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New study: virgins have happiest marriages, more sex partners means more unhappiness

Although we live in a culture that is dominated by the thoughts and opinions of secular leftists, science provides useful information for those who want defend Biblical morality. Consider the issue of sexuality and marriage. Secular leftists claim that sex outside of marriage is natural, and produces happiness. Bible believing Christians and Jews say chastity is best. Who is right?

Here is the latest study authored by Dr. Nicholas Wolfinger, a sociologist at the University of Utah. His previous book on relationships was published by Oxford University Press. In his analysis of the data, Wolfinger controlled for divorce rates, religiosity, and socioeconomic status.

Here’s the most important graph:

Study: virgins have the happiest marriages, more partners means less happiness
Study: virgins have the happiest marriages, more partners means less happiness

Other factors that increased marital happiness: having a 4-year college degree (5%), having a salary > 78K (5%), regular church attendance (6%). Notice that women are more dissatisfied with marriage (in general) than men are, and they tend to blame the spouse they freely chose for that unhappiness.

The Federalist also reported on previous research relevant to this study:

Psychologists Galena K. Rhoades and Scott M. Stanley found that women who have had sex with someone other than their husband report statistically significant drops in marital quality over those who don’t. A 2004 study by sociologist Jay Teachman showed that intimate premarital activities such as cohabitation and intercourse increased the rate of marital dissolution by anywhere between 28 and 109 percent, depending on the activity.

Wolfinger also noted in a previous study that only 5% of women were virgins when they married.

Wolfinger noted that a possible explanation for the link between promiscuity and unhappiness is that people look back on their past partners and compare their spouse unfavorably to them. This is especially the case with women. My concern about this is that feminism has taught women to try to increase their social standing by having hook-up sex with attractive bad boys. If those women ever marry, they do it when they are older, less fertile, and less attractive. The husband they eventually “settle” for will (in their minds) always compare unfavorably to the hot bad boys they had sex with when they were younger and prettier. This, I believe, is what leads to their unhappiness with the man they chose to marry.

More partners also means more marital instability

In a previous post, I blogged about several studies linking virginity to marital stability. Couples who don’t have sex before marriage, or even who delayed it, reported better communication, higher satisfaction, better quality sex, and a lower chance of divorce.

Men ought to be aware of this research when they are choosing a spouse. Women initiate 69% of divorces, and the most common reason given is “unhappiness”. Well, now we know what’s causing that unhappiness – a high number of sexual partners prior to marrying. Smart men should prefer a virgin, for the increased happiness and increased stability. A large number of past sexual partners teaches women that relationships are engines for them to be happy, not commitments that are permanent and exclusive. They’ll have internalized the view that relationships are not commitments to invest in self-sacrificially. The pattern will be: “if it doesn’t make me feel happy right now, then it should be ended”. It will be seen as the man’s fault that she is unhappy, even if the study I talked about above shows the real reason is her past promiscuity. Men who aren’t serious about evaluating the character of the women for the marriage enterprise are running the risk of divorce, it’s that simple.

The best way to make sure that you have a clear head when evaluating a woman is to stay sober, and keep her hands off of you. When a man refuses to let a woman cloud his judgment with sex, then she is forced to learn how to love him in marriage-oriented ways, e.g. – help him, support him, and submit to his leadership. Male chastity encourages women who have been influenced by feminism to abandon selfishness, fun-seeking, and thrill-seeking, so that they learn to care for others. Male chastity also helps a man to resist older women who chose bad boys in their teens and 20s and want to get married to a good provider in their 30s. The studies discussed above clearly show that such women are more likely to be unhappy, and their future marriages are more likely to be unstable. Avoid them. You don’t want to be in a marriage to someone who isn’t very good at it, because she never prepared herself for it.

Which state is the most conservative?

In yesterday’s post, I looked at a few recent stories from the two best states in the country, Florida and Tennessee.  Each of these states seems to have fresh new “good news” stories for conservatives each and every day. When I think about the legislators who write these bills, especially at a time where Christians are losing everything, it really makes me feel respect for them.

Anyway, here is the latest news from Tennessee, as reported by the Christian Post:

A new Tennessee law will allow public officials to refuse to perform same-sex marriages if their religious beliefs make them unable to do so in good conscience.

Tennessee’s Republican Gov. Bill Lee signed into law House Bill 878 last Wednesday.

