Let’s look at a tweet from a conservative Christian pro-marriage activist named Katy Faust. Katy is a very conservative Christian who advocates for marriage and parenting. She recently tweeted her view that Elon Musk is a polygamist, because he is accused of having consensual recreational sex with a 26-year-old woman. Is Katy right to accuse Elon Musk of “polygamy”?

Here is her tweet.

And it says:

Elon is a modern day #polygamist- a family structure characterized by jealousy & inequality.

“Musk has never asked to see the baby, nor asked for photos of him”

St. Clair [asked] to meet “Hmm ok,” EM responds, “Well, I do have a legion of kids to make.”

And she links to this article in the New York Post, which clearly explains why this is not “polygamy”, it’s just premarital sex between an adult female and a wealthy non-Christian man.

In general, pro-marriage conservatives tell women like Ashley St. Clair two things:

1. When a man and a woman have recreational premarital sex, only the man is to blame. The woman didn’t do anything wrong.
2. A women should expect that premarital sex with a non-Christian man who has many babies with many other women will cause that man to convert to Christianity and marry her.

So, what happens when tall, hot, wealthy high-status bad boys like Elon Musk don’t comply with the message that pro-marriage conservatives tell young women? Well, then they ignore the woman’s own choices, and only shame and blame the man. “Why isn’t this bad man behaving like a good man?!” they cry.

This attitude that women should be free to follow their hearts, and men must be forced to pay for her choices is EVERYWHERE in our society. It’s in student loan bailouts, it’s in single mother welfare, it’s in the family courts. As I blogged previously, men receive much longer prison sentences than women for the same crimes. Men are just walking ATMs, and whenever women do something that doesn’t work, it’s ALWAYS a man’s fault, and men must ALWAYS pay the costs.

And this view is very popular. When I say popular, I think this is the majority view among Christian women and Christian pastors. They think that the main teaching of Christianity is just that men ought to transfer all their money to women after having premarital sex. That’s it. And they call this “servant leadership”. Women lead the relationship, and men just give them money,. Just like an ATM. And the entire family court system reflects this view – if a man disappoints a woman in any way, then she should just take half his stuff, and he should have to pay her alimony and child support forever. In fact, you don’t even have to get married. And you don’t even have to cohabitate. The courts will transfer the money.

How will men respond to this? Well, here is how they respond. The top 20% of the most attractive, wealthy and high status men will continue to be pursued by hordes of women like this 26-year-old woman, and these men will continue to get free sex with no commitment from these women. These men have options. They don’t need to commit to get sex. The line for them is around the block. The line is over the river and through the woods. 80% of women are chasing the top 20% of men. Far from finding non-Christian man-sluts repulsive, most women are attracted to their “dark triad” traits. And the pro-marriage conservatives just let these women follow their hearts. Then they turn to the bad men and try to shame them for being exactly what they are: BAD. “You bad man! How could you be bad?” they cry. They make the shocked pikachu face. And women watching get the message: keep chasing the tall, hot bad boys, nobody is ever going to hold us accountable for our bad choices. This is where abortion, fatherlessness and frivolous divorce come from, by the way.

Meanwhile, the bottom 80% of ordinary men, will continue to be invisible to these women… until these women hit 35-40. Then the aging women will ask “where are all the good men?” And then the pro-marriage conservatives will be right there, to point at the formerly-invisible men and say “you boring, stable men! You have to marry this single mother, who thinks she is settling for someone far beneath her because she once has sex with Elon Musk!”. And those men are going to say – and they are saying it now – “I DECLINE TO PARTICIPATE”. And then the pro-marriage conservatives will write articles to shame those men, but those men aren’t going to be shamed into becoming slaves. Not when they are just coming into their highest-earning years, and without any help from women.

So, who is responsible for the decline of marriage? Contrary to popular belief, it is not men. It is the pro-marriage conservatives. They are the ones who are clearly communicating to young women that is fine to chase premarital sex with tall, hot, wealthy, high-status bad boys. And they tell them to keep expecting these non-Christian man-sluts to suddenly change into Christians and commit, after they get premarital sex. It’s the pro-marriage conservatives who are setting false expectations of what happens after sex.

And this view that women must be left free to “follow their hearts” is everywhere in society. Women live in New York City, travel to Europe, and run up student loans for worthless non-STEM degrees. Women must have recreational sex in their 20s and 30s, delay marriage for career, and throw their fatherless kids into daycare. Or abort them. Oh yes, the pro-life conservatives only blame the tall, hot, non-Christian bad boys for abortion. Abortion is never the woman’s fault, because it was totally reasonable for her to expect the non-Christian man would convert to Christianity, marry her, give her all his money, and then transform into Prince Charming – right after she gives him recreational sex.

This is why the invisible good men are declining to date and marry. It’s the lies that pro-marriage conservatives tell young women. Lies that are reflected in our schools, workplaces, police, and courts. Good men know never to be the man that a leftover woman “settles” for, after her fun with the bad boys who she is actually attracted to. They know that they will bear the costs, when she inevitably divorces him. And that’s why the marriage rate is dropping.

