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Meghan Markle says women should not be shamed for promiscuity: is she right?

So, on Wednesday, I found a story on Daily Wire that made me really concerned. In the story, famous feminist Meghan Markle said that people should not reject women for marriage just because those women have had many past sexual partners. And she said that women can “make up” for their sexual pasts by excelling in their careers. I thought I should say something about this.

So first, here is the article from Daily Wire.

Markle, a far-left previously divorced radical feminist who only has work experience as an actress, says this:

Meghan Markle said she doesn’t understand why women are “vilified” for exploring their sexuality while she said it appeared that men are instead “celebrated” for doing the same.

The former actress talked about what she called the double standard when it comes to men and women “exploring” their “sensuality”… “One of the things that I think as all women, we face, as you’re getting older, you’re exploring and starting to understand your sensuality, your feminine divine,” the Duchess of Sussex shared. “Your sexuality, oftentimes, it can be very much used against you.”

“A man, if he is a player, out having fun or whatever he’s doing, it’s often celebrated, even heralded,” she added. “But for a woman, I don’t care if she is perhaps the most successful woman in finance in her mid-50s, I promise you, someone will still go, ‘But she was such a slut in college.’ It will stick with her.”

“And I don’t understand what it is about the stigma surrounding women and their sexuality, the exploration of their sexuality that is so much more vilified than for a man…,”Markle continued.

So, the reason I have to say something about this is because Markle is a radical feminist, and her views are being accepted by many young, unmarried women. And the church is not opposing this, believing that not judging feminism is a form of “chivalry”. Christian men are terrified of telling women no, even when it’s best for women to be told no. So let’s take a look at the mistakes Markle makes.

A fixation on promiscuous men

First, notice how she is concerned with emulating men who are promiscuous. Thanks to feminism, young women reject traditional male roles such as moral and spiritual leader. Men who talk about truth and morality are seen as inferior to the men who are attractive and promiscuous.  Unfortunately, 80% of the women are all chasing after the 5% of men who have a pleasing physical appearance and displayed wealth. And since these men have options, they feel no pressure to commit to any woman. In fact, these men treat women terribly. Which is why women should ignore them, and focus on men who are displaying marriage-ability and marriage-intentions. But Meghan Markle is telling women that these promiscuous men are great, and that women need to emulate them. She just doesn’t want women to be judged for acting like these scummy promiscuous men.

What does the data say?

So why do men quietly avoid women who are promiscuous? The short answer is because promiscuous women are risky to marry.

Many feminists think that men choose women based on emotions, but this is a mistaken way of understanding men. Men do not make decisions based on feelings. Men calculate risks and costs. Men’s top concern with marriage is avoiding financial ruin from the divorce courts. Men read social science studies to understand what kinds of behaviors make a woman initiate divorce. And what those men find in the studies is that a woman’s promiscuity is a major risk factor for her initiating divorce. The more sexual partners a woman has, the higher the risk of marital instability, and the greater the likelihood of financial ruin for the man.

Compatibility or restraint? The effects of sexual timing on marriage relationships

We found that the longer a dating couple waits to have sex, the better their relationship is after marriage. In fact, couples who wait until marriage to have sex report higher relationship satisfaction (20% higher), better communication patterns (12% better), less consideration of divorce (22% lower), and better sexual quality (15% better) than those who started having sex early in their dating. For couples in between—those that became sexually involved later in their dating, but prior to marriage—the benefits were about half as strong.

Counterintuitive Trends in the Link Between Premarital Sex and Marital Stability

Consistent with prior research, those with fewer sex partners were less likely to divorce. [W]omen who married as virgins had the lowest divorce rates by far… 6 percent. […]Premarital sex with one partner substantially increases the odds of divorce (21%).

[…]The highest five-year divorce rates of all are associated with… having ten or more premarital sex partners: 33 percent.

Feminists don’t like to think that men are guiding their decisions from these studies. But men are. Feminists look at these studies, and they think “who cares about scientific studies?” and “who cares about the risks to men?” Markle is focused on women being shamed for her promiscuity, but she has no concerns about the financial ruin that men experience in divorce courts. And that’s why she finds men avoiding promiscuous women so objectionable.

A man would have to be a fool to undertake an enterprise where he has all of the risks, all of the responsibilities, all of the exposure to legal tyranny, but none of the authority to lead the relationship. And that’s why the marriage rate is in a free-fall, because men are declining the offer of unstable marriage, which is being produced by promiscuous feminists. Markle is mad because women are feeling bad about being shamed. But men feel much worse, when they lose their house, car, money, children, and are put in debtor’s prison.