The Republican-controlled Tennessee Senate approved the bill in a 27-5 vote earlier this month after the House of Representatives passed the legislation in a 74-22 vote last year.

While the vote fell along party lines, one House Democrat joined all House Republicans in supporting the legislation.

Every. Single. Republican. Legislator. Voted. For. It.

This is why I have no patience for people who like to throw up their hands and say “both parties are the same” or “it doesn’t matter if you vote” or “I don’t pay attention to politics” or “I don’t like to talk about religion and politics” or “all the states are the same”. All they are doing is taking the easy road, and trying to sound like they know more than they actually do. The truth is that these things matter, and they matter a lot.

I have been working in America for nearly 25 years now, and these are the kinds of things I hear from men in the workplace – especially from men who chose secular left women to marry, because of how they looked. After they realize that their entire legacy has been ruined by a bad marriage, then they say things like this to explain why they are completely ineffective. First, they choose a wife based on what’s best for them. Then, they ignore politics, because that’s easier for them. Disgusting.

More from the article:

The bill’s text declares, “A person shall not be required to solemnize a marriage if the person has an objection to solemnizing the marriage based on the person’s conscience or religious beliefs.”

[…]Republican Rep. Monty Fritts, who sponsored the bill, argued before a subcommittee last year that “officiants must be able to refuse to solemnize marriages that are contrary to their beliefs” even as “societal views change about what constitutes a marriage.”

“The government has a responsibility to protect the exercise of religious beliefs,” he said. “Those with the authority to perform civil ceremonies would also be permitted to refuse to solemnize marriage for reasons of conscience.”

My favorite part of this story has to do with Representative Monty Fritts. I read an article about this legislation over at the far-left CNN, to see if they had an additional details.

And in that CNN article, it said this:

CNN reached out to Fritts for comment, but he declined a phone interview.

I have to say this again. If you are in a blue state, and you think that states like Tennessee are the same as your blue state, then you are wrong. Do not be like these men in my office who just want to dismiss politics and policy because it’s easier for them. Real men foresee future dangers, and they make plans and execute them in order to avoid those dangers. You need to make a plan to get a good education, then find a good job in Tennessee or Florida or Oklahoma, and move to one of these good red states. Do not be paying your taxes to governments that do not give you rights like these red states give you.

I left a nearly communist country in order to come to America, and I had to wait for many, many years to get a FT100 employer to sponsor me for my green card. Moving from one state to another for natural-born citizens is child’s play in comparison. Especially if you already have a work from home job. What are you waiting for? Things are only going to get worse in blue states as the government’s spending money runs out.

Is Tennessee a more conservative state than Florida?

Some people think that the formerly purple state of Florida is the best state. It seems like every day, you hear about some new conservative thing coming out of Florida’s excellent governor. Tennessee’s governor isn’t as good, of course. But who has the better legislature? I think that Tennessee has the edge there. Let’s see some of the latest conservative mischief.

Let’s do Tennessee first, starting with this Daily Wire article:

The Tennessee state House passed a bill on Monday that would prohibit the flying of any flag other than the American flag and a few other official flags in public school classrooms, legislation that was sparked by the prevalence of pride flags in recent years.

The bill states in part that it is prohibited for to display “a flag other than the following on or in a public school: (i) the U.S. flag; (ii) the official Tennessee state flag; (iii) a flag that cannot be disturbed or altered pursuant to the law relevant to Tennessee heritage protection; (iv) the POW/MIA flag,” and several other flags that are acceptable to fly in schools.

The bill, introduced by Republican state Rep. Gino Bulso, passed with a 70 – 24 vote along party lines.

Bulso brought the bill forward as a result of constituent parents who were concerned about the flying of LGBTQ Pride flags in class, reports The Tennessean.

On the House floor, Bulso rhetorically asked if parents have the right to teach a particular set of values to their own children.

“If you have parents across the state who want to instill in their children values represented by the pride flag, they are certainly entitled to do that,” he said. “On the other hand, if you have parents who want to instill values in their children that are not consistent with the values represented by the pride flag, they have the ability to do that.”

[…]Democratic members of the state House offered two amendments to the bill, both of which were rejected by Republican members.

[…]A companion bill in the state’s Republican-controlled Senate is expected to be voted on this week. If it passes, it will head to the desk of Republican Governor Bill Lee.

And this part is the key part – the very shocking part:

The bill also gives parents or guardians the right to file a lawsuit if the flag prohibition is breached by the schools.

