Are women held to a different standard than men under the law?

I came across these 3 news stories that illustrate 3 concerns I have about how the law favors women over men in many areas.

Woman released without charges after shooting husband dead

Story here.

Excerpt:

A justice of the peace has ordered the release of a woman arrested in connection with the shooting death of her husband because no charges have been filed.

Las Vegas police arrested Ericka McElroy on Oct. 7 outside her southwest Las Vegas home. Her 37-year-old husband, Shane McElroy, died after being shot in the chest. Police said the two had allegedly been in a domestic dispute.

Woman gets 20 days of jail after making false rape accusation

Story here.

Excerpt:

A 20-year-old Valparaiso woman has pleaded guilty to falsely reporting that a Valparaiso man raped her, county police said Thursday.

Erica Donohue was sentenced to 180 days in jail, although most were suspended. She is to serve 20 days in jail and 10 days of community service.

Donohue said that on July 15, an acquaintance raped her in a rural area.

Porter County Detective Gene Hopkins investigated the case, and the evidence he gathered — including a video of the consensual act — convinced prosecutors to issue a warrant for Donohue, who was arrested Sept. 29.

She eventually admitted to making up the story about the rape, to hide where she had been from a person with whom she was in a relationship.

Woman wants $1.5 dollars in per year in child support

Story here.

Excerpt:

Sitting on a makeshift stand before the court, Nantz grew teary as he testified, blaming the marriage’s demise on his wife’s lavish spending habits, as well as what he claimed was a lack of support for his career, the paper reported.

Nantz’s wife, who is seeking alimony as well as more than $1.5 million-per-year in child support for the couple’s 15-year-old daughter, Caroline, has stated that she wants to keep the family’s six bedroom home in Westport, Conn. The family also owns a condominium at a ski resort in Utah, according to the Connecticut Post. Lorrie Nantz said that she wants to care for the child’s daughter even though she has a full-time nanny.

While court papers merely say that the marriage broke down irretrievably, Nantz told Superior Court Judge Howard Owens that while he was traveling around the country for work, his wife stayed home and went on excessive shopping sprees, the paper reported.

In nine years, Lorrie Nantz spent close to $1 million at a high-end clothing and jewelry store in Westport, Conn., the Post reported.

Last month she bought a $12,000 necklace at the posh store, but when pressed on its description, she could not remember details.

These stories are actually not uncommon. They are all from the last few days, and there are more stories like them every day. The lesson I am taking away from this is that the law is very hostile to men. It’s something that men don’t really talk about in public, and I wonder why that is the case.

Here’s my previous post on the parity of male and female rates of domestic violence, my previous post on the recent surge of domestic violence committed by women in Australia, as well as a new story on the surge in child abuse by intoxicated single mothers in Finland.

5 thoughts on “Are women held to a different standard than men under the law?”

  1. Look at sexual misconduct with under age boys. They are seldom charged,almost never convicted and when they are their sentence is always short and very light when compared to men!!

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  2. What I find absolutely shocking is the kind of disparity in issues such as these between the West and the East. Nope, I am not denying that women misuse the laws to falsely charge men in the East. It happens in mt country and recently the Supreme Court of India warned off women from misusing the law because it affects both men and the women who really in need of the laws. But then again, I’ll cite a case which happened in my state which supposedly shocked the nation (I am surprised that it shocked the nation because female infanticide happens all the time in my country!). A lady, along with her mother, heartlessly killed her twin girl babies a week after they were born. The reason? The fact they were girls and her husband wouldn’t live with her if she went home with not one but 2 baby girls. And guess what happened? The lady and her mother was convicted, but her husband, who in my opinion was the cause for the twin murders, wasn’t! So what do YOU think we should do?

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    1. I don’t know. This is really really bad. My Indian co-workers say it’s because there is a culture that says that women need a dowry and fathers worry about that. I think my solution would be for women to work hard at thinking ahead to the kinds of skills they’ll need in a marriage, and also to work hard at thinking about what good men, the kind they want to marry, will want. In my own case, I have found that virtually all the women I’ve talked to have not though much about the things I am looking for, although some of them have excellent educations. My hope is that women would think ahead about the kinds of challenges they will face in marriage that will oppose the specific goal of loving their husband and raising Christian children. In the West, it’s worse because women seem to be content to hand their children off to strangers to raise, and they are not nearly as involved in the child’s education as Eastern mothers.

