Can a man marry a woman who thinks that all male leadership is “sexist”?

These days, many people of both sexes graduate college with a lot of student loan debt and no marketable skills at all. What do they learn? Well, they don’t learn anything, but they are brainwashed to believe in secular leftist dogma. And they’re also brainwashed to dismiss all opposition to secular leftist dogma by labeling it as “sexist”, “racist”, “homophobic”, “xenophobic”, etc.

I wrote previously about how men don’t like to marry non-virgins. I argued that women with a lot of sexual experience have proven that they prefer men who have “no-commitment” abilities. And those women also avoid men who have commitment abilities. I argued that if a man marries a woman with a lot of experience of giving no-commitment men sex, then she probably wouldn’t respect and admire his marriage-oriented skills enough to let him lead the home.

I believe that the brainwashing that women get when they do non-STEM degrees in liberal arts programs in college is the cause of their resistance to the leadership of marriage-minded men.

How does a marriage happen? Basically, a marriage-minded man prepares himself for marriage by denying himself “fun” in order to position himself to be a husband and father. He studies hard STEM subjects in order to get good jobs. His resume is gap-free. He started working early, and didn’t take summers off. He saves his money. He understands beliefs that are incompatible with marriage, such as pro-abortion, pro-divorce, etc. and he is able to argue against them. When he meets a woman, he presents his preparations to her, and tries to get her to focus on behaviors that will put her on a path to becoming a wife and mother. If she follows his lead, then she becomes safe for him to marry. He is able to see how she listens to his marriage plan, and adjusts her behavior in order to help him to execute the plan.

So what does this leadership look like? Well, in my case, I’ve tried to get women to switch from non-STEM to STEM degrees. To quit easy jobs like waitress and teacher and get hard jobs like IT Project Manager or Software Engineer. To stop wasting money on thrill-seeking and instead pay off loans, then invest. To stop watching TV and movies, and start reading good non-fiction books about marriage, parenting, apologetics, economics, etc. And to inform themselves about marriage related topics, e.g. – divorce, infertility, child development, homeschooling, daycare, school choice. Basically, getting them to drop childish anti-marriage and anti-family behaviors, and take up mature pro-marriage and pro-family behaviors, so that they become useful partners for a marriage enterprise.

But what about non-STEM college programs? What does college teach young women about this marriage-focused leadership from marriage-minded men? It depends on what she studies. If she does a STEM degree, she’ll have been forced to be accountable to reality in her assignments and exams. She’ll get a decent job and pay off student loans, allowing her husband to quickly buy her a house and give her children to raise while she’s still young. But, if she does a non-STEM degree, then not only will she probably have student loan debt and a useless degree and low-pay jobs, but she’ll also have been brainwashed with all sorts of anti-marriage and anti-family beliefs and behaviors. That’s because non-STEM programs are nothing more than brainwashing in secular leftist dogma. And I have an example of how this works in real life.

Everything too hard for her to learn or do is “sexist”

In the example below, a male expert on climate science corrects a female journalist about climate science. She dismisses his correction (not shown) as sexism.

Feminist journalist shames science expert as "sexist"
Feminist journalist shames science expert as “sexist”

Here is the biography of the male PhD in meteorology:

Ryan Maue is a research meteorologist. He has developed and maintained a popular weather maps and climate data service based on the world’s best numerical weather prediction systems. During his graduate studies at Florida State University, he researched extratropical and tropical cyclones, utilizing mesoscale models and large reanalysis datasets, and published multiple peer-reviewed articles. After his PhD in 2010, Maue was awarded a National Research Council postdoctoral associateship at the Naval Research Lab in Monterey, California where he focused on global weather prediction and verification.

And here is the biography of the female journalist with the BA in journalism:

She has a BA in journalism, and knows literally nothing about climate science, and has achieved literally nothing of value in the field of climate science that anyone would be willing to pay her for.

Crying “sexist” is literally everything that her degree in journalism taught her to do. She has one skill: how to dismiss expertise in reality-based practical disciplines as “sexist”, and therefore inferior to her feelings and intuitions.

Should marriage-minded men marry feminists?

So let’s ask and answer one simple question: should a marriage-minded man marry a woman who dismisses leadership from qualified men as “sexist”?

