What is the definition of marriage according to Jesus?

Marriage and family
Marriage and family

I noticed that there is some silly Democrat running around harassing Mike Pence because he accepts Jesus’ definition of marriage. What’s annoying about this particular Democrat is that he calls himself a Christian, despite being in a gay relationship with another man. I thought it might be a good idea to remind everyone what the actual definition of marriage is, according to Jesus.

Here’s what Jesus says about marriage.

Matthew 19:1-11:

1 Now when Jesus had finished these sayings, he went away from Galilee and entered the region of Judea beyond the Jordan.

2 And large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.

3 And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?”

4 He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female,

5 and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?

6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”

7 They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?”

8 He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.

9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”

10 The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”

11 But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given.

To be a Christian, minimally, is to be a follower of Jesus Christ. That means that we accept what Jesus teaches, on whatever he teaches about. We don’t overturn the teachings of Jesus in order to make people who are rebelling against God feel better about their rebellion. It is central to the Christian worldview that Christians care more about what God thinks of them than what non-Christians think of them. In fact, Christians are supposed to be willing to endure suffering rather than side with non-Christians against God’s authority.

Matt Walsh had a fine article about this issue.

He said:

As Christians, our goal is not to avoid being like the big bad “other Christians,” but to strive to be like Christ Himself. This is one of the advantages to having an Incarnate God. He went around acting and speaking and teaching and generally functioning in our realm, thereby giving us a model to follow. This is the model of a loving and merciful man, and also a man of perfect virtue who fought against the forces of evil, condemned sin, defended his Father in Heaven with sometimes violent force, spoke truth, and eventually laid down His life for those He loved (which would be all of us).

[…]This is what it means to believe in Christ. Not just to believe that He existed, but to believe that Christ is Truth itself, and that everything He said and did was totally and absolutely and irreversibly true forever and always. Many Christians today — not only the ones in the video, but millions alongside them — seem to think we can rightly claim to have “faith” in Jesus or a “relationship” with Him while still categorically denying much of His Word. This is a ridiculous proposition. We can’t declare, in one breath, that Christ is Lord, and in the next suggest that maybe God got it wrong on this or that point. Well, we can make that declaration, but we expose our belief as fraudulent and self-serving. We worship a God we either invented in our heads, which is a false idol, or a God who is fallible, which is a false idol.

If you really accept Jesus as God, then you can’t think he is wrong when he explains what marriage is. Period. End of issue.

Real Christians don’t make excuses for sin. Real Christians present the gospel. The gospel is that all men have rebelled against God and fallen short of perfect submission to and obedience of him. For this, they deserve to be separated from God eternally. Jesus paid the price for this rebellion on the cross, and anyone who accepts him as Savior and Lord will be with God eternally after they die. There is no salvation apart from Jesus. That’s what Christians say. And they say it regardless of how weird they look, and how many non-Christians don’t like them for saying it.

10 thoughts on “What is the definition of marriage according to Jesus?”

  1. True story about this in my own life (notice a pattern here). I’ve been a part of a small men’s group for the past four years and we are all from the same church except one guy. Our friend is from a denomination whose membership is 75% religious pluralists. I let you guess which denomination it is. Anyway, he is moderately biblically literate and fully aware of what historic orthodox Christianity teaches and yet his biggest disagreements with us are always Hell, same-sex “marriage” and Jesus as the only way to salvation. When these issues come up in our conversation we have painstakingly gone through verse by verse from multiple passages of the Bible on what they teach about these things and no matter how clear the passage/verses are all we get from our friend is a bunch of obfuscation and “what abouts.”
    We are now convinced that there’s a really good chance our friend is culturally religious, but not born again. So, in order to bring these topics into even sharper focus, we recently started going through a book called “Hell is real, but I Hate to Admit it” by Brian Jones. Brian was talked out of the doctrine of Hell in seminary but changed his mind after a few years of being a pastor at an evangelical church and in his book he describes that journey and the relevant passages. In any case, our friend is still in our group after four years so we must be speaking the truth in love because he keeps coming back. Our discussions always end on a positive note too so we aren’t beating him up.

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      1. As one fairly familiar with the Catechism of the Catholic Church, familiar enough to be trusted to teach in the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults in that denomination, I find the assertion that “they have religious pluralism in their core doctrine” quite odd. That there might be Catholic parishes where “75 % of the membership are religious pluralists” I have no wish to dispute; it would not be hard to find a parish where that fraction or more ignore the Catholic teaching on contraception, for example.


        1. Hey, I’m just going off what’s on the Vatican web site here:


          And the catechism says this:

          839 “Those who have not yet received the Gospel are related to the People of God in various ways.”[325] The relationship of the Church with the Jewish People. When she delves into her own mystery, the Church, the People of God in the New Covenant, discovers her link with the Jewish People,[326] “the first to hear the Word of God.”[327] The Jewish faith, unlike other non-Christian religions, is already a response to God’s revelation in the Old Covenant. To the Jews “belong the sonship, the glory, the covenants, the giving of the law, the worship, and the promises; to them belong the patriarchs, and of their race, according to the flesh, is the Christ”,[328] “for the gifts and the call of God are irrevocable.”[329]

          840 And when one considers the future, God’s People of the Old Covenant and the new People of God tend towards similar goals: expectation of the coming (or the return) of the Messiah. But one awaits the return of the Messiah who died and rose from the dead and is recognized as Lord and Son of God; the other awaits the coming of a Messiah, whose features remain hidden till the end of time; and the latter waiting is accompanied by the drama of not knowing or of misunderstanding Christ Jesus.

          841 The Church’s relationship with the Muslims. “The plan of salvation also includes those who acknowledge the Creator, in the first place amongst whom are the Muslims; these profess to hold the faith of Abraham, and together with us they adore the one, merciful God, mankind’s judge on the last day.”[330]

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          1. What a betrayal of the gospel that those who persecute us (i.e. Muslims) are participants with us in salvation! I think the biblical authors thought differently (see 1 John 2:9-11; Romans 10:1-4).


  2. And yet today we had an older woman bring her daughter into the abortion mill to have her grandchild murdered, and she held up the silver cross hanging around her neck to let us know she was a “Christian.” (smh)


  3. Jesus spoke to the religious leaders of His day, Jews who could trace their lineage all the way back to Abraham, and said, “Unless you believe that I am He (the Messiah), you will die in your sins.” (Jn. 8:24).

    As for the Muslims, they worship Allah, whom they believe is singular (no Trinity). Therefore, before Allah created the world and human beings, he knew nothing of love, for there was no one to love. Therefore, Allah cannot be all-loving, cannot be maximally great, is not worthy of worship, and is therefore a false god.
    Therefore, since both Muslims and Jews reject the deity of Christ, pluralism is false.

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