Honestly, I don’t know if Bill Lee has the gumption to sign a bill that is so awesome. But can you imagine a state that is so amazing that it not only gets a bill like that to the governor, but the bill is supported UNANIMOUSLY by the Republicans? Whatever mistakes the Republicans are making elsewhere, Tennessee Republicans are not part of that. They are not doing “socialism, but more slowly”. They are moving things in a conservative direction.

Here’s another thing that the Tennessee lawmakers are up to, reported by Daily Wire:

Tennessee lawmakers heard on Tuesday the accounts of religious groups that had lost access to their bank accounts for what they suspect to be ideological reasons.

One group, the National Committee for Religious Freedom, had only had a bank account open with JPMorgan Chase for several weeks before the organization’s head and former Kansas Governor Sam Brownback attempted to make a deposit only to be told the account no longer existed.

[…]The National Committee for Religious Freedom was one of the groups warning about de-banking during testimony on Tuesday in support of a proposed Tennessee bill that would prevent banks from discriminating against people based on their political or religious views. The group testified in front of the Tennessee House of Representatives’ Subcommittee on Banking and Consumer Affairs at the Cordell Hull Building in Nashville.

Do you live in a state that isn’t Tennessee? Then you might get de-banked by the secular left. If those Canadian truckers had done their rally against health care mandates in Tennessee, then they wouldn’t be de-banked. But then again, they wouldn’t have had to do the protest, either, if they lived in conservative counties like Maury county. You just have to be careful where you live.

Just to put some numbers on this, Tennessee is ranked as the #1 most conservative legislature in the United States for all-time. Florida is #2 for all-time. If you have a work from home job, these are the states where you need to live and pay your taxes.

Speaking of #2 state Florida, let’s see what young DeSantis and his friends in the Florida legislature are up to. Are you worried about getting banned online because you disagree with Big Tech? Well, DeSantis has you covered, in the free state of Florida.

Florida Voice reports:

The U.S. Supreme Court Monday is hearing oral arguments for and against Florida and Gov. Ron DeSantis’ restrictions on massive social media, or “Big Tech” corporations aimed at protecting individuals’ speech.

[…]In 2021, DeSantis signed a new law implementing the following:

  • Giving Floridians the right to sue “Big Tech platforms” for monetary damages if users are not given proper notice of policy changes, and allowing them more rights to obtain their information if they are “deplatformed”
  • Allows the Florida attorney general to bring legal action for companies that violate new restrictions, such as standards on shadow banning, deplatforming, censorship and transparency requirements
  • Bars the platforms from deplatforming political candidates in Florida, and imposes $250,000 fines per day if a statewide candidate is deplatformed, and $25,000 per day for non-statewide offices

“Florida passed protections three years ago, for individuals who’ve been deep platformed or censored based on the content or viewpoint of their political speech,” DeSantis said Monday. “Texas passed a similar law. This has been making its way through the courts, we knew it was going to end up at the floor at the U.S. Supreme Court.”

“These tech companies, on the one hand, are private – and normally a private company can house whatever speech or viewpoints it wants. In this case, these companies get liability protection from the federal government, because they say that they’re not publishers, they’re not making editorial judgments about what speech is good and what speech is bad,” the governor said. “They’re just a platform.”

And that’s not all. According to a recent analysis, Tennessee has the highest score for election integrity in the United States. Florida was tied for second best. Florida isn’t giving up, though.

Take a look at this article from Florida Voice:

U.S. District Judge Mark Walker ruled in favor of an embattled 2021 Florida election integrity law that cracked down on ballot harvesting and strictly regulated how ballot drop boxes can be utilized.

The judge said Florida’s restrictions do not keep Floridians from voting, according to the Associated Press.

Walker ruled that the voting rights groups challenging state law did not adequately show that the drop box regulations burdened voters enough to unduly disenfranchise anyone.

The decision also upheld the law’s stricter provisions on third-party voter registration.

[…]“Floridians can rest assured that our state will remain a leader in ballot integrity. Elections should be free and fair, and these changes will ensure this continues to be the case in the Sunshine State,” Gov. Ron DeSantis said when he signed the bill in May 2021.

Tennessee better do something, or they are going to lose their #1 ranking to Florida in the next State Super Bowl. How about you? Do you live in one of these red states? Do you wake up every morning laughing at the U-Haul in front of the house with the Democrat “in this house” sign on it? You need to live in a state that takes out the trash. Make a plan, and then make your move.