Let’s review the red flags of secular leftist feminist women:

  • she’s pro-abortion, so she thinks murdering an innocent child is how selfish adults escape the consequences of their own reckless actions
  • she’s pro-divorce, and will not hesitate for a second to break a commitment that makes her unhappy
  • she’s an atheist, so she can’t rationally ground the basic requirements of morality: free will, objective moral laws, etc. and therefore cannot be relied on to behave morally against her own self-interest
  • she’s a socialist, so she views money earned by the husband as the property of the secular left government
  • she’s a feminist, so she believes sex is recreational, and need not be reserved for a husband and wife in a covenant marriage, and she thinks that newborns should be tossed into daycare then public schools
  • she believes in same-sex marriage, so she thinks that children can be deprived of a relationship with their biological mother and/or father, for the benefit of selfish adults
  • etc.

Does this sound like she’s ready for a husband and children?

But more than the worldview issues are the practical issues. A woman with a non-STEM degree didn’t want to study subjects that are accountable to reality. She didn’t want to be a pharmacist, a nurse or a software engineer – those jobs would require her to produce work that corresponds to reality, and has value in the real world. People like her who graduate with non-STEM degrees don’t understand anything about how the world really works. People like her aren’t equipped to earn money in a free market by satisfying customers. They don’t understand basic economics, so they’re socialists. They can’t be reasoned with, because their views are determined by what makes them feel good, look good to peers, and what gives them maximum autonomy to pursue pleasure with minimum accountability. When secular leftists feminists crash and burn at self-sufficiency, they blame everyone else instead of themselves. All of these character traits make them really difficult to get along with in a marriage.

Can women like this be fixed up for marriage and motherhood? Well, that would require them to be open to marriage-minded men who would be able to lead them towards marriage and motherhood behaviors. But how did Emily respond to leadership from a male with real-world demonstrated ability in a practical area? She called his attempt to lead her “sexist”. And that is the standard response of secular leftist feminist women to male leadership. If you tell them to study computer science, you’re “sexist”. If you tell them to stop wasting money, you’re “sexist”. If you tell them to stop getting drunk, you’re “sexist”. If you tell them to read a book on economics, you’re “sexist”. If you tell them to watch a William Lane Craig debate, you’re “sexist”. If you tell them to eat healthy and lift weights, you’re “sexist”. If you tell them to get a challenging job, you’re “sexist”. If you tell them to stop having recreational sex with bad boys, you’re “sexist”. Every attempt to focus a secular leftist feminist woman on preparing for marriage and motherhood is called “sexist”.

If women would only listen to what men ask of them as future wives and future mothers, and build themselves up for wife and mother roles, then women would never struggle to find husbands. No man in his right mind can risk marriage to a secular leftist feminist. There is no “secular leftist feminist” path to marriage. No amount of immodesty and premarital sex from a secular leftist feminist is enough to trick a man into marrying her. That might work on some men to get sex, but it’s not going to work to get her to marriage and children.

13 thoughts on “Can a man marry a woman who thinks that all male leadership is “sexist”?”

  1. ‘I believe that the brainwashing that women get when they do non-STEM degrees in liberal arts programs in college is the cause of their resistance to the leadership of marriage-minded men.’

    I don’t know…I’ve seen some STEM degreed type women voice the same thing (albeit on the internet).

    Like

    1. I tend to think the college ‘experience’ is more of a factor as to why they resist marriage minded men. The large amount of promiscuity/birth control, drunkenness and ‘social science/humanities’ required classes even for a STEM degree would be enough to turn them into feminist robots.

      Liked by 2 people

      1. I’m a son of non-white Muslim mom Hindu/Catholic Dad immigrants. I grew up in poverty. This view of college is alien to me.
        I have a BS and MS in computer science and 1.25 million net worth. I’m a virgin and my first beer was after I graduated college at a work outing. I was peer pressured into drinking it, because the atheists on my software team said they would let me make the case for Christianity if I had a beer with them, so I did. I poured the beer right in the center of the glass like an idiot. My project manager Traci snatched it from me and poured it against the side of the glass. Apparently, that’s how it works.
        You natural born white Americans are all weird to me.

        Like

        1. Most of the natural born Americans (often regardless of race) are weird because this particular society fosters and encourages rebellion pretty much over anything that has to do with the moral order and God’s law…but especially when it comes to religion and the family. We’ve had almost 50 years of legalized abortion along with widespread contraception and no fault divorce of marriage…that’s going to torch any civilization. I mean when we got a society that basically states being a homo, criminal, or a Marxist is the degree of heros…you know this place is well past messed up.

          Liked by 1 person

          1. It’s crazy. And they think they will marry and have kids when they are celebrating the rebellion against everything that equips you for marriage.

