What do the adult children of gay couples think about same-sex marriage?

This is from Life Site News.

Excerpt: (links removed)

Katy Faust, Dawn Stefanowicz, B.N. Klein, and Robert Oscar Lopez, who were all raised by homosexual parents, each submitted briefs to the 5th Circuit opposing the legalization of same-sex “marriage.”  Recounting childhood memories of households made deeply dysfunctional by their parents’ sexual appetites and the radical subculture that went along with their “gay” identities, all four argued that redefining marriage to include homosexual couples will likely lead to the exploitation and abuse of countless children for political and personal gain.

“I grew up with a parent and her partner[s] in an atmosphere in which gay ideology was used as a tool of repression, retribution and abuse,” wrote B.N. Klein of her lesbian mother and her series of live-in lovers. “I have seen that children in gay households often become props to be publically [sic] displayed to prove that gay families are just like heterosexual ones.”

[…]While Klein classified her upbringing as abusive, Robert Oscar Lopez told the court that his own childhood upbringing by his mother and her longtime partner represented the “best possible conditions for a child raised by a same-sex couple.”  Even so, Lopez testified that the lack of a father figure in his life, combined with the influence of the radical gay culture in which he was raised, gave rise to a devastating confusion about his own sexuality and ultimately led to his becoming a homosexual prostitute in his teen years in order to fulfill his craving for acceptance and love from older men.

[…]Katy Faust also testified that children of homosexuals are intimidated into silence by gay activists who threaten them with public shaming, job interference, and worse for daring to speak out against same-sex “marriage.”

“Some adult children with gay parents shy away from making their thoughts about marriage public because we do not want to jeopardize our relationships with those to whom our hearts are tethered,” Faust wrote. “Unfortunately, many gay-marriage lobbyists have made gay marriage the sole badge of loyalty to our LGBT family and friends.”

[…]Dawn Stefanowicz echoed the sentiments of the other three, in a frank and graphic testimony of her childhood with a promiscuous homosexual father who later died of AIDS.

[…]“As children, we are not allowed to express our disagreement, pain and confusion,” wrote Stefanowicz. “Most adult children from gay households do not feel safe or free to publicly express their stories and life-long challenges; they fear losing professional licenses, not obtaining employment in their chosen field, being cut off from some family members or losing whatever relationship they have with their gay parent(s). Some gay parents have threatened to leave no inheritance, if the children don’t accept their parent’s partner du jour.

Read the whole thing.

That’s just four people, but I want to see a real study.

The Public Discourse reports on a recent study out of Canada.


A new academic study based on the Canadian census suggests that a married mom and dad matter for children. Children of same-sex coupled households do not fare as well.

There is a new and significant piece of evidence in the social science debate about gay parenting and the unique contributions that mothers and fathers make to their children’s flourishing. A study published last week in the journal Review of the Economics of the Household—analyzing data from a very large, population-based sample—reveals that the children of gay and lesbian couples are only about 65 percent as likely to have graduated from high school as the children of married, opposite-sex couples. And gender matters, too: girls are more apt to struggle than boys, with daughters of gay parents displaying dramatically low graduation rates.

Unlike US-based studies, this one evaluates a 20 percent sample of the Canadian census, where same-sex couples have had access to all taxation and government benefits since 1997 and to marriage since 2005.

While in the US Census same-sex households have to be guessed at based on the gender and number of self-reported heads-of-household, young adults in the Canadian census were asked, “Are you the child of a male or female same-sex married or common law couple?” While study author and economist Douglas Allen noted that very many children in Canada who live with a gay or lesbian parent are actually living with a single mother—a finding consonant with that detected in the 2012 New Family Structures Study—he was able to isolate and analyze hundreds of children living with a gay or lesbian couple (either married or in a “common law” relationship akin to cohabitation).

So the study is able to compare—side by side—the young-adult children of same-sex couples and opposite-sex couples, as well as children growing up in single-parent homes and other types of households. Three key findings stood out to Allen:

children of married opposite-sex families have a high graduation rate compared to the others; children of lesbian families have a very low graduation rate compared to the others; and the other four types [common law, gay, single mother, single father] are similar to each other and lie in between the married/lesbian extremes.

