So, quick review. Radical feminism is the view that there are no differences whatsoever between men and women. And the reason why men do better at work is not due to a stronger desire to provide, it’s just caused by sexism in the workplace. Feminists don’t focus on marriage or choose men for marriage ability – that’s “sexist”. So, why don’t men want to date or marry feminists?
I like to read a web site called “Bolde” to find out what feminists are thinking. They have good articles, and even if I disagree with the authors, I do feel sorry for them.
Here’s an article called “I’m All For Feminism, But It’s Kinda Making It Harder To Date” that says:
It doesn’t take much for me to overanalyze a guy’s intentions nowadays. I used to see a guy opening a door for me as nice and polite, but lately, gestures like this have been making me angry. I know the guys offering these acts of chivalry have no intention to make me feel small or lesser than, but now that my eyes have been opened to feminist theory, it’s all I’m able to think about.
[…]When I’m out with a guy and he says one thing that’s even REMOTELY offensive towards women, I find it really hard to recover. I instantly write guys off if they aren’t “woke” to the current social mindset towards gender politics and can’t let it go. Let’s just say I’ve gone on A LOT of first dates that never go anywhere.
[…]All it takes is one quick scroll down my newsfeed and I have enough feminist rants to last me several winters. I think I’ve almost trained my brain to assume ALL men are here to try to put me down and dominate me when that’s far from the truth. I’ve made it kind of an automatic reflex at this point, though.
She actually says in her article that she’s been “brainwashed”. And that’s basically the case. Before feminism, women used to evaluate men for traditional male roles: protector, provider, moral and spiritual leader. They looked for evidence of moral convictions, mentoring, charity, kindness, etc. After feminism, women are more likely to get the tingles for a guy who is tall, pierced and tattooed. To look for husband qualities in a man is “sexist”. Early marriage is “boring”. Having lots of children is “wasting your education”.
It’s pretty clear from reading her article that she would not be a good partner. Men are looking for a woman who will listen to their life plan, and give up the pursuit of fun, thrills and travel in order to help them achieve it. Although it should be obvious, we aren’t going to commit to a woman who is seeking to grab the reins from us, and tear us down. Men tend to be more focused than women on reason and practicality. That’s good, but it’s a very cold existence. We want a woman to be caring and helpful, not a snarky competitor.
Here’s another one from Bolde entitled: “I Say I Want A Good Man But The Idea Of Dating A Mature Guy Scares Me“:
I’ve dated very few men in my life and a whole lot of boys.
[…]I think that I have a need to feel like I’m in charge of romantic situations. It dates back to my childhood issues, I guess. I want to keep the upper hand.
[…] I’m very honest, yes, but I’m emotionally closed-off. There is a definite distinction between the two. There are certain places that I simply don’t (or can’t) go with most people. When I’m confronted with a man who is open with his feelings, it freaks me out.
[…][M]ost of the men I’ve met who are emotionally developed also have the rest of their act together, and it makes me feel like maybe I don’t.
[…]I get paranoid because I hate being at a disadvantage.
[…]I’m not that different from the rest of my generation in some ways. I’m used to the ease of being single, and while ideally I’d like a deep and loving adult relationship, I also know that it takes time and energy that I’m not sure I’m willing to give up.
[…]I’m always falling for men who are unavailable in some way or another. I hate that I’m like this and I know that I operate this way because it feels safer than engaging in risky vulnerability with someone who truly wants to be with me.
[…]I’ve not had many mature relationships in my life. I’ve been in love and I’ve had serious boyfriends, but there was often an element of childishness to our interactions. We never really discussed our futures together or acted… adult. Now I feel like I don’t even know how to begin.
I’ve had experiences with women like this who smashed themselves up on the rocks of bad boys over and over. I think she really explains why it is that so many women are attracted to younger bad boys who don’t want to commit. The truth is that women are scared of commitment. They don’t want to give up their free and easy single lives in order to have to put effort into making a relationship work. They want husbands and homes, but without expectations, responsibilities, or obligations. And the better a man is at manly traits like protecting, providing, and leading on moral and spiritual issues, the less they like him. It’s even worse if he has a good STEM education, a good resume, and a good balance sheet. They deliberately bypass commitment-ready men because they don’t want to be led – even by a good leader.
By the way, in my experience, what she describes above is the natural outworking of being promiscuous with hot bad boys. Women who do that lose trust for men, and they lose their confidence dealing with good men who want to marry them. And naturally all that sex with attractive men makes the woman less content with the one she has to “settle” for – since she didn’t respect men who were good at commitment in the first place. Promiscuity trains people to pre-emptively nuke relationships rather than invest effort into making them work.
8 thoughts on “Radical feminists explain how feminism prepared them for dating and marriage”
They are very angry, they are very unlikely to be able to bond, and they are willing to kill their children – and yours! — to satisfy their selfish desires. Other than that, they are great marriage prospects.
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They have literally nothing to offer. Proverbs 21:19 women.
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“I used to see a guy opening a door for me as nice and polite, but lately, gestures like this have been making me angry.”
That’s why whenever I open a door for a woman, which is often, I make sure I say “Here, let me get that for you, Ma’am” with a big smile on my face. It’s a win-win!
I think I’ve only once had the woman push the door back closed and say “I can DO this myself!” But, I kept smiling. The “Ma’am” part is important too. :-)
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I do this as well. I haven’t had anyone not accept my chivalry, but the expectation does excite somewhat. I think I would respond to “I can do this myself” with an obviously condescending “Of course you can”.
Part of changing hearts and minds can involve humiliating them for holding nonsensical positions. By demonstrating how foolish they are, they will eventually wilt under that humiliation of having their foolishness exposed as blatant.
LOL! You could say “Are you sure you can do it?!?”
There are some radical feminists nowadays who are speaking out against transgender ideology, so I guess some of them do believe there’s differences between men and women. Here’s one-Vanessa Vokey: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCObXaD98QCAe0uivNoiBsSQ/videos
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Although, the early feminists were concerned with equal opportunity and equal access, it later turned into “all sex differences are social constructs”. I think that equating men and women lent support to the transgender agenda.
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Early feminists had an agenda of demanding equal “access” but without equal responsibilities. Google “titanic boats for women poem” and someone even wrote a poem about how the feminists abandoned equality the moment the lifeboats were lowered.
When we read dating complaints by feminists, it’s astonishing how they complain that actual equality has meant men no longer living up to the breadwinner/protector role anymore as if men might actually have an existence aside from pleasing them.
Feminists from early on played with demanding equality only when it suited them and trans-genders are basically using their own reasoning against them and they’re having a hard time admitting that it’s been a goodie grab from the beginning.