            Like

  2. I really enjoyed your post! To answer your question, I would say a man could marry a women who thinks that all male leadership are sexist, but it may not be the best idea, lol. I was a person who majored in Business Health Care, but after not being able to find a position, due to “lack of experience” (apparently intern hours didn’t count) I took some teacher courses, the state exam and went into teaching high school business classes. I would say I learned mostly about marriage, raising a family from my parents, the Bible and my church home, not from the university. As you have stated,most of them have their own agendas. I am the anomaly based on your post because I ended up with a non-STEM degree, but firmly believe in the creation roles of the Bible, with the male being the head and the women being the helpmate and am a supporter of them. The type of male you have described sounds wonderful, you have given me hope that they still exist. I am also conservative, which is also a rarity for more reasons than one. I enjoyed your post, it was thought provoking and look forward to the other ones!

    Liked by 2 people

      1. I agree, Education can actually corrupt some people. I think if you are a person has integrity and cares about family values, it would be more difficult for their character to be changed for the worse.

        Like

  3. “So what does this leadership look like? Well, in my case, I’ve tried to get women to switch from non-STEM to STEM degrees. To quit easy jobs like waitress and teacher and get hard jobs like IT Project Manager or Software Engineer.”

    … Nah, that’s wrong for men to expect from women.

    Women are to “be helpmeets of their husband” and particular “work from home” of the overall “family unit” but not expected to “engage” the societal workforce as men are supposed to do.

    As the “man of the relationship” the *male-oriented* “hard jobs” like IT Project Manager, Software Engineer, etc. are the *MAN’S ROLE* to be expected but women are not required to abide by “masculine gender standards” as part of the “natural double standards”.

    Now if women of their own free will choose to pursue to be IT Project Managers, Software Engineers, etc. then there’s nothing wrong with that but for men to expect to coerce or manipulate women into workforce areas that are not their personal interests is wrong as the man of a “traditional household” is supposed to be the prominent “breadwinner of the family” and the woman can choose to work if she wants doing any kind of work she wants that doesn’t frustrate or complicate the moral and morale relationship of her marriage to her husband.

    A woman’s foremost objective as a wife in a marriage is to be attentive to her husband’s needs first and secondly his “wants” and that then of their children together as a family.
    ________________

    “To stop wasting money on thrill-seeking and instead pay off loans, then invest. To stop watching TV and movies, and start reading good non-fiction books about marriage, parenting, apologetics, economics, etc. And to inform themselves about marriage related topics, e.g. – divorce, infertility, child development, homeschooling, daycare, school choice. Basically, getting them to drop childish anti-marriage and anti-family behaviors, and take up mature pro-marriage and pro-family behaviors, so that they become useful partners for a marriage enterprise.”

    Yes. All this is good and correct though.

    Society and people encouraging women self-educating themselves on being “proper wives & mothers” is the way to go.

    The same can be said of us men to be “proper husbands & fathers” and not expect women to abide by the natural male gender expectations for natural female gender expectations will help close the gap of “dysfunction” on both sides.

    I’m not a “perfect man” myself but I don’t kid myself when I have “personal flaws and errors” that I need to recognize in order to fix.

    I can’t “blame women’s confusions” for my personal “failures as a man” in some life areas because a lot of us guys aren’t “all that” either to be honest so I’m not gonna be too “hypocritical” against women with their issues as well.

    So to answer the question posed in this article Bro. WK a man in his right mind shouldn’t really take this “gamble” to marry a feminist-indoctrinated woman and we must hope and pray God works in their lives to “snap them out of their brainwashing” before it’s too late for many of them…

    ~ Sincerely,

    Bro. Jed

    Liked by 1 person

    1. I mentored a woman who had an abortion, then became a Christian. She became pro life. She used to hate the US military, now she’s a total hawk. She became an expert in evidential Christian apologetics. Organized apologetics conferences. Started a pro-life charity. Finished her degree. Got a job in an investment firm. Got out of debt. Married a hunky Christian man. And had a baby.

      I’m really good at mentoring women. Just being honest.

      Liked by 2 people

  4. I’m not sure I follow this “mentoring women” WK speaks about on his site. If these women are in fact listening to, or following, his advice, then that’s commendable. I’d submit that many are resentful and defiant, and they’re playing him. That’s just the nature of the beast.
    Most modern women, like most modern employers, are “it’s not what you’ve done for me, it’s what have you done for me lately”? I’d say mentoring from married stable Christian and/or married stable traditional women (I’m thinking women like Elsbeth who’ve posted on this site) would have a chance, with at least a few small numbers, to steer especially younger women, in a better direction than the degeneracy we clearly see.
    My late father was a journeyman machinist, and he had several patents out with one of his employers. He used to say in frustration about the (often young M.E.s) “engineers, you cant tell them everything, and you can’t tell them anything”. I’d say the same thing applies to the majority of modern women.

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s