Employing regression models and series of control variables, Allen concludes that the substandard performance cannot be attributed to lower school attendance or the more modest education of gay or lesbian parents. Indeed, same-sex parents were characterized by higher levels of education, and their children were more likely to be enrolled in school than even those of married, opposite-sex couples. And yet their children are notably more likely to lag in finishing their own schooling.

With a little digging, I found the abstract of the study.

The author of the study is a professor of economics at Simon Fraser University in British Columbia. His PhD in economics is from the University of Washington.

A previous study had shown that gay relationships typically have far more instability (they last for more shorter times). That’s not good for children either. Another study featured in the Atlantic talked about how gay relationships have much higher rates of domestic violence. That’s not good for children either. So we have three reasons to think that redefining “marriage” would not be good for children.

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3 thoughts on “What do the adult children of gay couples think about same-sex marriage?”

  1. WOW! This is so so sad. Those children have lived through same sex families and what I understood about this article was: Gay mom or dad I love you, but I’m confused, deppresed and incomplete. I have to pretend that I don’t care about having two moms, but my heart yearns for my dad or viceversa. This is so so sad. Gay parents who really care about their kids already have to face another major challenge. How on Earth are they going to fill that void? I already feel sorry for both parties because I dont think that those gay parents who are loving want to damage their kids for life, but just by denying their kids the other sex they’re automatically leaving marked scars in their children. Gay couples feel complete and free, but their kids feel incomplete and disturbed. Gay parents should talk to their kids and give them a chance to be with the opposit gender. An uncle, an aunt, maybe even permit visits by an adult friend or something. I hope they can find a solution for kids who are going through this, because gay people have the right to get married, but as parents they should be restowards their kiMariage isn’t just about love and feelings and sex. Those things are important, but it’s a social and a moral responsibility and if this is going on the authorities should intervine in these cases because these are emotional abuse cases, which scar children far worse than physical abuse. Marriage isn’t a free ride. You got to work on it or it won’t work and that’s the truth. Gay parents have to deal with these issues because our future generations may be affected by this. I’m also against those people who are threatening to open Lopez emails to see if he’s a gay hater or whatever, people have a right to their opinion just like gays do, people have a right to their privacy just like gays do. Do gay people want equal rights or superior rights?


  2. Marriage involves children. If they have the right to marry and adopt kids or fabricate them then they also have the responsibility to address these issues because just as gay people cant be denied their rights neither can the children be denied to theirs. Or are they asking for superior rights? If these kids are marked because of these lifestyles, don’t they have the right to speak up about it, don’t we have the right to know how this is going to affect our future generations? Gay marriage and heterosexual marriages may be legal, but they’re not the same. Those are the facts. A man is anatomically different from a woman and there are scientific, verifiable and very real information that men and women don’t even think alike and much of that has to do with the progesterone and testosterone hormones and those facts are real, they’re not made up. Same sex marriage therefore is different, special if they want to call it like that and they will face different problems that will affect our society whether they believe or don’t believe. These are the facts, these kids are against gay marriage because of their own personal experience as gay offsprings if you’d like to call them that. They aren’t saying that gay couples shouldn’t be married. They’re saying that they shouldn’t have kids. Do they really want their own kids to feel that way? Confused and all depressed? Is that going to be their contribution? Seriously? How are they going to deal with this? The void of a parent that their spouse will never fill? These are the big issues that they haven’t addressed. Children. How will our own kids be affected by these marriages? Because adults understand, but children? We all know that children imitate what they see at home. I’m also concerned about the school material handed out to little kids that can’t manage or process this type of information. It’s completely inappropriate. It’s fine on high school kids, but for toddlers it should honestly be considered child abuse. Children shouldn’t be exposed to straight or gay sex until they’re old enough. If explicit material is in the text books I honestly believe that’s child abuse.


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