Let’s look at a tweet from a conservative Christian pro-marriage activist named Katy Faust. Katy is a very conservative Christian who advocates for marriage and parenting. She recently tweeted her view that Elon Musk is a polygamist, because he is accused of having consensual recreational sex with a 26-year-old woman. Is Katy right to accuse Elon Musk of “polygamy”?
Here is her tweet.
And it says:
Elon is a modern day #polygamist- a family structure characterized by jealousy & inequality.
“Musk has never asked to see the baby, nor asked for photos of him”
St. Clair [asked] to meet “Hmm ok,” EM responds, “Well, I do have a legion of kids to make.”
And she links to this article in the New York Post, which clearly explains why this is not “polygamy”, it’s just premarital sex between an adult female and a wealthy non-Christian man.
In general, pro-marriage conservatives tell women like Ashley St. Clair two things:
- When a man and a woman have recreational premarital sex, only the man is to blame. The woman didn’t do anything wrong.
- A women should expect that premarital sex with a non-Christian man who has many babies with many other women will cause that man to convert to Christianity and marry her.
So, what happens when tall, hot, wealthy high-status bad boys like Elon Musk don’t comply with the message that pro-marriage conservatives tell young women? Well, then they ignore the woman’s own choices, and only shame and blame the man. “Why isn’t this bad man behaving like a good man?!” they cry.
This attitude that women should be free to follow their hearts, and men must be forced to pay for her choices is EVERYWHERE in our society. It’s in student loan bailouts, it’s in single mother welfare, it’s in the family courts. As I blogged previously, men receive much longer prison sentences than women for the same crimes. Men are just walking ATMs, and whenever women do something that doesn’t work, it’s ALWAYS a man’s fault, and men must ALWAYS pay the costs.
And this view is very popular. When I say popular, I think this is the majority view among Christian women and Christian pastors. They think that the main teaching of Christianity is just that men ought to transfer all their money to women after having premarital sex. That’s it. And they call this “servant leadership”. Women lead the relationship, and men just give them money,. Just like an ATM. And the entire family court system reflects this view – if a man disappoints a woman in any way, then she should just take half his stuff, and he should have to pay her alimony and child support forever. In fact, you don’t even have to get married. And you don’t even have to cohabitate. The courts will transfer the money.
How will men respond to this? Well, here is how they respond. The top 20% of the most attractive, wealthy and high status men will continue to be pursued by hordes of women like this 26-year-old woman, and these men will continue to get free sex with no commitment from these women. These men have options. They don’t need to commit to get sex. The line for them is around the block. The line is over the river and through the woods. 80% of women are chasing the top 20% of men. Far from finding non-Christian man-sluts repulsive, most women are attracted to their “dark triad” traits. And the pro-marriage conservatives just let these women follow their hearts. Then they turn to the bad men and try to shame them for being exactly what they are: BAD. “You bad man! How could you be bad?” they cry. They make the shocked pikachu face. And women watching get the message: keep chasing the tall, hot bad boys, nobody is ever going to hold us accountable for our bad choices. This is where abortion, fatherlessness and frivolous divorce come from, by the way.
Meanwhile, the bottom 80% of ordinary men, will continue to be invisible to these women… until these women hit 35-40. Then the aging women will ask “where are all the good men?” And then the pro-marriage conservatives will be right there, to point at the formerly-invisible men and say “you boring, stable men! You have to marry this single mother, who thinks she is settling for someone far beneath her because she once has sex with Elon Musk!”. And those men are going to say – and they are saying it now – “I DECLINE TO PARTICIPATE”. And then the pro-marriage conservatives will write articles to shame those men, but those men aren’t going to be shamed into becoming slaves. Not when they are just coming into their highest-earning years, and without any help from women.
So, who is responsible for the decline of marriage? Contrary to popular belief, it is not men. It is the pro-marriage conservatives. They are the ones who are clearly communicating to young women that is fine to chase premarital sex with tall, hot, wealthy, high-status bad boys. And they tell them to keep expecting these non-Christian man-sluts to suddenly change into Christians and commit, after they get premarital sex. It’s the pro-marriage conservatives who are setting false expectations of what happens after sex.
And this view that women must be left free to “follow their hearts” is everywhere in society. Women live in New York City, travel to Europe, and run up student loans for worthless non-STEM degrees. Women must have recreational sex in their 20s and 30s, delay marriage for career, and throw their fatherless kids into daycare. Or abort them. Oh yes, the pro-life conservatives only blame the tall, hot, non-Christian bad boys for abortion. Abortion is never the woman’s fault, because it was totally reasonable for her to expect the non-Christian man would convert to Christianity, marry her, give her all his money, and then transform into Prince Charming – right after she gives him recreational sex.
