Editorial from Barbara Kay in the National Post.
Excerpt:
Commonsensical Canadians are losing patience with the angry, blame-all-males school of feminism. It’s no accident that the feminist Toronto Women’s Bookstore, for years a bustling cynosure of the cultural zeitgeist, is in danger of closing down. Or that once overflowing women’s studies classes are emptying out, or morphing into “gender studies” to attract more students (a trap, really: Gender studies are also gynocentric, offering a more subtle version of heterosexual male-bashing than women’s studies).
Rob Kenedy, an assistant professor in the sociology department of York University with a specialty in the men’s rights movement, was unique amongst sociologues in teaching a course in the 1990s about men and their particular tribulations and needs. In a telephone interview he recalled his surprise when more young women signed up than men: “Women are far more interested in learning about men and masculinity than men are.”
Because the numbers in universities are so skewed to the distaff — in a current obligatory sociology course, his own tutorial is comprised of 25 women and two men — Kenedy predicts sociology departments will have to open up (positive) masculinity courses to satisfy the burgeoning curiosity of women about what makes men tick.
The best thing that a woman can do is to sit down with a man and interview him about what he is really like. I think that if every woman could talk about men, marriage and parenting like Jennifer Roback Morse can, then women would have to beat men back with foam bats. I’ll be writing a post about how women can get men to like them without using sex appeal later on in the week. I think that interrogating men to find out what they think is especially important for Christian women, who need to know how they are supposed to complement the man they are interested in.
WINTERY KNIGHT 
Women already have to beat men back with foam bats. That’s part of the problem.
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Yes, but they are beating them back because of physical attraction. I am talking about what it would be like if men chased women because they were good at listening, planning, solving problems and participating in the relationship constructively.
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What difference does it make *why* the men are chasing them so long as they’re chasing them? A supply of men is a supply of men.
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I don’t think it matters how much a woman embodies those things if she doesn’t also have physical attraction on her side. I guess it would be best to have both, but how common is that?
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I actually think that as long as a women keeps herself fit that will go a long way. After a few hours of eye-contact talking every day for a few weeks, even I start to lose control and begin questioning my no-touching rules (I get the urge to slow dance, or just hold the other person close for a long time). Talking to women makes me forget about looks because the relationship takes over – I am just so happy to be myself with someone else and to talk about serious issues like politics, science, history, apologetics, morality, family, marriage, sex, parenting, etc. Many of my male friends don’t have the skills or time to talk about those things with me!
I once asked a friend of mine how he felt about his wife’s breast-feeding and her c-section and he said that he didn’t really think about it. When he looked at his wife, she was just “the person he married”. The relationship takes over and you forget about things like that. Now I should point out that although his wife has had several kids, she still looks about 20 and is as skinny as a rail. She also understands how much her husband appreciates sex, and how to be a good mother and wife. She’s very clever about understanding male differences – what men like and don’t like and how they see themselves in the family. She never gives him silly things to do, and she seems to dislike material possessions. She reads a ton as well, and the same apologetics books we read. I give them books like “Money, Greed and God” and they both read the same book and then talk about it. Now that’s a marriage!
Needless to say, he is a very very happy man. I talk to him about his marriage and he can’t think of anything that could be improved.
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Absolutely.
Look at Hollywood. It is littered with marriages of two physically appealing couples … how many of them can be called successful marriages?
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Nice to see women taking an interest (in a serious way) in the opposite sex. I work on a college campus in an administrative position, and there are times I pick up on an anti-male vibe. I caught flack for bothering to get married (!), and then committed the ultimate feminist sin of (gasp) taking my husband’s name, lol. http://far-above-rubies-and-pearls.blogspot.com/2009/04/what-happened-to-miss-independent-she.html#comments
But seriously, I can’t stand the male-bashing. Why does wanting rights for women equal devaluing men? Of course young women are trying to learn more about men and how they really think. Many magazines make it seem guys ONLY care about sex while some tv programs make men out to be neanderthals!
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