A new study sheds light on how the presence of children affects marital stability and happiness. (H/T Reformed Seth)
Excerpt:
[…][C]hildfree couples divorce more often than couples who have at least one child, according to researchers, despite numerous studies that indicate marital happiness plummets in the first year or two after the birth of a child and sometimes never quite recoups.
Among the research author Po Bronson gathered for his various books, he notes the work done by sociologist Paul H. Jacobson as proof:
“For couples without children, the divorce rate in 1948 was 15.3 per 1,000. Where one child was present, the estimate rate was 11.6 per 1,000. The figure thus continues to decrease, and in families with four or more children, it was 4.6. Altogether, the rate for couples with children was 8.8 per 1,000. In other words, the rate for childless couples was almost double the rate for families with children.”
OK, but Jacobson’s study was published in 1950; is it still true today?
Yes, according to journalist Anneli Rufus, whose number crunching discovered that of the divorced couples in the United States, 66 percent are childless compared with 40 percent who have kids. Why? Evidently, the “absence of children leads to loneliness and weariness.”
[…]So if they’re so happy, why do more kidfree couples end up splitting?
“People assume children are the glue that holds a marriage together, which really isn’t true. Kids are huge stressors,” says Scott, head of the Childless by Choice Project whose documentary on childfree couples was just released. “Despite that, there is a strong motive to stay together. The childfree don’t have that motive so there’s no reason to stay together if it’s not working.” That’s why for Wilde, who says her relationship became too much work and “I don’t think love should be work,” it wasn’t too hard to kiss her prince goodbye.
The article is from an extremely liberal web site, which explains why they are quoting all of these anti-child web sites. There is some sort of doomsday overpopulation myth that people on the left often believe in, against all the evidence. It’s really just selfishness, though.
I think that one of the reasons why childless couples divorce more is because people tend to stay together for the children and try to work it out.
One reason some don’t want/have children is they are, simply, selfish and this selfishness undoubtedly affect the marital relationship. In fact, I’ve often thought almost all reasons for divorce can be boiled down to selfishness.
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