I found a really interesting article in The Daily Signal, in which a mother explains how her daughter got into transgenderism, and how the mother got her out. When I read the story, I thought about how most mothers would not have the strength to do it. Most mothers tend to want their children to lead them, so the mothers will be liked This mom thought her daughter was wrong and fought her.

In the first part of the article, she talks about how her daughter got into the transgender lifestyle. The mom was very permissive and supportive, letting her daughter get exposed to all sorts of predators. Only later, when going through her daughter’s phone, did she realize her mistake:

I managed to get all of her passwords to all of her social media accounts. What I saw was jaw-dropping.

Almost everyone that she was conversing with was a stranger, except for the SacAnime friend, who sent her a self-made masturbation video. The discussions on the Discord platform online involved fetishistic sexual conversations. Kids were sending each other erotica, including involving incest and pedophilia.

Older girls were instructing younger girls how to sell nude photos of themselves to men for money.

Girls bragged about their different mental illnesses. They talked about which drugs do what. They talked about how they are really boys, not girls. They discussed “top surgery” (that is, having their breasts removed) and “packers” that create a bulge in one’s pants to imply the presence of a penis.

My daughter’s electronic devices were filled with TikTok videos and YouTubers talking about how great they feel now that they had “transitioned.”

There were messages in which strangers told her to kick my head in because I was a “transphobe” for refusing to call her a male name.

What I liked was the mother’s response. I am really surprised to see this, knowing what I know about how badly mothers want to not judge, and be liked by their children.

I went nuclear. I took the phone and stripped it of all social media—YouTube, Instagram, Discord, Reddit, Pinterest, Twitter. I even blocked her ability to get to the internet. I deleted all of her contacts and changed her phone number.

I sat next to her while she “attended” school online via Zoom. I deleted YouTube from the smart TVs and locked up the remotes. I took every anime book from her room. I threw away all of her costumes. I banned any friend who was even the slightest bit unsavory.

I involved the police about the porn. I printed out the law and informed her that if anyone sent her porn, I would not hesitate to prosecute.

She hated me like an addict hates the person preventing her drug fix. I held my ground, despite the constant verbal abuse.

After going through seven mental health professionals, I found an out-of-state psychiatrist who was willing to examine the causality for my daughter’s sudden trans identity.

I immersed myself in reading everything on the issue, talking to other parents and other professionals. I worked unceasingly to re-create the bond she and I used to share.

After a year and half of utter hell, my daughter is finally returning to her authentic self—a beautiful, artsy, kind and loving daughter.

I am not sure what the actual ingredients for the magic potion were for alleviating gender dysphoria in my daughter. The formula will vary, but what I did was, after a very brief misstep of using a male name, our family and all of the adults in my child’s life only used her birth name and corresponding pronouns.

We did not permit social transition, although we could not control the school setting. Unbelievably, our local Catholic high school refused to follow our edict.

She links to some helpful books that you should know about it you are facing the same problems with your children.

If there’s one lesson to take from this, it’s that parents should know that letting children be influenced by their peers is a recipe for disaster.

I blogged before about a Brown University study showing how transgenderism often happens quickly, as a result of peer pressure or social media pressure.

This month, a Brown University researcher published the first study to empirically describe teens and young adults who did not have symptoms of gender dysphoria during childhood but who were observed by their parents to rapidly develop gender dysphoria symptoms over days, weeks or months during or after puberty.

[…]The study was published on Aug. 16 in PLOS ONE.

The schools, counselors and hospitals are often against the parents. This story from Canada is typical of how schools handle parents who disagree with transgender grooming. Teachers see their primary goal as grooming children to fulfill the desires of sexual predators – they call this “compassion”. Once you realize that they think sexualizing your child is their goal, you’ll know how to respond to them. They are moral relativists. They don’t know right from wrong. They only believe in “compassion” – giving predators your children, in order to be liked by the predators.

If you listened to the recent episode of the Knight and Rose Show about “Women and Islam“, then you heard us talk about the epidemic of sex-trafficking in the UK. In the show notes, I talked about some of the cities where this happens. The UK elected the secular leftist Labour Party, who imported unskilled young men from Middle East countries like Pakistan. What could go wrong?

Here is a recent story from the UK Times. (archive)

It says:

More than a thousand children were sexually exploited over at least 30 years in Telford amid “shocking” police and council failings, an inquiry has found.

Unnecessary suffering and child deaths might have been avoided had West Mercia police “done its most basic job”, according to findings published yesterday.

