One of the reasons why I have an alias for my speaking and writing is that I have seen people in the workplace go after Christians and conservatives who spoke out on controversial issues. It’s not unusual for people to go after Christians and conservatives on issues like evolution, global warming, LGBT, BLM, etc. And by go after, I mean cancel them, fire them, make them pay money.

One of the people who tracks this sort of ideological pressuring of Christians and conservatives is Tyler O’Neil, who writes for the Daily Signal. He had a recent article posted where he talked about a case of cancel culture going on in Cleveland, Ohio. Now, you might think “Ohio is a red state” but cities like Cleveland, Toledo, Columbus and even Cincinnati are pretty blue. And Christians and conservatives living in these cities don’t have the same freedom to speak as people in Nashville, TN or Birmingham, AL.

Anyway, here’s the story, which concerns the attempted cancelling of Aaron Baer, president of the Center for Christian Virtue:

[M]ore than 100 LGBTQ+ leaders and organizations across Ohio signed an open letter denouncing the City Club for hosting Baer and urging the venue to “cancel or modify this forum in a way that does not platform an organization that has been designated by the Southern Poverty Law Center as an anti-LGBTQIA2S+ hate group.”

The letter makes four demands: cancel the event or include an LGBTQ+ activist; replace Moulthrop with a likely pro-LGBTQ+ “external moderator”; “disavow platforming hate speech”; or “structure the event so that diverse and impacted perspectives are not only present but also meaningfully centered.”

More than 20 organizations—including HRC Cleveland, the LGBT Community Center of Greater Cleveland, Equality Ohio, GLAAD, and Plexus LGBT & Allied Chamber of Commerce—signed the letter, which aims to “prevent extremism from going unchallenged” and suggests a distinction between “facilitating dialogue and platforming organized hate.”

“Free speech is a cornerstone of our democracy,” Dwayne Steward, CEO and executive director of Equality Ohio, told The Daily Signal. Yet he argued that Baer’s message is “rooted in oppression and erasure.”

That part always makes me laugh – the invocation of “tolerance”, “inclusion”, “diversity”, “equality” and “free speech” by secular left fascists. I have seen this so many times with my own eyes at university, in the FT100 IT workplace, and these speeches by left-wing activists. They love to use these words, but then they follow it up with actions that show no respect for the human rights of the people they disagree with. Just look up the stories of the Christian bakers, florists or photographers. Or look up the story of Floyd Lee Corkins and his attempted domestic terrorism at the Family Research Council HQ.

And remember, this is coming just a little while after a high-profile assassination of a well-known conservative Christian by a left-wing assassin. And this combination of cancel culture and domestic terrorist actions is not uncommon among secular leftists.

I have noticed a very strange thing when I talk to regular non-apologetics-equipped Christians at church or at work about how much they advocate for Biblical views about controversial issues. On the one hand, Christians really want me to know that if they were threatened with death for their faith in Jesus, they would totally be ready to die for their faith in Jesus. But, when I look at their social media, it’s filled with non-controversial things. Their travels, their athletic achievements, their sports teams, photos of their kids, etc. So, there is this weird thing going on where we POTENTIALLY have millions of bold martyrs for Christ, but ACTUALLY have a bunch of Christians in hiding.

And listen, I don’t blame these hiding Christians, because I’m careful myself about what I say under my own name, that’s why I have an alias, and probably why I have no wife and no kids (because a wife and kids means you have responsibilities and obligations that keep you from losing your job due to speaking out). What I’m saying is that we need to have laws and policies that make it as easy for the hiding Christians to speak their minds. That’s why we have to get noisy when we see the rights of Christians and conservatives curtailed by bullies from the secular left. There are a lot of people watching who want to know if it is safe, and we have to fight to make it safe for them.

I wish I didn’t have to have an alias. But in order to survive in STEM programs at university, and then in corporate America, I had to have an alias. Some people have lives where they are strong enough financially and well-connected socially that they have what they need to speak out already, and that’s good. But many Christians and conservatives are not safe to speak out without being punished. They are running the calculations, and choosing to stay silent. We need to make it as easy as possible for them to speak their minds, so they can have the impact that they are meant to have.

I was having a conversation with my friend Katy the other day, about whether men are not interested in marrying because they find older women unattractive. I told her that men find older women very attractive, if they are slim and athletic. I left it at that, but I wanted to go on and explain to her why men are declining to  marry, even good Christian men who have good jobs and savings,

My thesis is that men have recognized that the legal system is very much against them, and it is unwise for them to expose themselves to that legal system.

What’s the evidence?

So, on this blog, I have written about how women overall initiate 69% of the divorces that they are involved in. In fact, college-educated women initiate 90% of the divorces they are involved in. And I’ve written about how the sentences for men are 63% more severe than for women, for the exact same crime and criminal record. And I’ve written about how a high number of the accusations of rape or sexual assault by women (20-40 percent) are hoaxes. And I’ve written about how men are often the victims of paternity fraud. Men don’t even have to cohabitate with a woman to be billed for thousands of dollars in alimony and child support. False accusations of child abuse are routinely used in order to eject husbands from their homes, and to get custody of the children (and the child support money that comes with having custody).

