There is so much that I would like to say about the video below. For me, it really captures what feminism has taught women about men and relationships. Traditional male roles are: protect, provide, lead on moral issues, lead on spiritual issues. Well, young college-educated single women are certainly interested in protection and provision, but they have zero interest in male leadership.
First, here is the video:
So, this is a young, college-educated, progressive woman. She looks to be about 29 years old. She’s probably been having a lot of fun in bars and night clubs, hooking up with hot guys and running up student loans for worthless non-STEM degrees. But 29 is the age when many young feminist women start to notice that their friends are getting married, and so they feel that it’s time for them to “keep up” with their friends by also getting married.
The woman in the video doesn’t want a man in order to help him with any of his problems. She doesn’t want a man because she likes the way he leads her or makes decisions. She wants to get married because she wants to help herself to what a husband offers. Specifically, she wants to help herself to money, ability to repair a car, ability to renovate a house, vacations, travel, social respectability, social status, etc. That’s what she wants. She doesn’t want obligations to a man or obligations to children. She wants what a man and children to benefit her.
So, what this woman in the video is really asking for is two of the four traditional male roles. She wants a man to do protecting and providing. But she has no interest in a man who has firm views on morality or religion. She wants a sperm-donor, an ATM, and a handyman. But she doesn’t want a man who is going to tell her to do anything for God, or for him, or for the kids. No interest at all in a man who will want to lead the family in a Bible study, or protest sex-selection abortions. Religion and morality are disgusting to her – they’re brakes on her selfish pursuit of happiness. She likes men who let her make decisions, and who blame others when she is at fault. If babies get in the way of her career, he should approve of her killing them. If two men want to raise a motherless child bought from a surrogate, he should approve of that, too. She wants a man who will put his own kids in daycare and public schools so she can buy a Coach handbag and go on vacation in Barbados. Too bad for the kids. That’s what she wants in a man – “don’t judge”.
But the real key point in this story for me is how this woman expects a secular left man to respect moral obligations. A secular left man thinks that the universe is an accident, that human beings evolved from slime, and that humans have no free will. Atheists don’t believe that God holds people accountable for their moral decisions. They think that morality is just a set of conventions that vary by time and place. On atheism, there are no moral absolutes, just conventions that vary by time and place. And atheists only follow those conventions if following them makes them feel good or look good to others during their lifetimes. They support transing kids because they want their college professor or their boss to like them. Who cares about what happens to those kids?
On atheism, morality is just agreeing with the people you want to like you. It’s not about taking self-sacrificial stands to protect the weak. Survival of the fittest. That’s what atheists believe in. And this woman thinks that she is going to find a man who will have moral obligations towards her when those obligations go against his self-interest. She doesn’t want any obligations to him, but she wants him to have lots of moral obligations to her. Absolutely insane.
She also thinks that a man who agrees with her on adult-first, kids-last policies is going to sign up for a lifelong, faithful, marriage commitment. These days, it’s hard to get even a good man to agree to take risks with feminist false accusations on college campuses, feminist divorce courts and feminist “me too” workplaces. But why would a man who has a secular leftist worldview want to sacrifice his own interests for such a risky enterprise? Today, only men have obligations. Women are always the victims of someone else. In any disagreement between a man and a woman, the man is always guilty, and the woman is always the victim. The whole society is set up to relieve her of any accountability for her actions. All the costs must be paid by men. Why would a secular leftist man – who has ZERO rational foundation for morality – get legally obligated to a woman who holds that much power over him?
The woman in the video probably thinks that when it comes to marriage, men will just marry when they are impressed with a woman’s appearance, and go crazy from being “in love”. That’s why secular left women spend so much money on their appearance – not just for make-up or clothes, but on manicures, pedicures, and cosmetic surgery, too. Only stupid men marry secular left women because they are “in love” with her fake appearance.
If the woman in the video is expecting a man to commit to her for life, and be faithful, and be a good father, then she’s going to have to 1) resign herself to male leadership – because that’s what good men want, and 2) upgrade her religious and moral views to match those of a good man. Otherwise, her situation is hopeless. Good men don’t get married to secular left feminists. As more young women adopt feminism, you can expect to see the marriage rate decline.
WINTERY KNIGHT 
Sounds like she has a broken moral compass.
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Men are endlessly preached at on how to treat a woman, how to provide and protect, blah blah blah, but women are never instructed how to treat a man. So, you have a bunch of entitled women.
