I think the main cause of the desire for legalized abortion, is that women and men do not want to take responsibility for their actions.
The sexual act always has a chance of making a baby. If people who are having sex are not ready to take care of a baby, without the government’s help, then they should not have sex. We should not take chances with other people’s lives just so we can do risky things that make us feel good. The needs of grown-ups to feel good does not trump the right to life of another (unborn) human being. We have to sometimes give up things that make us feel good in order to avoid harming others.
I think the reason why people push abortion is because they want to believe that pre-marital recreational sex is normal. The people who push these policies are often those who had sex themselves before they were married, perhaps because it was fun (men) or perhaps because they wanted attention from the opposite sex (women). They wanted the recreational sex to feel good, but didn’t want to be saddled with the consequences of their desire for happiness.
I think the solution is to replace recreational pre-marital sex with chastity, courting and marriage. Men need to learn to control their desires, and make good decisions to prepare for being a husband and father, and get married, before they have sex. Women need to learn to do without male attention, to prepare themselves for having a husband and children, and to have sex only after they are married. Pre-marital sex isn’t an appropriate way for a woman to get attention from a man. There are other ways. And we should be training men to respond to those other ways. We should also be encouraging fathers to stay married and model love for their children by loving their wives.
We should not have any laws or policies that discourage men from preparing for their role of protector/provider/moral-and-spiritual-leader in a marriage. Sex education should not be subsidized or promoted by government because it makes children learn about sex outside of the context of marriage. And we should likewise not have any laws or policies that discourage women from preparing for marriage, by making husbands seem unnecessary to having and raising children. For example, we should end welfare payments for single mothers to make it clear that men are needed to provide for children, and that men should be selected by women for that role.
Children need a stable relationship with their married biological mother and father. So government has to promote marriage. Government may have to give up promoting third-wave feminism so that we can strengthen marriage, since third-wave feminism is opposed to marriage. We may need to to roll-back to first-wave (equal opportunity) feminism and give up the misguided quest to equate men with women in every area of life.
And we shouldn’t be pushing sex education as a way of removing the moral prohibitions on pre-marital sex. Those prohibitions were there for a reason and people who have pre-marital sex SHOULD feel bad. The solution is NOT to tell everyone that there is nothing wrong with it just because the people who do it want to feel better about themselves by making everyone agree with them. I think the left uses the public schools to beat down moral standards so that they will feel better about their own immorality. But immorality is harmful – and it’s better for young people to abide by traditional moral rules and avoid harming themselves and others than for grown-ups to avoid feeling bad for breaking those rules. Sorry grown-ups, but maybe it feels bad because it is bad – and stop trying to tell everyone that what you did was fine. It wasn’t fine. It was wrong.
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- John Piper’s questions to ask before you get married
- Does a man’s decision to marry negatively impact his service to God?
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3 thoughts on “What is the real issue in the push for legalized abortion?”
You forgot that abortionists and clinic workers think that thay are helping women have better lives, especially if they are poor or young or unfit parents.
Yes, many of them believe this. Many of them have bought into the lie that it’s “empowering” to women.
But of course, apart from the fact that abortion actually hurts women, they destroy a life for every child that is aborted. To do this they need to completely discount the humanity of the children whose lives they take. But to do that they need to ignore the things they see in the abortion clinic. I can understand how someone who doesn’t actually perform an abortion (say someone who does the accounts) can be deceived, if they believe the propaganda about a “blob of tissue”, but I don’t see how the abortionists can be deceived. They see the child they destroy. They wield the instruments of destruction. There must be either some form of severe cognitive dissonance or simply great evil in the hearts of those who do such things.
Hitler thought he was doing great things for the German people back in the day too. But at what cost…?
Good post, WK.