The inquiry found that child sexual exploitation “thrived” for decades in the Shropshire town, in part because of fears that investigations into Asian men would “inflame racial tensions”.

Children were brainwashed for years by men who bought them alcohol and cigarettes in what was described as a “loverboy” method to exploit them.

Tom Crowther QC, the inquiry chairman, said: “The overwhelming theme of the evidence has been the appalling suffering of generations of children caused by the utter cruelty of those who committed child sexual exploitation. Victims and survivors repeatedly told the inquiry how, when they were children, adult men worked to gain their trust before ruthlessly betraying that trust, treating them as sexual objects or commodities.

“Countless children were sexually assaulted and raped. They were deliberately humiliated and degraded. They were shared and trafficked. They were subjected to violence and their families were threatened. They lived in fear and their lives were for ever changed.”

The three-year investigation by the Independent Inquiry into Child Sexual Abuse (IICSA) found that more than a thousand Telford children were exploited “over decades”.

Witness evidence suggested that West Mercia police “dropped the case like a hot potato” if complaints were made against Asian families, because investigating them would have been “too politically incorrect”.

[…]Crowther said that one of the most shocking pieces of evidence he had read related to “what was described as a ‘rape house’, which it became clear had been operating for years”.

Girls were subjected in several cases to death threats against themselves or their families if they tried to put a stop to abuse, the inquiry was told.

The report said: “In some cases, threats were reinforced by reference to the murder of Lucy Lowe, who died alongside her mother, sister and unborn child in August 2000.”

In 2001, Azhar Ali Mehmood, a taxi driver, was handed four life sentences when he was jailed for the murders of Lucy Lowe, 16, Sarah Lowe, 17, and 49-year-old Eileen Linda Lowe.

Exploitation was “not investigated because of nervousness about race” and information was not properly shared among agencies, the inquiry found. Teachers and youth workers were “discouraged from reporting child sexual exploitation” and offenders were “emboldened”. Police and the council scaled down teams to “to save money”.

This isn’t the first time I blogged about grooming and sex-trafficking by men of Middle Eastern descent:

• Islam, rape, and sex-trafficking in European countries
• Muslim leader of underage sex-trafficking gang gets 22-year sentence
• Police and social workers ignored sex-trafficking, rape and abuse by Muslims
• Telford sex-trafficking ring involving up to thousand children was run by “Asian” men
• Middle Eastern men who ran Oxford child sex-trafficking ring found guilty
• UK police knew about Muslim child sex gang but refused to prosecute
• UK authorities ignored gang of Muslim pedophiles who raped more than 1400 children
• In the UK, which crime is worse? Sex trafficking, gang-rape or hate speech?
• Members of another UK-based Middle Eastern men sex-trafficking ring sentenced
• Underage teen girl forced into daily sex by Muslim “grooming” gang in Rotherham, UK

As the chart below shows, Christianity is dead in the UK. It’s been replaced by secular leftism. And, as documented in Douglas Murray’s “The Strange Death of Europe”, it was the secular left that opened the borders to the Middle East. They did it in the name of diversity and inclusion. The secular left wanted to destroy Christianity and conservatism, so they imported people who denied Christianity and opposed conservative beliefs.

As we noted in our podcast on the rationality of moral behavior, secular leftists understand morality to be about feeling good, and  looking good to others. Their worldview tells them that the universe is an accident, and that human beings are machines made out of meat. To them, human rights is nonsense, and free will is nonsense on stilts. There is no standard of morality that governs their conduct. They are just adopting whatever rules are in effect in their tribe.

The secular leftists in the UK enacted secular leftist policies – open borders, multiculturalism, diversity, inclusion. And when those policies produced the results you see, their response is to ignore the victims and cover it all up. They have speech codes that make it impossible to criticize the effects of their policies. They arrest people for talking about the crimes. They don’t arrest the people who commit the crimes. That is the “morality” that works best for them, their careers, their happiness, their popularity in their tribe.

Whenever I bring up the problems with morality for the secular left, they tell me what great objective morality they have. “We believe that rape is wrong” they say. “We believe that slavery is wrong” they say. Those are the words. But what are the actions? What are the results of the actions? It wasn’t William Lane Craig and Stephen C. Meyer making laws and culture in the UK for the last 30 years. It was the secular left. The Labour Party and the Liberal Democrats have been running things for decades. And the Conservative Party, if they ever win, doesn’t push Christian moral values. That’s dead.

