If you accept Jesus and become a Christian, will God make you happy?

Navy SEAL Matthew "Axe" Axelson
Navy SEAL Matthew “Axe” Axelson

This is a wonderful, wonderful post from Amy Hall, who writes for the Stand to Reason blog.

She writes:

I had a brief interaction with an atheist on Twitter a couple of weeks ago that unexpectedly turned to the issue of suffering when she said:

You clearly never had a time you were hurt. I don’t mean sick. I don’t mean heart broken. I mean literally a near death experience or rape or abusive relationship…. You can keep floating on a [expletive] cloud thinking Jesus will do everything for you but it’s a lie. What makes you so special?

That surprised me at first because it didn’t seem to have anything to do with the tweet she was responding to, and I was confused as to why she would assume I’d never been through anything traumatic. But then in subsequent tweets, when she revealed she had been raped, it became clear that her trauma had played a central role in her becoming an outspoken, obviously angry “antitheist.” She’s a self-described antitheist now because she thinks Christianity teaches Jesus “will do everything for you” to give you a perfect life, and now she knows that’s a lie. The rape proved her understanding of Christianity false.

So it made sense for her to reason that since I believe Christianity is true, I must still be under the delusion that Jesus is making my life special, which means I obviously never encountered any evil or suffering to shake that delusion.

All right, readers. I don’t want any of you to be thinking that if you become a Christian that these things should be expected to happen:

  • you will feel happy all the time
  • you will be able to sense God’s secret plan for your life through your feelings
  • God’s secret plan for your life will automatically work, even though it’s crazy
  • God will give you a perfect spouse and lots of money without you having to do any work
  • you get permission to do things that that make you happy, even if they are expressly forbidden by the Bible
  • you don’t have to do anything that makes you feel bad (e.g. – go to work), because God wants you to be happy

No! Where do people get this idea that if they convert to Christianity, then God will become their cosmic butler?

Amy has the answer: (emphasis mine)

Hear me, everyone: This is a failure of the church.

A friend of mine who was deeply suffering once said to me that many Christians are in for “an epic letdown” when they realize their preconceived notions about what God is expected to do for us are false. Pastors who preach a life-improvement Jesus are leading people down this precarious path to disillusionment.

If suffering disproves your Christianity, you’ve missed Christianity. The Bible is filled with the suffering of those whom God loves. The central event of the Bible is one of suffering. Love involves suffering. “We know love by this, that He laid down His life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.” That means suffering.

It’s the church. It’s all the singing about happy things and having of happy feelings and happy preaching designed to make us feel good. I would say the comforting devotional reading doesn’t help to make us any tougher or more practical, either. People seem to use Bible study and devotion as a way to artificially create good feelings of happiness, peace and comfort, instead of just doing hard things to serve God. I don’t think it’s a “spiritual” Christian thing to read A. W. Tozer, etc. just so that you can feel comforted and spiritual. That stuff just gives you a false sense of safety about your precarious situation. God’s job is not to prevent you from suffering. In fact, even if you make really smart, practical decisions, you can expect to get creamed anyway.

Please take 15 minutes and read the book of 1 Peter in the New Testament.

Here’s a summary from GotQuestions.org:

Purpose of Writing: 1 Peter is a letter from Peter to the believers who had been dispersed throughout the ancient world and were under intense persecution. If anyone understood persecution, it was Peter. He was beaten, threatened, punished and jailed for preaching the Word of God. He knew what it took to endure without bitterness, without losing hope and in great faith living an obedient, victorious life. This knowledge of living hope in Jesus was the message and Christ’s example was the one to follow.

Brief Summary: Though this time of persecution was desperate, Peter reveals that it was actually a time to rejoice. He says to count it a privilege to suffer for the sake of Christ, as their Savior suffered for them. This letter makes reference to Peter’s personal experiences with Jesus and his sermons from the book of Acts. Peter confirms Satan as the great enemy of every Christian but the assurance of Christ’s future return gives the incentive of hope.