On the other side, men are checking out. All they hear is how horrible they are and how they need to do more and more, and yet no matter what they do it still isn’t enough. So more men are simply saying “do it yourself” and leaving the game, often permanently. This man did that. And no, I don’t have to get married and have kids to please God. The Word doesn’t say that in context.
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It looks like the expectation these days is for women to have the leadership, and men to have the responsibility. Women make all the decisions, and men pay all the bills.
And if the man doesn’t like being a slave, then that’s why the family courts are there to punish him.
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Good post! Ladies are always taking to Tiktok to tell on themselves. They don’t even realize it.
I’ll never forget one lady describing the kind of man she wants to marry. The lists out virtues and moral integrity that’s all tantamount to what a devoted Christian is. But at the end of this lengthy list, she says, “Oh, but I don’t want him to be religious.”
It was so disheartening. I saw that years ago and I’ve pretty much surmised that a lot of women want the benefits of being with a Christian man without accepting the conditions of it. It’s why bad girls (not good girls) go for the bad boys. Bad boys enable her to embrace her bad behavior and wicked indulgences while the Good men provide that needed pressure to keep her from living that city girl life.
It’s like a glutton hanging out with someone who takes their health seriously. The glutton is likely gonna feel that pressure to stop hitting up Popeyes every afternoon knowing that she’s living with someone who’s constantly hitting the gym.
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Yes. I see women expressing the desire for a tall, muscled man who is involved in crime or drug dealing who likes to intimidate other people and get into fights.
“Why do you like that?” I ask.
“Because he makes me feel safe” they say.
To me, they are choosing a man who domestic violences everyone around him, but they hope to be the exception. How? By the magical power of vagina, which is special, and works better than the vaginas of the dozens of women he’s mistreated before her.
And they keep this up until age 35, when they want to settle for a man who they’re NOT attracted to, who isn’t worthy of their obedience or support. He isn’t as good as the men who gave her the tingles but never committed. Oh no. He doesn’t have their “strength”. And his willingness to commit to her is seen as a weakness, which disqualifies him as a leader. He deserves no respect as a leader, he is just good enough to pay the bills.
Good men don’t sign up for that garbage.
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Burning it all down is a feature and not a bug.
There is no future anyway for the box wine auntie gynocracy.
It will be conquered by enemies internal and external.
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It seems like TikTok has become a public marketplace for women to share their complaints about men in today’s day and age. The posting of oneself on social media for the sake of attention is itself a red flag in women, but that’s a topic for another day.
The one question this woman, and every other woman posting her L’s on TikTok fails to ask is this: “The man you’re looking for is probably a pretty rare find. That being said, there are probably a lot of other women that are also trying to win his favor. Given the breadth of options he has available to him, why do you think he should select you and only you to be in a committed relationship with?”
Modern women seem incapable of considering this. They take it as a given that male commitment is their birthright. Men owe them marriage, and so they never once consider what they might bring to the table, and why it is that out of all their available options, a man would choose them as opposed to someone else. Despite all the cries from modern women about how men are the selfish ones, it’s the women who cry, “Me, me, me, me, me, me, me,” when discussing what they’re looking for in a man. They have long lists of what they expect from their potential marriage partner some day, but no list at all for what they believe that man should expect from them.
For awhile, these women were able to get away with marrying later in life because there were still enough suckers willing to settle down with them when faced with either settling down with them or not settling down at all. However, as the years go by, more and more men are waking up, realizing what a raw deal modern marriage is, and deciding that the rewards do not outweigh the risks.
Unfortunately, it’s too late for this woman. Even if she makes a conscious efforts to make a change in herself and get realistic about who’s really within her league, her best years are already gone. No man with anything to offer a woman is going to choose her as opposed to a younger woman without the same history.
Let her die childless with her cats and empty wine boxes. As Darwin himself said, “Survival of the fittest,” and these women’s decisions are proving they are not fit to reproduce.
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Man: what do you bring to the table?
Woman: I am the table.
Man: what does that mean?
Woman: I am the table!
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“She wants a sperm-donor, an ATM, and a handyman.”
I work at a major public university. My male colleagues are all ultra-left progressive men. They do not date traditional, conservative, or Christian women. These types of matches on dating websites are laughed at and blown off.
It’s interesting listening to them talk about the leftist women that they do date. They help these women upgrade or remodel their houses, paint, pour concrete sidewalks, build decks. As soon as the handy work is done, the “progressive” women dump them. Then they repeat the cycle with a new woman.
I used to laugh to myself when I’d hear these stories. Now, its just pathetic and sad.
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Those men are stupid, and making poor choices.
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