I’ve been posting a lot about people in the public schools who expose children to danger, then attack parents who question what they are doing. I found a story about this for this post. I also have a new study that shows that respectfully disagreeing with children about transgenderism does not cause them to harm themselves. Then I want to talk about the root cause of these problems.
Let’s start with the UK Daily Mail:
A California mother says the government wrongfully took away her daughter, pushed the girl into transitioning to male, and is to blame for his suicide age 19.
Andrew Martinez, born Yaeli, stepped in front of a train on September 4, 2019.
[…][The] bereaved mother Abigail Martinez accused her Los Angeles County school of encouraging Yaeli to take hormones and undergo gender reassignment surgery as a child, while failing to properly treat her severe depression.
Martinez, 53, a mother of four, claimed school staff told Yaeli not to speak to her mother about transgender issues, but secretly had her join an LGBTQ group that persuaded the girl that the only way to be happy was to transition.
The El Salvador-born mother said an older trans student ‘coached’ Yaeli on what to tell social workers to put her into foster care, so that the state would pay for her gender reassignment.
[…]Martinez said one trans friend and their parents ‘coached’ Yaeli, persuading her to run away from home in July 2016 and tell the Department of Child and Family Services (DCFS) that her mother had slapped her in the face.
As in most of these cases, the child was depressed by her same-age peers. Children tend to focus on appearances, not achievements, because they have no achievements. They attack people who are weird or look different. This doesn’t happen in the workplace. That’s why parents should not place their children in schools where the opinions of peers are seen as very important. Bullying causes some children who would do fine in a workplace to get depressed. And then the schools and hospitals suggest transitioning as a “cure” for the depression they caused, by not reining in the bullies.
…the mother claimed it was Yaeli’s depression that was the problem, not gender dysphoria.
[…]Instead of proper treatment for mental illness, Martinez said her daughter was encouraged by the school and her LGBT support group to take hormones and pursue gender reassignment surgery, and cut Martinez out of the process.
There’s no father in the photo in the article. Mothers who want to protect their children from the state and the schools need to prioritize commitment-ability in men, not appearance and fun. The men with uncomfortably strong theological and moral beliefs are exactly the ones who tend to stick around.
Mothers often don’t want to make moral judgments the way that fathers do:
I didn’t want to be the mean mom to say ‘no no no.’ I wanted to give her the help she needed at that time.
Mothers want to be liked. Fathers want to lead.
The secular left authorities told the mother not to talk to her child about God:
‘On the visit days, when she came to my house, I was told not to talk about God,’ Martinez said. ‘They told me if you do that, you’ll never see your daughter.
Her taxes pay their salaries. She can work for money to pay them with her God-beliefs, but they tell her what she can and can’t say to her children with their atheist-beliefs. Atheists think they know better than parents.
Everyone thinks that Obama was such a great president, but actually, he is the one who put in these policies that turn government and schools against parents:
A former civil rights director for the federal Department of Health and Human Services Roger Severino… told DailyMail.com that he believes district officials were afraid of losing funding and desperate to show their pro-trans credentials after being sued by the Obama administration in 2013 for discriminating against a trans boy, and inappropriately pushed gender reassignment on children as a result.
People like to say that disagreeing with transgenderism will cause children to self-harm, but research shows that is false.
What do the studies show?
Here’s a recent post about Sexual orientation change efforts (SOCE) from the Christian Medical & Dental Associations by Andrè Van Mol, MD. SOCE refers to therapies that help people to change from same-sex orientation to opposite-sex orientation in sexual attraction, identity and/or behavior.
To recap, using a strongly representative sample of a United States sexual minority population in data from the Generations study of the Williams Institute, Sullins used several validated measures to assess behavioral harm from having experienced sexual orientation change efforts (SOCE, now preferably called SAFE-T).
The findings “demonstrated positive evidence of the absence of harm from SOCE therapy.” Specifically, “Those who had undergone [failed] SOCE were no more likely to experience psychological distress or poor mental health, to engage in substance or alcohol abuse, to intentionally harm themselves, or to think about, plan, intend or attempt suicide, than were those who had not undergone SOCE.”
Unfortunately, any time conservative Christian men like me try to bring some rational argument and scientific evidence to bear on these problems, we get attacked by the feelings-oriented people in government and schools.
Our society has no place for male leadership
Men have a vision for children – to know God, to be independent, to be responsible, and to enter into respectful, productive relationships with worthy people of the opposite sex. We try to point children in a good direction, but many people see our leading as wrong, because children don’t get their way.
