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What can men do to save this 24-year-old woman from toxic masculinity?

I found an interesting set of articles from a young woman who graduated from Pennsylvania State University. In one, she explains how a man she “hooked up” with treated her poorly. I think I’ve been able to figure out what her approach to relationships is. In this post, I’ll explain her approach, and then discuss how social conservatives should solve problems like abortion and single motherhood.

NOTE: Please do not contact or harass this woman, just leave her alone.

So, here’s the first, most important article:

As someone who considers themselves a feminist, and I always thought that being sexual and unashamed was liberating and empowering. And for that reason, I never stopped myself from doing what I wanted to do.

In the article, she explains what it feels like to be used for sex and then ghosted by a man. She says that he never got to know her, and that makes her feel bad. What did he know about her? She says that she appeared to him as “just some blonde blacked out drunk”. In the article, she describes lying awake next to him after sex, then getting up to walk home at 5:30 in the morning. And this is not the only toxic man in her life.

She says:

This applies to more than a few people from my past… I started to realize this lifestyle wasn’t working after I hooked up with a guy who thought New England was a state. And yeah, I still hooked up with him after finding out this knowledge about him… And I don’t know if that says more about him that he didn’t know or more about me since I was willing to overlook that fact just to feel desired for a night.

Because I do turn to other people for validation. When I think about it objectively, 90% of the reason I hook-up with anyone is to feel good about myself.

She calls the search for validation an “addiction”:

I am addicted to validation I got from getting with people. I needed that rush of dopamine. I needed to know I am wanted. I got addicted to hooking up. Cause it was the only thing that made me feel good about myself for a while. When I was feeling down, I turned to boys… that didn’t care about anything except what I look like. And I have been blessed/cursed with a pretty fast metabolism and a naturally larger than average chest. So I always have known I could default to my looks for validation. It’s the easiest thing to get recognition for. And I got addicted to being told I was hot, or pretty, or whatever.

In other articles, she explains what kinds of men she’s looking for.

She’s a strong Democrat.

There are two kinds of Republicans: the ignorant and the evil. Either they are uninformed and dumb or aware of the world and other cultures other than their own and just too corrupt or bigoted to care. It’s just that being a Republican seems to now stand for religious nuts, rich, rednecks, and racists. This current election cycle has only increased my deep seeded hatred for the right-wingers even more.

And I can’t help myself, but whenever I find out someone who I have been talking to or have been friends with is a Republican, I let out an audible “ugh, really?” I can not hide my disgust.

In another article, she explains that she’s an atheist:

If singing songs, praying or going to confession makes you feel better, by all means, do what you have to do to feel better. As long as you aren’t hurting anyone, do what you want to do. As an atheist, it doesn’t offend me. I just choose not to do it.

For example, at thanksgiving dinner this year my family wanted to say grace before eating, but they know where I stand when it comes to religion.

She came out of a Christian family.

In another post, she explains why she cheated on her boyfriend:

I wish I could say I don’t know why I did it, but that would be a blatant lie. I found myself in someone else’s bed because… I didn’t have feelings for you anymore. If you were enough for me, then you would have been. But you weren’t. I stopped craving your company. I felt guilty, sure, but not enough to stop me from doing it multiple times. I didn’t care about you or how you felt. And as my feelings started to fade, yours only seemed to get stronger. I know that stings, but it’s true.

So when I would go out in that extra-lowcut dress you loved when I wore it around you and a cute guy would ask me to dance or to go hangout on the porch, I wouldn’t mention you. I guess I got tired of turning people down when I didn’t feel like there was any “good” reason to. I missed my freedom. I missed the exciting feelings that come with flirting with someone new. The whole giddy honeymoon phase, getting butterflies whenever someone texts you, stalking them on Facebook and pretending you know nothing about them, finding yourself daydreaming about the next time you hang out in class. But I think I skipped a step before getting with someone new– breaking it off with you first.

She seems to be guided primarily by her feelings. If the feelings are gone, they’re gone. She doesn’t try to pick a good guy and invest in the relationship so that she builds something. I don’t think this is going to work for her to avoid bad men.