This is why the invisible good men are declining to date and marry. It’s the lies that pro-marriage conservatives tell young women. Lies that are reflected in our schools, workplaces, police, and courts. Good men know never to be the man that a leftover woman “settles” for, after her fun with the bad boys who she is actually attracted to. They know that they will bear the costs, when she inevitably divorces him. And that’s why the marriage rate is dropping.
WINTERY KNIGHT 
Glad you brought up abortion, because this inequality is also present in the unbiblical pro-life movement.
If a man slips an abortion pill into a pregnant woman’s drink without her knowledge, and the baby dies, everyone agrees that the man should be charged with murder.
But, if the same pregnant woman willfully swallows the same abortion pill and kills the same baby, the unbiblical Republican pro-life movement says that she should NOT be charged with murder. Because somehow SHE is the “victim,” not the baby she murdered.
And when abortion abolitionists bring forward abolitionist bills in deep red states to criminalize everyone involved in the abortion, including the murderous mothers, it’s always pro-life Republicans who kill those bills. Because they too are effeminate.
Showing partiality to the wicked is condemned in the Bible.
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Strong and true. Keep saying it. I’m curious, do you have a church that is supportive of you, or mostly shuts you and tries to change the subject?
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The churches despise me because I’m a born again follower of Jesus Christ and they are not (with increasingly rare exceptions).
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Are you sure it’s because they’re too effeminate? I suspect it’s because they know that no such bill, however just, will ever become law. No legislature will pass it, no governor will sign it, no law enforcement agency will enforce it. If the goal of pro-life legislation is to save as many innocent lives as possible, then the good guys need to concentrate their efforts on laws that can be passed and enforced.
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No, they won’t support it because the pro-life movement is led by effeminate unbiblical catholics.
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Yes, I agree with you. Incrementalism works. That’s what gets results.
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It’s also doing evil so that “good” may result, which is condemned in the Bible.
Telling women that they are “victims” of their abortions, which is what the pro-life movement does, cuts off their only path to repentance and salvation, since true victims need not repent.
In this manner, the pro-life movement is encouraging tens of millions of women to Hell while disparaging the true victims of abortion, the 65 million children.
Are you an incrementalist on the sidewalk at the death camps, WK? Do you ask women going in if their baby has a detectable heartbeat, and if their answer is “no,” do you say “Oh, go ahead and murder that baby.”???
Because when I’m on the sidewalk, I try to save them ALL. I know that abortion is murder and that all murderers have their part in the Lake of Fire. I want to save ALL of the babies being taken in there and ALL of the women’s souls from becoming murderers. And I’ll bet God has saved more babies, and souls, through my approach than through yours, since you’re happy to let some babies be murdered and most women become murderers.
And so is the pro-life movement. They are thrilled with their unbiblical feminist catholic approach.
(Hope this comment stays up, because people need to read it.)
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Calling a law that saves some lives “evil” because it doesn’t save every life is absurd. It’s like saying that it’s evil for a firefighter to run into a burning building to save a life if he can’t save the lives of everyone in the building. Nothing would make me happier than a law that would protect the life of every unborn child, but unfortunately no such law is possible at present. Until it is, we have to do what we can.
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When the firefighter runs into a building, he TRIES to save every life in there, even though he often falls short.
When I go to the murder mills, I TRY to save every life even though I always fall short.
When the pro-life movement goes to the Legislators, they NEVER try to save every life, and they NEVER criminalize the murderous mothers who commit abortions. Instead they pass legislation that says when, where, and how abortions can be committed. (Heartbeat laws, 48 hour waiting periods, clean and sanitary murder facilities, etc.) This catechizes the public to believe that there are situations in which abortion is NOT murder.
The Bible condemns this kind of showing partiality to the wicked.
Even worse than all of these things, when abortion abolitionists put forth abolition laws in DARK RED states, it’s not the Democrats who defeat such legislation, because the Democrats have no power whatsoever in such states. It’s pro-life REPUBLICANS who defeat that legislation every single time, despite the fact that Republicans can pass ANY law that they want to in dark red states.
In Georgia right now, 22 state Legislators have co-sponsored an abolitionist bill. That’s a record. We’ll see how it goes.
But, if we look at the history books, it’s the slavery abolitionists, not the incrementalists, who we remember. And it was the incrementalists who fought the abolitionists the most fiercely, even in the free states.
There’s a great new book on this topic by Kayla Suderman called “Post-Roe Reformation” that covers both types of abolition, and the parallels are striking. I highly recommend it.
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I stopped dating over ten years ago, and I haven’t missed it. In fact my only regret is I didn’t stop decades before. There is nothing for a guy in a relationship anymore besides responsibilities and obligations.
The only way I would consider it again is if the Lord Himself puts someone in my life, and even then only after a lot of prayer and vetting.
I have grown rather fond of peace and quiet, chilling with my buds from church, and not dealing with the stress and hassles of relationships.
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For me, dating is like: find a long essay about apologetics or policy online, e-mail the author and ask if she is single. I have no time or money for anything other than that.
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