Practical Application: The assurance of eternal life is given to all Christians. One way to identify with Christ is to share in His suffering. To us that would be to endure insults and slurs from those who call us “goodie two shoes” or “holier than thou.” This is so minor compared to what Christ suffered for us on the Cross. Stand up for what you know and believe is right and rejoice when the world and Satan aim to hurt you.

Recently, I blogged about how suffering is compatible with an all-powerful God, so you might want to read that too if you missed it.

7 thoughts on “If you accept Jesus and become a Christian, will God make you happy?”

  1. Oh, amen to this! That’s a very difficult walk however and it can be easily misunderstood by those outside of the church. I honestly am filled with joy for the most part. Paul teaches us to be content in all things, even in unpleasant circumstances. Christ teaches us to keep your eyes on Him even even during the storms, especially during the storms. That doesn’t mean there isn’t a lot of suffering in our lives, it’s simply we have the grace to get through it.

    As to the woman who was raped, that is a theft, but if you allow those deceptions to rob you of your relationship with God, you have allowed another theft to take place too. It’s maddening because the one time we need women to be defiant, to fight back, is during those times of spiritual warfare and that is when we so often just lay down and give up.

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  2. Yes this is a failure of many churches (and people like Joel Osteen in particular), but this is mainly a failure of our culture. Our culture teaches that you will be happy if only [fill in the blank].

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  3. Too many young people who grew up in church don’t actually adopt Christianity. Instead, they adopt a Christianized version of Moralistic Therapeutic Deism. They say all the right things and speak the lingo, but they really see God as their private genie in the sky who is supposed to make everything happy and nice for them. They don’t see Christianity as truth so much as a way to be a good person and have God looking out for you.

    We have to get back to teaching Christianity as truth that corresponds to reality out there in the real world. We have to start showing young people why we believe what we believe. They need to know the evidence. And we absolutely have to be extra careful to emphasize that God isn’t necessarily going to make this life happy for us.

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  4. I have been a Christian for 13 years (since I was ‘born again’ at 22) and have come to realise that I have never experienced an ounce of ‘happiness’, ‘hope’ ‘joy’ or ‘love’ either from God or for others due to the supposed indwelling of a Spirit. I have experienced nothing but profound guilt, longing and self-deprecation due to accepting the idea that I am under the judgment of a genocidal Jewish tribal deity. Accepting the Gospel was the most disempowering thing I ever did and it literally ruined my life. God, if he exists, hates me. I’ve been marked for destruction from the beginning of time. My best option is to hate that bully back and slug him in the face every chance I get.

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    1. Very strange. When I say that I experience suffering, I mean the suffering is all externally caused. My actual relationship with God is an enormous comfort to me, and I have nothing but love and respect for God in Christ. By suffering, I mean stuff like “single women today to not respect my strengths, like chastity” or I mean “speaking out against no-fault divorce, same-sex marriage, single-mother welfare” makes people angry with me. I’m not sure what suffering you mean. I try to play defense in life and never bite off more than I can chew. You’ve heard of those people who are penniless and in debt and go off to be missionaries? That’s not me. I’m the guy who eats instant oatmeal for breakfast, canned salmon for lunch and kidney beans for dinner, and never does anything crazy.

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  5. Fully agree with Amy on this. A puppy can make sad people feel happy. Christ offers Himself as a Saviour from sin’s penalty and power, not its problems. Also, the message that Christianity smooths the road and removes the problems not only leaves troubled people let down, but it means that successful people are left out – Christianity seems irrelevant to them because their hearts aren’t broken, they aren’t addicts or lonely. The truth is they still need Christ because they have broken God’s law.
    One wee thing, you seem to have a real issue with Tozer. I haven’t read much of his work, but it never struck me that he presented God as your buddy who will keep you safe and happy. The Knowledge of the Holy is the one book of his I’ve read, and I was enriched by his consideration of the attributes of God: “I believe there is scarcely an error in doctrine or a failure in applying Christian ethics that cannot be traced finally to imperfect and ignoble thoughts about God…Low views of God destroy the gospel for all who hold them.” A Joel Osteen he is not!

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