So, what kind of man is she looking for? She writes about how interested she is in “hot” guys in many of her articles. Guys with height, looks, tattoos, piercings, displayed wealth validate her more than guys who want to protect, provide, and lead her in moral and spiritual areas. I don’t think that the men she is choosing will treat her well – they just have too many options to focus on building something good with one woman.

She’s looking for a man who agrees with her on abortion and same-sex marriage. So, men like that don’t want to protect unborn children, and take responsibility for their choices. And a man who supports same-sex marriage is siding with selfish adults. Every same-sex relationship deprives a child of their bio-mom or bio-dad. That’s not a good man to build a stable marriage with.

Regarding religion, she’s uncomfortable with men who have definite exclusive views. Religion, for her, is not about truth at all. You shouldn’t make any exclusive claims that make people feel bad. Instead, just have your private religion that makes you feel better. She’s looking for men who will not lead her in moral and spiritual areas. That’s not a good man to date, either.

How is it working out for her?

Her worldview – feminism, atheism, socialism – doesn’t have the resources necessary for her to approach relationships in a way that will work for her, in the long run. She is not a Christian, pro-marriage, or conservative. The men she chooses are not Christians, pro-marriage, or conservative. This isn’t going to lead to a relationship that is faithful, exclusive and permanent. If that’s what she wants, then she is choosing the wrong people to get there. And even if she doesn’t want commitment now, she will some day. It’s better for her to focus on finding a good man now and building him up. Men make better husbands and fathers the sooner women get in there and support them at those goals.

I always urge young women to get a STEM degree and work in the private sector until they marry and have their first child. To make them think logically, take responsibility for engineering results, and to feel validated by their achievements. I wanted to see what her college major was – because I suspected that she did not do STEM. While searching, I stumbled upon her dating profile (posted on 9Gag by her), two Instagram pages full of selfies, a Tumblr blog of sexy photos, and an Only Fans page. Her LinkedIn page showed no current or previous work experience. To me, these things are clear signs that she is head straight for evil men who will hurt her.

Saving women from toxic masculinity

I think what we have to do is focus on her disappointment with the results of her own choices, and challenge her to change her worldview and relationship choices. She needs to stop rewarding the hot bad boys with free sex. There are good men out there who want to protect, provide and lead on moral and spiritual issues. She needs to be taught to focus on those good men.

13 thoughts on “What can men do to save this 24-year-old woman from toxic masculinity?”

  1. Usually the only thing that can be done with people so set in such behavior and beliefs is to let them step on a few of the mines they’ve laid. If anything, they’ll be in for rude awakening once their looks fade and they realize they won’t live forever.

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    1. I’m trying to get chivalrous people to understand why she’s doing what she’s doing. We are seeing a huge reaction to feminist failures by feminists. They don’t like the results of their Secual Revolution, but they still are fully committed to it: promiscuity and abortion and delaying marriage for student loans and “careers”. This article us to remind everyone that men need to keep right out of trying to fix these women. She’s an atheist and a leftist and she needs to get her fill of the consequences of her own choices.

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      1. Mockery and scorn are the reformer’s most effective tools.

        The bottom line is that the most compassionate thing men can do to reform these women is to mock them, scorn them, and let every young woman see that bad actions have bad consequences.

        Women know DAMN WELL that Ho behavior is wrong – and they choose it anyways.

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    2. okrahead – That’s *absolutely* 1000% correct.

      Men should also never – under ANY circumstances – date a “reformed” Ho. No matter how reformed they appear on the outside, the scars the Ho carries run too deep and are too damaging to overcome. I know far too many men who dated and then married a “reformed” Ho, only to later find that the wife hates herself – and him by extension. She views him as an enduring symbol of her failure to snag an alpha male bad boy and treats him accordingly. In the best of these situations, the husband is stuck in a sexless marriage with a wife who is disgusted by him. In the worst, she turns his kids trans and bankrupts him.

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  2. Even if this trashy woman can be taught to stop throwing herself at trashy men, I have serious doubts that a valuable man would have any interest in her.

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  3. Let’s stop calling it “toxic masculinity” and start calling it what it is: “accountability” or “adulthood” or “personal responsibility” or “real life” or “reality.” Imagine if the headline read “What can men do to save this 24-year-old woman from personal responsibility?”

    Or, “What can men to do save this 24-year-old woman from being held accountable for her disastrous life decisions?”