I’ve been preparing an outline for a podcast about “Where Are All the Good Men?” and I only get to have like 7 questions. But one of the issues that gets a question is my obsession with homeschooling. I didn’t always like homeschooling, but the more I studied it, the more important it became. In my opinion, good men will insist on homeschooling out of a candidate wife, because it’s critical.

Here’s a story about a new study that I found in The Federalist:

A recent report from the Cardus Education Survey analyzed educational, economic, mental health, civic, family, and faith status for American adults who were homeschooled and found a range of outcomes within a diverse population.

[…]The most notable differences between homeschoolers and the survey respondents who were never homeschooled are seen in the mental health outcomes. The report states, “Compared to the other respondent groups, long-term homeschoolers exhibited the highest levels of optimism, gratitude, and life satisfaction. Long-term homeschoolers were also the least likely to ‘feel helpless dealing with life’s problems’ and to report symptoms associated with depression and anxiety.”

In the area of spirituality and faith, the report found: “Homeschooled adults were much more likely to report that they believed in God and life after death and regularly engaged in religious practices. The prevalence of religious belief and practice increased with the number of years spent in the homeschool sector.”

This is pretty good, but even better if you pair it with another recent study on homeschooling that was written up in the Wall Street Journal.

With that said, here is a report from the Wall Street Journal about a new study that you might be able to use to be bold with people who oppose homeschooling. (Full text of the article here)

Parents want their kids to be well-educated and professionally successful, but they also want them to be healthy, happy and virtuous. By this broader measure of success, home schooling has advantages.

Among the students we examined, home-schoolers were 33% more likely to volunteer, 31% more forgiving and 51% more likely to attend religious services in young adulthood than those who attended public school. (“Levels of forgiveness” were measured on a self-reported four-point scale, which other research has shown predicts some subsequent health and well-being outcomes.)

The difference in religious participation has public-health implications, since those who attend services regularly have substantially lower risks of alcohol and drug abuse, depression and suicide. They also have a lower risk of premature death for any reason than those who never attend.

So, again, for a good man who is data-driven in his search for a wife, homeschooling emerges as the best option for educating the children. It’s just not a good idea to give your children to unionized, government-run schools for 6 hours a day. Those schools are not neutral. And as we’re seeing in the news, the people who work at those schools don’t view the parents who pay their salaries as customers. They’re more likely to see you as “domestic terrorists” just because you don’t agree with them on politics.

I don’t have TV and I have not been listening to news podcasts for a week, but I have the impression that the secular left is upset at the idea that our $37 trillion debt, and $2 trillion deficits will be cut. Somehow, they don’t really think that this is a problem. They want the spending (which is being paid for by future generations) to continue. Even if the spending is just wasteful.

Here’s a bombshell story from the Washington Free Beacon:

DOGE discovered $2 billion in taxpayer funds set aside for a fledgling nonprofit linked to perennial Georgia Democratic candidate Stacey Abrams.

The Environmental Protection Agency under the Biden administration awarded Power Forward Communities the grant in April 2024 as part of the agency’s Greenhouse Gas Reduction Fund program. Power Forward Communities received the green energy grant despite the fact that it was founded months earlier in late 2023 and never managed anywhere near the grant’s dollar figure—it reported just $100 in total revenue during its first three months in operation, according to its latest tax filings.

Two billion dollars for greenhouse gas reduction program? And they only reported $100 in revenue? That seems like a pretty poorly-run group. Let’s see who is running it.

More:

Power Forward Communities was established in October 2023 as a coalition of groups led by Rewiring America, a left-wing group that advocates for electrification policies and a transition away from fossil fuel dependence. Abrams, who serves as Rewiring America’s senior counsel, said at the time that she was “thrilled” to be part of the Power Forward Communities coalition. “This is how we expand access to clean energy—by prioritizing housing, equity and resilience,” she wrote in an X post.

Oh yes, Stacey Abrams! That well known nuclear physicist with the strong record of running companies that developed loads of clean nuclear energy, so that prices were lowered for consumers. Oh wait, no, that’s not the one. This Stacey Abrams is the romance novel author, who has earned no STEM degrees, and no STEM work experience. A single mother of 3 children. She has no achievements in the field of science at all.

More:

“For an organization that has no experience in this, that was literally just established, and had $100 in the bank to receive a $2 billion grant—it doesn’t just fly in the face of common sense, it’s out and out fraud,” Daniel Turner, the executive director of energy advocacy group Power the Future, alleged in an interview with the Free Beacon.

This is not the only instance of waste from the Biden administration. Here’s another from yesterday from Daily Caller:

Nikola, an electric vehicle start-up that received federal funding during the Biden administration, said it filed for Chapter 11 bankruptcy Wednesday and will pursue a sale of most or all of its assets.

The company, once a Wall Street darling valued at $30 billion, announced the bankruptcy after several quarters of rapid cash burn and waning investor interest. Nikola also suffered from chronic leadership changes after its founder and original CEO, Trevor Milton, was convicted of fraud in 2022. The long-haul electric truck manufacturer produced only 600 vehicles since its founding in 2014, according to CNBC News, despite receiving subsidies from the Biden administration’s Department of Energy (DOE).

So, should you listen to the corporate news media’s cries about DOGE cutting government waste and rooting out corruption? Of course not. This is the kind of thing they are finding, and stopping.