      I have already written on what I am looking for. I think that women in India go through school and get good grades, but I don’t feel that the quality of studying to support a Christian worldview is as good. It’s not good here either. Women are just terrible at apologetics here, and there is not much reading going on on things like social policy, economics, philosophy of religion, science that relates to Christianity, etc. (Obviously, you’re excluded, Shalini) Also, I have found that women shy away from being led by men on these issues, preferring instead to insist on unconditional love from men, and hoping that the marriage and child-raising will work out despite the secular socialist state invading the family.

      On the other hand, part of the problem is that men are stupid and evil and cannot tell what is good for them in the long term. This causes women not to look into the things that matter to men in the long term. Men today have no idea about wanting to influence the culture and pass their worldview on – they are so focused on hedonism that they have no time for thinking about what’s good for God. Instead of wanting to interrogate women to see whether they measure up, men want to use women and then throw them away. And women naturally adjust to this reality, focusing on things like appearance and making money and being good at sex. It’s a mess.

      I think it’s good that a lot of Christian men also like apologetics because it’s aggressive, but they not really good how to connect their aggressive nature to things like economic policy, marriage, family, parenting and social policy in a Christian context. What this means is that they do not treat their relationships with their wives and children as a means of having an influence on the world in favor of the kingdom of God. Men don’t have plans, and they don’t see women as helpers in their plans. And they don’t see the worldviews of their children as part of their plan.

      You know who does a really good job on all these things? Neil Simpson. He has everything covered. My friends Andrew and Jen are the best couple I know – the existence of Jen is the best argument FOR marriage that I can think of, speaking from a man’s point of view. if anyone can have read the things that she has read, and engage in the kinds of activities that she is involved in, marriage cannot be totally irrational. But there are so few like her.

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      1. “I think my solution would be for women to work hard at thinking ahead to the kinds of skills they’ll need in a marriage, and also to work hard at thinking about what good men, the kind they want to marry, will want.”

        That would work if we have your kind of marriage system. But we don’t. Now consider me. You know that I am quite well educated, and I take interest in lot of things happening around me, especially things which I feel are essentially tied up for defending my faith as a Christian. But even I, as a woman who hails from a conservative Indian household, cannot choose my husband-to-be. The choice I have would only be from the people whom my parents choose for me and with a 30 day courtship, I can hardly try to decipher whether my fiance really has a vision at all much less try to know and understand his vision. Sadly, most women in India don’t even have the luxuries that I enjoy.

        “I think that women in India go through school and get good grades, but I don’t feel that the quality of studying to support a Christian worldview is as good. It’s not good here either. Women are just terrible at apologetics here, and there is not much reading going on on things like social policy, economics, philosophy of religion, science that relates to Christianity, etc.”

        I am not going to argue with you on that. On the contrary, I’ll say that applies to Indian men as well and if I may, most Western men as well. In India, the culture requires us to work hard on our survival instincts. But still amidst everything we try doing the best we can. As for women being less interested in apologetics or anything else you’ve mentioned, guilty as charged. But so are most men. Do you seriously think there are a lot of men like you or Neil or your friends? The truth is the answer to that would be ‘No’.

        As for your next paragraph, you can’t be more correct than that. See, WK, the feminism at it’s root, I believe, started with protecting women from the atrocities that has been happening to them for ages now and in some parts of the world, it’s still rampant. What you should be worried about is ‘radical’ feminism where women start treating all men as their public enemies! I guess, because of all the tortures women endured for ages, women of the West are quite defensive now and there are still men out there who only care for looks over intelligence. As long as women are not respected, women turn defensive first, then turn to passive-aggressive and then eventually completely hostile to everyone else. They live in absolute rebellion because they have been victimized before they like playing victim forever. And as long as most men don’t even try understanding and respecting a woman for what she’s worth, they’ll continue to be defiant. It’s a vicious cycle and such a sorry state we’ve brought ourselves to.

        And I have the greatest admiration for Neil Simpson as well and that’s why I keep urging you not to write off marriage because seeing Neil, I feel you could and should have such a life too! And from what I’ve heard about your friends Andrew and Jen, am glad you have people who help you not to lose hope. Granted, there might only be a few Jens out there, but the very fact there are at least a FEW rather than none is by it self something is all am saying! :)

        Sorry for the long comment BTW!

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