    Once you frame it that way, every person reading that headline is going to INSTANTLY know the answer to that question: “NOTHING. We’re going to REQUIRE the Ho to accept personal responsibility and accountability.”

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      1. Exactly.

        You can try to give men the responsibility to “Save-a-Ho” but unless they also have the authority required to carry out that responsibility, all you’re doing is choosing a patsy.

        To which every man reading this blog should reply, patronizingly, “I am *so* sorry that’s happening to you. Best of luck to you while you sort that out…”

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  4. Pray that God reveals to her the toxic modern feminist lies she believes.

    Till she is ready to receive truth many people like this can only receive little bits told in a gracious way. Then when the holy spirit starts to reveal things it can work on the person.

    Otherwise people like this women tend to just get too mad when they hear much of an opposing view that you are just wasting time talking to them for long, because they aren’t even listening

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  5. The following quote is the most telling:

    “I am addicted to validation I got from getting with people. I needed that rush of dopamine. I needed to know I am wanted. I got addicted to hooking up. Cause it was the only thing that made me feel good about myself for a while. When I was feeling down, I turned to boys… that didn’t care about anything except what I look like. And I have been blessed/cursed with a pretty fast metabolism and a naturally larger than average chest. So I always have known I could default to my looks for validation. It’s the easiest thing to get recognition for. And I got addicted to being told I was hot, or pretty, or whatever.”

    Specifically focus in on the following 2 statements:

    1. “I needed to know I am wanted.”

    2. “It’s the easiest thing to get recognition for” (Referring to her physical beauty and sexuality).

    Herein lies her problem. She’s addicted to feeling wanted and as most women do, she discovered from the time she went through puberty that being wanted for her beauty and sexuality required the least amount of work. As such, rather than put in the work to become a woman who would be wanted by a man as a wife and a long term partner, she took the easy route and instead chose to exploit her sexuality (something she did precisely nothing to attain) to get lots of quick, immediate gratification.

    If you think about it, this is really no different than a man who spends hours everyday sitting in his basement watching pornography. As a man, he desires sexual gratification, but rather than put the work into becoming the kind of man who will attract a partner who willingly gives him sex, he opts for the path of least resistance: quick, easy and free sexual gratification through viewing pornography.

    Of course, no one respects this man, not even himself. Whether or not the specific man in question believes pornography is immoral, he knows inherently that things you don’t earn are valueless and that whatever temporal pleasure you attain by indulging only leaves you feeling guilty, empty and unfulfilled.

    However, while neither the man or woman in this case deserve any respect, the man has a slight advantage to the woman in that if he chooses to continue in his vice (porn) he can essentially do so forever. Now granted, there will likely be negative consequences in his life for doing so, but so long as he has a computer and a stable internet connection, aging and failing health will not stop him from consuming porn.

    The woman on the other hand has an expiration date to her vice that will come much sooner than she realizes. Yes, it’s easy for her to get validation from her physical beauty and sexuality, but out of an average 84 year life span, this attention will only last from the age of about 18-29 (and that’s on the optimistic side of things). As her beauty begins to fade, the hot guys that are currently giving her validation will turn their attention to the newest crop of 18-22 year old girls, for which there is an infinitely replenishing supply. She will desperately seek out that same validation, but to no avail. No amount of kicking and screaming will change the fact that the men she’s attracted to no longer want anything to do with her.

    And if you think about it, why should they? She wanted to be wanted for her beauty, so it stands to reason that if she’s no longer beautiful, she should no longer be wanted. It was she who chose to make this the center of her life and now she who will be forced to live with the consquences.

    This woman cannot be helped anymore than a former smoker can be helped. Sure, with hard work he can quit smoking, but in all likelihood, the increased risk for lung cancer has already set int.

    The only way to help women is for fathers to teach this truth to their daughters before its too late. The female desire to be wanted isn’t inherently wrong, but unless they choose to be wanted for the right reasons, they will doom themselves to this prison.

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  6. Who can save her from toxic feminism? If her father did not do it, hardly anybody else gonna do it. Time for “thedeti” to chime in with wisdom of the ages,

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    1. I dont think that pro-mattiage people really realize how unsuitable women are for marriage. Her whole worldview is rotten to the core. She’s not a victim, she’s acting according to her own beliefs.

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