Sometimes, I feel that I write such mean and judgy things that it discourages people who are involved in a very rebellious lifestyle to think that there is anything that God can do with them. This is because, as a man, I am very interested in setting out boundaries for people to protect them. If I’m dealing with a genuinely repentant or just plain open-minded person, then I am very much more understanding and supportive.
Here’s the story from the Christian Post that caused me to feel guilty about my being so mean all the time:
Emily Thomes, now a wife and churchgoer who has been speaking out about leaving behind homosexuality, explained in a Facebook video last week for Anchored North, an online evangelism website, that her first romantic relationship with another girl began when she was 15 years old.
“It was my first time ever dating someone,” Thomes says in the video, which has been viewed over 1.3 million times as of Tuesday.
She says that she came out to other people, and reasoned that God would be accepting of her relationship.
“God being love meant God was nice and God was chill with what you were cool with,” she said of her thinking at the time.
“By 18 and 19 and 20, I was super wild and in serial relationships with women,” Thomes reveals.
She adds that she ended up getting engaged to a woman who had two children when she entered nursing school.
At 22, however, she got invited to a Bible study.
And here are the verses:
I searched for verses on homosexuality and found 1 Corinthians 6:9–10. I’d read these and other verses like them before. I’d argued against them to those who opposed me, but suddenly I could no longer argue. It was clear. I was in the “will not enter the kingdom of God” lineup. I was lost, wretched, and blatantly opposed to him. But the next verse said, “And such were some of you” (1 Cor. 6:11). Clearly, the Lord could save me. He’d extended his hand to me, the worst of sinners (1 Tim. 1:15). I grasped his hand by faith, and I felt overwhelmingly awful and grateful. Although I’d ignored him and lived foolishly, he showed me mercy when I deserved nothing but justice.
My whole life changed that day. Homosexual practice and drug use were my most obvious sins, but there are many others he revealed and—continues to reveal—to me. I still battle same-sex attraction, pride, anger, and a slew of sins, but I trust he’ll complete the work he’s begun (Phil. 1:6). He’s also allowed me to be a wife, and one day, Lord willing, a mother. Two months ago—on the two-year anniversary of my conversion—I married the most Christlike man I’ve ever known.
A lot of people grow up in situations where they don’t get a good, healthy example of a man and a woman loving each other as their parents. It’s really hard for people who grow up without one or both parents to know what to do when pursuing their own relationships. A lot of times, they will get into trouble because they don’t know what’s appropriate, and who to have a relationship with. By the time they reach the point where they are considering a relationship with God at all, they’re already in a lifestyle that doesn’t allow them to do a fair and reasonable consideration of the evidence. It would simply be too much of a change to turn back on all the non-Christian commitments and relationships that they’ve already invested in. Fortunately, there is help for people like that in the Bible, as we’ve seen.