) that can afford to pay for private school the whole way. Unless both the husband and wife are making a high income, there’s just no way you can pay for private school, save for college, save for retirement, and save for all of the other things a growing family needs. You have to prioritize and make some choices.
    In our case, we homeschooled them for a time, private schooled for a time, and most recently have found our small, rural public school to be good choice for our kids education. I think a lot of this depends on where you choose to live in general. Not all public school districts are the leftist hellholes that the headlines make them out to be. But certainly some wisdom and discernment is required as to determining whether your local public school would be a suitable environment for your kids.

  2. WK,
    GREAT topic. I think another aspect to look at is being intentional about not getting into debt. The big house, the expensive car, all of the “stuff” that our modern culture looks at as NEEDS are actually WANTS.
    We have 5 kids, 4 who have graduated from the public school system. I have never worked more than part-time, we live in an older home with a smaller mortgage, and we drive used cars that we pay cash for. Over the years, I became increasingly aware of high school children in our local public school system who were sexually violated by school employees. (athletic coaches,) These employees were allowed to “resign for personal reasons”, in exchange for a positive letter of recommendation, and move on to other local high schools and local colleges with no repercussions. You have to be involved in the school system to know that this stuff is going on, most districts don’t reveal this info as they don’t want to deal with the teacher’s union. Not ONE of these school employees was held legally responsible.

    In addition to this, I started paying attention to the district’s state assessment test scores. My youngest son’s 7th grade class as a whole had only 17% “meet or exceed” standards in math. Less than 50% of students ‘met or exceeded” standards in English. This is a small town that is predominantly white and located in a conservative area of West Michigan. ( Ted Cruz won the primary vote and Trump overwhelmingly won the Presidential vote in our community) To be honest, I was SHOCKED at the low scores as the school promotes itself as a successful district.

    We pulled our son prior to 8th grade and decided to homeschool. I was very nervous as I felt the weight of the decision and realized that our son’s future was dependent upon MY faithful efforts. He was scheduled as an 8th grader to take 9th grade Algebra 1 and receive high school credit for it at our local school. As I prepared for homeschooling, I had him take several assessment tests to see where we should place him. In evaluating him, I found “holes” in his math competency. I found a math program that broke Pre- algebra into 3 separate books; Pre-Alg. with Biology, Pre-Alg. with Economics, and Pre-Alg. with Physics. We added in a review of Decimals and Percents and Fractions before we moved on to Algebra 1 and other higher level math. When I think about the “holes” that he had in his math, WHY would the district have marked him as qualified to take the high school math as an 8th grader and how many other students were placed in that class that had no business being scheduled for that class. ( remember only 17% of my son’s class of almost 100 “met or exceeded” 7th grade standards, and my son was one of that 17)

    Point: your school system is probably not as “successful” as you believe it is.

    The other point I want to make is that we were able to make the decision to homeschool easily because we didn’t have a huge house payment, 2 car payments, or CC debt. I am not claiming great wisdom in this area as we have not been perfect in handling our finances over the years.
    I have never worked more than part-time as I am the product of a full-time working mom. I valued a relationship with my kids and being THE person to raise them over “stuff”. Believe me, I like “stuff’ just as much as anyone else. Having “nice stuff” is a powerful lure for all of us to have disordered loves. Because of my life experience, I chose to prioritize raising my kids over “stuff”.

    At the time we decided to homeschool, I was working 3 nights a week at a local fine dining restaurant as a server. I am grateful that we were in a spot not only financially, but time/vocation-wise. Since I had always been intentional about being home when the kids were home after school and in the summer, I could easily step into the role of a homeschool mom.

    Homeschooling has been one of the GREATEST gifts in our lives. It has changed our priorities and drawn us closer to each other as a family. Our values are the priority. My son’s education isn’t dictated by the slowest student in the class. I know exactly what he knows and how he is going to do on a test before he takes it. The books that we have read have shaped his heart, character, and thinking. We participate in a local homeschool co-op for drama. He has a Spanish tutor and has dual-enrolled at a local Christian College. More than once my son has thanked me for homeschooling him.

    We are blessed beyond measure. As I look back on our life, I’m grateful to God for convicting us in so many areas to be intentional and frugal. Because of those previous decisions, were able to choose to homeschool without the worry of how that choice might impact us financially.

    If anyone is interested in homeschooling. I would be thrilled to help you or answer any questions. I also recommend reading Ron Paul’s book The School Revolution and anything by John Taylor Gatto! Also check out and compare ACT/SAT test scores comparisons for homeschoolers, private school, charter school and public school. You are going to be surprised at the results!

  3. I also take exception, but only to one thing. Preparation for the future is excellent, but your equation leaves out the actions of a graceful Father who provides in spite of life’s unforseen changes of plans, getting on board late, and even our thoughtless lack of planning. It is nearly impossible to calculate the needs of the future. I say, be faithful and do as you are lead; take the next step and trust.
    A faithful young person should save and plan. But all is not lost for those who didn’t start preparing early enough.
    I speak from long experience. We raised and home educated six children on one income. The Lord provided as we had need.

      1. Thank you! Let me take it a step further. Our ability to persevere in homeschooling and living on one income was founded on conviction, and you must have that conviction, and be totally convinced that you are doing the right things in order to keep going. That conviction WAS that, in spite of my and our inadequacy–teacher training inadequacy, intellectual inadequacy, emotional inadequacy (homeschooling is emotionally very difficult), OR financial inadequacy…God would provide His strength where we were weak. And He always did.
        The kind of “preparation before you begin” mindset here is actually counter to the one I described. It would leave many a young person aging out hopelessly of a time which should be productive, a time of life which is better for stepping forward in obedience than shrinking from the useful tasks because he hasn’t got enough in the bank yet.
        I think this mindset really has an upper-class, high income secular root

    1. madblog,

      I agree. I believe God opened our eyes gradually to what our children were being exposed to while simultaneously convicting us to be frugal. I would love to claim that I had the intentional foresight and preparation that WK describes. God has definitely moved in our lives and prepared us in ways that we didn’t immediately recognize.

      I LOVE WK’s recognition that we can and should plan ahead. I wish that someone had encouraged me to have a long vision and plan 30 years ago. If I could have a re-do, I would home educate all of our kids, not just our youngest.

  4. Our public high school has a cafeteria with slate floors imported from Italy. Our public school buildings are replaced about 2 to 3 times as frequently private school buildings. The whole idea of spending even more for public school sickens me.

    The problem I have with the curriculum is not only what they teach but what they leave out, I’m thinking of history in particular.

    What was the historical relationship between Christianity and Science? Well they will choose the Galileo as an illustration even though that was the *only* example of any scientist being persecuted for a scientific view. In fact the majority of scientists during its birth were very devout if not actual clergy! The exceptions become the rule in order to fit their agenda.

    The same goes for how we will learn about other events such as the Crusades, Islamic expansionism, the inquisition (as opposed to other crude forms of punishment of the time or as opposed to much more massive scale atrocities of more recent atheist dictators). So much of what I was taught was horribly slanted.

    That said I am not sure that private schools are much better. They were taught by the same people I was. Everyone really just needs to start learning the truth so they can have a better understanding of what a wonderful impact our religion has had on the world.

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