I could go on and on, but I hope enough has been said to show what the evidence supports the view that the legal system in America is biased against men.

But wait! There’s another reason. Men have also noticed that women can easily press false accusations, and they suffer virtually no consequences when those accusations are proven false and / or recanted.

Here is a recent example, reported by New York Post:

A Pennsylvania woman who admitted to fabricating kidnapping and rape allegations against a stranger whom she “specifically targeted” because she thought he was “creepy” last year is paying for her lies.

Anjela Borisova Urumova, 20, was sentenced to from 45 days to 23 months in Bucks County Correctional Facility on Tuesday by Judge Stephen A. Corr, according to the Bucks County District Attorney’s Office.

The article notes that she “pleaded guilty to seven misdemeanor counts, including tampering with or fabricating physical evidence and false reports.” As a result of her lies, the accused spent 31 days in prison.

Three things. First, he is married:

Pierson, 41, was present with his wife in court Tuesday but did not wish to make a statement during the sentencing since the ordeal has been “too emotional” for him and his family, the DA’s office said.

Second, the false accuser recanted her accusation:

She then went to the police and accused Pierson as her attacker before eventually fessing up to the tale.

Third, she judged him as evil based solely on her feelings (intuitions, first impressions) about his appearance:

Urumova told investigators that she “specifically targeted” Pierson because she had seen him and his blue Ford F-150 pickup truck in the area before and thought he was “creepy.”

I asked Grok what the average sentence is for a false accusation of rape, compared to a real conviction of rape, and it said:

Data on sentences for false accusations of rape or sexual assault by women in the USA is limited. Available studies and legal cases suggest most convictions result in light punishments, often suspended sentences, fines, or no jail time. Estimating based on available information, including cases with zero jail time, the average sentence is approximately 2 months (0.17 years).

For men convicted of rape in the USA, the average prison sentence is 212 months (17.67 years), per 2019 USSC data.

So, women get “approximately 2 months” for a false accusation of rape, and men get “average prison sentence is 212 months” for a rape conviction.

False accusations deter good men from marrying

Even if a good man is very clever about choosing the right women to be his wife, he would still be vulnerable to false accusations from women in the workplace, and other places. It’s not the Christian homeschooling future wife in the house who is the problem. It’s the radical feminist single mother in the office who is the problem. The bitter, angry one with the 200+ body count, and the 200K of student loan debt for a degree in misandry.

And the worst part of this is that when you tell pro-marriage people about these false accusations, they dismiss it. I’ve been told “why would you make decisions off of evidence and calculations? One day you’ll meet a nice girl and fall in love” It’s terrifying to be dealing with people who approach major life decisions by feelings and wilful blindness. They try to goad you into bad decisions by shaming you.

Imagine if someone tried to sell you a lemon at the car dealership by attacking your masculinity. “I dare you to buy this used car without getting it checked out by a mechanic!” You would have to be really lacking in education and work experience to think that the “man up!” approach would work on a man. And yet, when I talk to pro-marriage people, this is their only argument. They scream “Get Married!” and then refuse to address any of the evidence of the threats posed by feminism, such as false accusations.

Who is going to support the good wife and good children if the man is in prison because of a false accusation? Not the pro-marriage advocates. And the younger generation of women are sliding further and further into secularism and leftism, making the risk of false accusation even higher. Why would a wise man expose himself to these risks? Especially when no one wants to fix the problem.

Here’s the bottom line: It’s an enormous deterrent to a good man’s desire to be a husband and father that they are exposed to prison and / or financial ruin because of false accusations. You have to give men a good value proposition if you expect them to go the husband and father route. Good men have other things that they can do with their money and time. Just because you really want them to do your plan with their lives, it doesn’t mean that they can’t find something else to do with their time and money – like focus on serving God. If you want men to marry, then take men’s concerns seriously.

I found an interesting article by Beth Brelje in The Federalist. She writes about how Netflix shows indoctrinate children in pro-LGBT propaganda. Children often believe false ideas for all sorts of bad reasons. Just think of how many take out student loans for degrees that don’t result in jobs with good salaries. After that, I have two studies about how TV influences our attitudes on LGBT.

First, the article from The Federalist:

Some 41 percent of children’s shows on Netflix are pushing the LGBT agenda, according to a recently released report by Concerned Women for America (CWA).

CWA analyzed Netflix programming ratings for children and found 41 percent of both G-rated and TV-Y7-rated series on Netflix contain LGBT content.

Why is this happening?

It is not an accident that more LGBT characters are being written into storylines across media. It is encouraged by the nonprofit Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD).

Each year, GLAAD produces the “Where We Are on TV Report,” tracking representation.