I was once interested in marriage to a “conservative” Christian woman. She was very concerned by my plans to raise children who would be financially independent and effective at serving God. She wanted them to do what they liked. I explained that people who do what they like are unstable, and unable to help people around them. The funny thing was that she was deeply in debt after doing a degree in BALLET, and unstable in her own life. She didn’t see my stability and wealth as anything to respect. Children need to rule fathers, she said. Feelings are more important than facts.
I really think we need to be more respectful of male leadership, so that children will not become victims of “compassion”.
- Far-left students shout down father who lost his child to transgenderism
- American father loses parental rights after ex-wife announces their child is transgender
- LGBT fascism: father imprisoned for calling his biological child “daughter”
- Report: Teacher calls CPS on parents for refusing to gender their child “correctly”
- What would public school teachers do if your daughter was raped by a transgender student?
- Mom explains how she pulled her daughter out of transgender spiral
- UK parents accuse school of secretly brainwashing their child into transgenderism
- What is it really like for a young woman to regret her gender transition?
One thought on “Are schools right to “treat” depression in children by facilitating gender transitions?”
Well, we do know of one thing that works well in helping children with depression — intrinsic religiosity (i.e. real belief and action) in the parents, and in the children.
A zillion studies have shown this. A small sample of abstracts are below. Further, intrinsic religiosity is associated in youth with less drug use, higher resilience, better adjustment, initiate sexual activity at a later age, lower mortality and other huge benefits. In larger aggregate studies involving both younger and older people, intrinsic religiosity has about the same benefit with respect to mortality as quitting smoking.
But, that would require that people put the welfare of children above their hatred of God, and they can’t do that.
Increased attendance was associated with significantly reduced odds for mood disorder (by 43%) and any psychiatric disorder (by 53%) in all offspring; however, odds were significantly lower in offspring of non-depressed parents than in offspring of depressed parents. In analyses confined to offspring of depressed parents, those with high and those with average/low NLE exposure were compared: increased attendance was associated with significantly reduced odds for MDD, mood disorder and any psychiatric disorder (by 76, 69 and 64% respectively) and increased importance was associated with significantly reduced odds for mood disorder (by 74%) only in offspring of depressed parents with high NLE exposure. (NLE means “Negative Life Experiences”) Kasen, S., Wickramaratne, P., Gameroff, M., & Weissman, M. (2012). Religiosity and resilience in persons at high risk for major depression. Psychological Medicine, 42(3), 509-519. doi:10.1017/S0033291711001516
Maternal religiosity and mother-offspring concordance of religiosity were shown to be protective against offspring depression, independent of maternal parental bonding, maternal social functioning, and maternal demographics. LISA MILLER, VIRGINIA WARNER, PRIYA WICKRAMARATNE, MYRNA WEISSMAN,Religiosity and Depression: Ten-Year Follow-up of Depressed Mothers and Offspring, Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry,
Volume 36, Issue 10,1997,Pages 1416-1425,ISSN 0890-8567,https://doi.org/10.1097/00004583-199710000-00024.
Personal devotion and participation in religious community were associated with a 19% to 26% decreased likelihood of depression in non–highly mature girls and a relatively more robust 32% to 43% decreased likelihood of depression in highly mature girls. Personal conservatism and institutional conservatism were associated with a 17% to 24% decreased likelihood of depression among non–highly mature girls, but were not associated with depression in highly mature girls. LISA MILLER, MERAV GUR. Religiosity, Depression, and Physical Maturation in Adolescent Girls Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry Volume 41, Issue 2, February 2002, Pages 206-214
The aim of the current study was to assess the influence of intrinsic and extrinsic religiosity (Allport & Ross, 1967) in a sample of preadolescents and adolescents. Participants for the study were 694 African-American, European-American, and Hispanic-American students in grades 6 and 8. Students were interviewed in school regarding well-being and religiosity. The indiscriminately religious, or those scoring high on both intrinsic and extrinsic religiosity, had more positive scores on some psychological adjustment measures than those who were indiscriminately nonreligious. In addition, intrinsically religious individuals had significantly more positive scores on the psychological adjustment measures than those who were indiscriminately nonreligious. Avidan Milevsky & Mary J. Levitt (2004) Intrinsic and extrinsic religiosity in preadolescence and adolescence: Effect on psychological adjustment, Mental Health, Religion & Culture, 7:4, 307-321, DOI: 10.1080/13674670410001702380