Remember, feminist thought leaders approve of the hook-up culture, believing that it is critical to making sure that women can have fun with the no-commitment bad boys that they are attracted to, but without letting their flings derail their educations and careers. The goal is to prevent pregnancies with abortion, and delay marriage for as long as possible while climbing the corporate ladder.  But hook-up culture is terrible for men who desire early marriage and children. These are the exact men who are passed over by women like Markle, who despise male headship. The problem is not that promiscuous women are being shamed. The problem is that promiscuous men are NOT being shamed. Markle needs to start shaming the hot bad boys who are spending all of their future wife’s  money on casual sex with no-commitment feminists. We need more shaming of promiscuity, not less. For both sexes.

And of course, these studies work the other way, too. Women should also avoid promiscuous men, in order to avoid marriage instability. So, it is actually even more awful that Meghan Markle doesn’t tell women to avoid these promiscuous men. Her support for promiscuity is exposing women to poor treatment by unstable, manipulative, narcissistic predators.  A cynical man might think that Markle was working for socialists, who want women to make themselves unstable for marriage. That way, they would never marry, and just keep working and paying taxes for the bureaucrats to spend on buying votes from the reckless people who need government handouts in order to survive.

No fix is in the pipeline

It’s important to understand that there is no fix for Markle’s embrace of promiscuity in the pipeline. No one is thinking about the risks men face from divorce courts. (See Dr. Stephen J. Baskerville’s “Taken Into Custody: The War Against Fathers, Marriage, and the Family”)

Feminists and their Christian allies agree that women should be encouraged to embrace feminism, and men must simply “man up” and marry them anyway, regardless of the financial risks of divorce. 68% of unmarried women voted for abortion, transgenderism, same-sex marriage, and cracking down on Christians who oppose these things in the 2022 mid-terms. But that is no problem for these feminists and their Christian allies. Just bully the men into marrying these promiscuous Democrat women anyway. Who cares? Men are expendable, like slaves. Whip them harder, and force them to serve.

Marriage is voluntary. If all the focus is on women’s needs not to be “shamed” for promiscuity, and no one cares about what marriage-minded men need, then marriages will not happen.  That is how the world works in reality. Right now, a good man would have to be literally insane to marry a promiscuous feminist. Men have to assume that any woman who does not have a record of demonstrated opposition to feminism and promiscuity has taken part in the hook-up culture, and is therefore a high risk of divorce.

5 thoughts on “Meghan Markle says women should not be shamed for promiscuity: is she right?”

  1. What women like Markle need to realize is that the difference between how men and women are treated regarding promiscuity is not a double standard. It is simply a reflection of the fact that men and women are different and have different biological drives.

    Setting aside the question of whether or not it is moral for a man to behave promiscuously, the reason men are praised by society when they have multiple sexual partners is because it is difficult for a man to do so and it is a demonstration that such a man possesses the traits that women themselves (rightly or wrongly) have chosen to value in men.

    The vast, vast majority of men cannot be promiscuous, even if they want to be. Women are for the most part, unwilling to consent to sex with a man if he isn’t tall, handsome, high status, wealthy, or more likely some combination of all of the above. As a result, men who are promiscuous have demonstrated their value to women (again rightly or wrongly) and the fact that women have chosen to have sex with them communicates to men and women alike that these are the men that women collectively value.

    For women on the other hand, it is extremely easy to be promiscuous. Unlike women, men are generally willing to have sex with any woman who is willing, and unlike a woman’s consent, a man’s willingness to have sex with a woman says almost nothing about how attractive she is, her social status, wealth or anything else. If an overweight, unattractive woman wants to have sex, she can hop on Tinder and she’ll be having sex within the hour. Her choice to be promiscuous does not communicate anything about her value to men or women. In fact, since men are generally willing to have sex with just about any woman, her choice to have sex without making him commit first actually makes her less valuable to women and men alike.

    You can not like this difference all you want. Many men don’t like the fact that women aren’t willing to have sex with average Joe, but that doesn’t change the truth of the matter. Unfortunately for women, the sword cuts both ways.

    Again, I’m not commenting on whether or not it is moral for a man to be promiscuous. It is simply untrue and disingenuous to say that there is a double standard. Women are voluntarily exalting the men that are promiscuous by choosing to have casual sex with them, while simultaneously dropping their own value.

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    1. A great comment and it contains a lot about which I was intending to say. Thus, I’ll only add that, as you suggest, womanizers aren’t necessarily celebrated so much as envied for achieving that which most men are unable to achieve as regards getting the attention of desirable women.

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  2. What guys are going around telling women to marry the uncaring jerks that sleep with a lot of women. It never happens so I find the arguement to marry high event women is quite silly if it is forced upon people.

    It points out the red flags on an individual if they live this kind of life.

    A Christian is supposed to no be unequally bound to a person and you don’t need to carry a spouse for life.

    Other than if God gives you a prophetic message to marry a harlot to illustrate the unfaithfulness of the church or world it is fine to have a high standard.


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