“Between June 1, 2024 and May 31, 2025, GLAAD counted 489 LGBT regular or recurring characters in total. This is a 4% increase and 21 additional characters from 468 characters counted in the previous edition,” the 2025 report said.

What’s shocking is how much representation is aimed at children. LGBT activists are well aware that parents feel it is not a topic for their children to explore without parental guidance. Sneaking it into children’s programming is a blatant attempt to change the culture.

I ran into this problem when I was in my mid-20s. My co-workers were watching a television show called “Will & Grace” (which had nothing to do with soteriology). It was a portrayal of a gay character in positive ways, and this was having a huge effect on the attitudes of young people to LGBT.

It didn’t make any sense to me, because around that time I was reading books about LGBT by scientists, therapists and medical doctors like Jeffrey Satinover and Charles Socarides. But while I was getting more accurate views of LGBT, everyone else was watching propaganda. And they were coming to opposite conclusions than I did. This was especially troubling because at that time I wanted to get married. And what I found was that young Christian women in particular seemed to be getting liberal on moral issues. And today, it’s become a huge split between young men and young women. Even back then, parents and pastors didn’t seem to think that it was a big deal that young women were becoming more liberal because of TV shows and movies.

Let’s look at two studies about this topic and see if there is any data to support my thesis.

The first study is “Can One TV Show Make a Difference? Will & Grace and the Parasocial Contact Hypothesis“. It was published in the Journal of Homosexuality (Volume 53, Issue 4, 2007). This study tested whether repeated exposure to positive gay characters in Will & Grace (which aired from 1998–2006 and reached 25 million weekly viewers at its peak) could foster similar attitude shifts among straight audiences who rarely knew gay people personally. And what they found was that showing episodes of the show to undergraduate students reduced their opposition to LGBT. The more episodes shown, the more positive their views of LGBT.

The second study is “Exposure to the Lives of Lesbians and Gays and the Origin of Young People’s Greater Support for Gay Rights“. It was published in the International Journal of Public Opinion Research in November 2014. The study tested the impact of exposure to LGBT characters in popular media, focusing on the sitcom Grace Under Fire (1993–1998), which featured a recurring gay character. And what they found was that frequent viewing of the show produced more positive views of LGBT behaviors, as well as LGBT-friendly policies.

So, you can clearly see how watching TV shows and movies – which are fiction – can change your attitudes to be out of alignment with actual evidence. And I think that if those changes are related to areas where the Bible has spoken – like the definition of marriage, objective vs subjective truth, etc. – then it can cause people to turn away from the Bible and / or Christianity. The new feelings and attitudes that came from TV and movies clash with the Bible and Christian worldview, and the entertainment wins. For example, a young Christian might watch TV shows that paint divorce in a positive light, and then leave Christianity because it is too “restrictive” or “repressive” or “intolerant” or “bigoted”.

Consider the following movies:

• Eat Pray Love
• Sex and the City
• The Bridges of Madison County
• Fifty Shades of Grey
• The Notebook
• Pretty Woman

These movies are VERY popular with young people, but they portray very, very negative views of sex, marriage, male headship, child-bearing, etc. The important thing is NOT that these movies disagree with the Bible, with church, or with Christianity. The problem is that the views presented in these movies are FALSE views that can result in tragic life outcomes. These popular movies are teaching people to proceed on life plans that do not lead to successful outcomes. It’s as if people were learning from TV and movies to rely on the lottery for their retirement savings. This does not work in real life. And yet, because it is in the TV shows and the movies that have fancy clothes and big explosions and beautiful people, people chart the course of their lives based on their views.

This is very serious.

Lately, I have been spending a bit more time on cooking, weights and cardio. I was able to do this because I found good TV shows to watch while doing these things.

I watch shows like “The Rifleman”:

Season 1 playlist:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LRpEpIGpxrE&list=PLtbMv4lXX2mvPj1kMzYl1OFczol5AxMQE

Season 2 playlist:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4pnstPnvY4&list=PLtbMv4lXX2msIZiCC8z-bBwt2kkFWpguq

Season 3 playlist:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIsQ2lYSdSA&list=PLtbMv4lXX2mtW-zGH_G35XpbnoStlCmjA

Season 4 playlist:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YZYTjys7_WA&list=PLtbMv4lXX2mtfjYYL74JqCoI5kZr0P-Pu

Season 5 playlist:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_LPzIbzWRw4&list=PLtbMv4lXX2mtaEv2tcCFaYtCfQefGkkLl

I also listen to military history audio books. For moral and truth issues, stick to non-fiction. I don’t recommend reading fiction at all.

I think video games are better than TV and movies, because you actually get to make plans and decisions and execute and adapt. If you use Steam, there are curators who detect woke content in games. I play military simulation games like The Troop or Armored Brigade II. Next year, I want to play Sea Power and Task Force Admiral. (You can watch me play The Troop on my YouTube channel). And I love solo military board games, like Skies Above Britain, Atlantic Chase, and Carrier Battle: Philippine Sea. I don’t want to have my views change because of the entertainment I choose.