When terrible things happen to men in this society, you often get comments from people saying “well, it’s his fault, he chose a bad woman”. And I agree that men often make poor choices because they focus on attraction instead of on character. But what if a man is an innocent bystander, and is falsely accused by a woman he doesn’t even know? Is it still his fault then?
Here is the news story from Fox 2 Detroit.
Excerpt:
A Metro Detroit man cleared his name after Friend of the Court sent him a letter saying he had a baby with a woman he never met.
“She don’t know me, how do you just put my name down? How do you just put anybody’s name down?” DeAngelo Smith said. “I don’t know her. Never seen her. Still to this day, haven’t talked to her, and it just proves the baby has no ties to my name.”
Late last year, DeAngelo received a letter from Friend of the Court in Berrien County saying that he was the father of a baby girl.
His wife was the first to see the accusation:
His wife first spotted the letter in the mail from Friend of the Court.
“Let’s just set the record, I trust my husband,” Tyahvia Smith said. “I know his character, man of integrity.”
They contacted his employer:
While waiting for the child’s mother to take the baby for a DNA test, DeAngelo said the school where he teaches received an inquiry for possible garnishment in case the child was his.
“It made it something that is not being alleged, but now it’s something that’s being taken into action and no paternity has been established,” he said.
Finally, the woman had the DNA test done, and DeAngelo has since gotten a letter confirming he was not the father.
Legislation introduced by Republican Jim Runestad to prevent this from happening has been tied up for eight years… in a Republican-led legislature:
“It’s very unfortunate, but paternity fraud is not a unique, unusual situation in Michigan,” Sen. Jim Runestad (R-White Lake) said.
Runestad said he has been pushing for new legislation on the matter for the past eight years. Currently, there is no penalty for lying and a DNA test is not required before a person is contacted about the paternity of the child.
The fact that there are no consequences for doing this means that women are going to keep doing it again and again.
Does masculinity mean that a man should give a woman whatever she wants?
I sent this story to a conservative pro-marriage friend, and she said “So what? How many times does something like this happen?” Her only concern was that this story made women look bad. She had previously told me that “masculinity is when a man uses his strength to protect and provide for women”. So, then it is just “masculine” for this innocent man to pay for a child who isn’t his own. Why would he object to paying? Does he not like children?
Most people today like the changes that feminism has made for women. They like public schools run by women that discriminate against boys. They like women taking out huge student loans for useless non-STEM degrees, then demanding bailouts from taxpayers. They like women taking part in hook-up culture. They like women using no-commitment bad boys for validation. They like no-fault divorce laws. They like false accusations during divorce trials. They like biased domestic violence laws. They like paternity fraud. They like massive welfare spending designed to reward women who make reckless decisions. And they like feminist judges stripping fathers of parental rights for refusing to agree with the transing of their kids.
Men are expendable when it comes to creating greater happiness for women. So what’s wrong with sending a man a bill for a woman who needs some money for a child that isn’t his? It’s horrible to tell a woman that she can’t do what she feels like doing. It’s horrible to tell a woman that she has to pay the costs of her own actions. Just make a man pay for it. Men are big and strong, they can handle it. And besides, women never tell lies. We have to believe all women. We have to force men to make women happy. That’s “masculinity”.
Society pressures men to get married
This “believe all women” attitude that is shared by many Christians and conservatives becomes a problem for men when men are pressured to get married. This society makes marriage a risky enterprise for men. And men have to understand that this pressure to get married is often coming from people who see men as expendable in the cause of increasing women’s happiness. The person telling you to get married is often the same person who thinks that a DNA test shouldn’t be performed in a paternity case.
Men have to understand that the command to “get married” is coming from pro-marriage activists who think that men exist solely to make women happy. Who cares about the risks and costs of marriage for men? Who cares about men’s needs and desires? Who cares what reasons a man has for marrying? Who cares about a man’s standards for his wife? Who cares about a man’s plan for his marriage? He should just be pressured to get married. Just like the falsely accused paternity fraud victim should have to pay.
It’s not the purpose of men’s lives to get married and have kids
Always remember that according to the Bible, serving God is more honorable than getting married and having children. (Read 1 Cor 7:8-9 and 2 Tim 2:4) Many social conservatives try to guilt men into getting married and having children by denying the risks and costs of marriage for men. They think that Christianity’s main purpose is to force men to make women happy, regardless of what women offer to men in exchange. That’s the actual view of several of my social conservative Christian friends.
Men are designed to serve God first and foremost. And it’s much easier to serve God if you are not encumbered by alimony, child support, false accusations, denial of due process, paternity fraud, feminist judges, etc. Only women who honor that obligation, and want to help a man to meet that obligation, should be taken seriously for marriage and child-rearing.
WINTERY KNIGHT 
This sort of thing is exactly what I was talking about in an earlier post. Women can get away with almost anything in this society because they are not held accountable. Don’t think they aren’t aware of that either, even if they don’t come out and say it. It doesn’t make for a healthy social environment, let alone a good place to marry and have kids if that’s what you want. Worst part about it is it doesn’t seem anyone in a position to do anything about it cares beyond handwringing and crocodile tears.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I support so much of what you say in this post. Feminism has been and remains a powerfully destructive force, harming both men and women. Feminists blather about the problems of patriarchy, but the problems of matriarchy have been far worse – and this country has been characterized by matriarchy ever since feminism reached critical mass. Further, feminism has fueled other evils, including transgenderism – for transgenderism is nothing but feminism infused with hormones and surgeries. Femininity is beautiful; feminism is ugly and horrifying.
But you go too far when you say “It’s not the purpose of men’s lives to get married and have kids.” This is the primary way we serve God. If a man tells me that he is called by God to be celibate, I will respect that. But aside from such an individual calling, the default will of God according to Genesis is for every man to marry a woman and have children. Consider also the bodies of men and women – we are literally designed to mate and procreate. We should be fruitful and multiply and thus bring God joy.
That said, it is indeed a very difficult time to find a woman worthy of marriage and no man should marry a woman unworthy of it. But, apart from his having a clear and specific divine calling to remain alone, it is “not good,” and our hearts should break like God’s does for such men.
LikeLike
Faux-men-ism has infiltrated American churchianity to the extent that most “Christians” can’t even see it. It has wrecked the spiritual, and physical, state of women, abused men, and destroyed even the “conservative churches” to the point that it’s a terrible risk for a man to even enter those white washed tombs. (Referring to both churches and women.)
A woman who deliberately makes these kinds of false accusations should have to pay the falsely accused the child support money that he would have had to pay. In the case of criminal false accusations, she should have to spend the time in prison that he would have had to.
God is going to wreck the American Jezebels.
LikeLike
I never believed being masculine is having to be with women no matter what or having kids.
I more highly value being able to provide for myself, I can actually fix many things in my house or build.
I consider it manly that if social things break down a man can figure out some kind of shelter and resources to sustain themselves.
In a weak economy or over taxed society a man can figure out of to thrive despite the lesser resources or overbearing resources. Finding similar people to work with.
LikeLike