Don’t listen to the words of secular leftists. The words are designed to paint a picture that makes them socially acceptable. Look at the consequences of their actions, especially for unborn children and fatherless girls. You cannot get a functioning moral system from an accidental universe and “survival of the fittest”. If you’re looking for a rational basis for self-sacrificial love for the weak, then you’re looking for Christianity. We do that. And there’s a price to pay for attacking Christian values and beliefs. When we go underground, the weak in society suffer. Our moral values block the strong from harming the weak.

This story actually came out on July 1st, but I have been a little busy writing podcast scripts, and didn’t have time to blog about it. I thought it was an interesting story, because it really shows how far left the public schools have gone down the “don’t judge” road. Now, they are actually punishing male teachers who warn students about the long-term risks of following social trends.

So, the first thing to say is that I wrote a previous post about how transforming is related to peer pressure. Basically, kids are wanting to transform because it provides them with social benefits, especially giving them immunity from being judged. But what’s interesting is how it is affecting children who don’t have depression or any social problems.

Check out this recent article from City Journal (the journal of the Manhattan Institute), which talks about what is really going on in schools:

Patricia (a pseudonym) is the mother of a teenage girl who in recent years has come to identify as transgender. She lives in California, considers herself progressive, votes Democrat, and leads a group for parents of children with rapid onset gender dysphoria (ROGD)—that is, youth who suddenly experience distress with their bodies and believe that undergoing medical “transition” will make them whole again. When I spoke to her recently, she recounted how her daughter’s at-first-lesbian and then trans identity emerged in response to feelings of shame about being white.

I have since spoken to more than a dozen ROGD parents and parent-group leaders who tell a similar story. Their schools compulsively tell their children how awful it is to be white, how white people enjoy unearned “privilege,” how they benefit from “systems” put in place by and for white people for the sole purpose of oppressing “people of color.” Plagued by guilt, the children—almost all of them girls—rush to the sanctuary of “LGBTQ+” identity. Once there, they are catapulted into hero status. According to Patricia, some teachers at her daughter’s school are more forgiving toward “queer” and “trans” kids who hand in their homework late.

The students, especially the girls, absorb this messaging. They are acutely sensitive to how identity affects their social status and academic fortunes. They want the warmth that comes with queer/trans identity, but above all they don’t want to be thought of as vicious oppressors.

What happens if a teacher tries to warn a student about transforming?

The Daily Caller has a story about that:

A Colorado teacher was disciplined after suggesting to a transgender student that the rise in transgenderism is a “trend” that some come to regret, according to documents provided to the Daily Caller from the educator.

The student wanted the teacher to help the student pass the course, and the teacher agreed to knock out some of the bad grades. Then the teacher, in a P.S., warned the student to do more research about the long-term consequences of transforming. He warned the student about permanent effects of treatment.

Here is what the school did to the teacher for telling the student to research the decision to transform:

Jefferson County Public Schools sent Vagos a letter of reprimand arguing that he violated the district’s policy of “harassment of students based on sexual orientation.” Vagos was told he can no longer use the word “trend” when discussing transgender ideology, according to the reprimand letter.

“Your response to this student and the provision of this link imparts a lack of support and reduces a student’s self-identification as being transgendered as a “trend” rather than something real the student is experiencing,” the letter read.

A substitute teacher was provided in Vagos’ absence as he underwent a “Gender Inclusion 101” training provided by the Jefferson County Equity, Diversity, and Inclusion team. Videos from the training included “Avery’s Story,” “Mom, I’m Not A Girl: Raising a Transgender Child,” and “What is a Gender Inclusive School?” Another training was provided by “Gender Spectrum.”

He made his career choice. Now it’s very difficult for him to transition into a private sector career with 15 years of experience teaching children. So he had to jump through their secular left hoops to save his job. He probably had a wife and kids to support. This is why I recommend to young people to do STEM degrees, and private sector jobs. You can always find work no matter what.

There was a time in my life when I wanted to be an English literature teacher more than anything. I won a couple of awards for best English literature student in high school (and a couple for computer science, too). I really liked finding the wisdom in classic literature – the real stuff: Shakespeare, Spenser, Austen, etc. But I can’t really recommend to Christians that they pursue a career in public education at this time. And I certainly don’t recommend that Christian parents put their children into public schools.

Whatever you are doing in your life, make sure you run the numbers and have enough for homeschooling or private Christian schools. Homeschooling is the better option. It won’t be cheap, but you can’t put Christian kids into public schools.