Woman invents hunky man character for her book, then leaves her husband for him

Child grabs for his mom, who is leaving for work
Child grabs for his mom, who is leaving for work

My good friend Dina sent me this article about a very crazy, irrational woman who does not value marriage at all.


Her steamy, bestselling novels and strong male characters have seduced hundreds of thousands of female readers worldwide.

But Jodi Ellen Malpas has revealed she has split from her own Mr Right – because he no longer lives up to the fantasy she created.

The 34-year-old, whose This Man trilogy has sold more than 500,000 copies, has left her husband of ten years after ‘falling in love’ with one of her characters.

Ms Malpas, from Northampton, says: ‘All my fictional men are strong, successful, sophisticated and enigmatic. I guess it’s hard for any living, breathing man to live up to such a fantasy.

‘In This Man I created Jesse Ward, whose forceful personality was appealing to me. There is no denying I fell in love with him.

‘After all, I created him and I made him the way he is for a reason. Every woman needs some fantasy lover to spice up the dull reality of her real life. I wanted to create my perfect love story.

‘But the success of my books and the popularity of my male character led to the breakdown of my marriage. Sadly it was not solid enough to withstand the changes success has brought to my life.’

The mother of two, whom many believe is the new E. L. James, the housewife who wrote the Fifty Shades Of Grey trilogy, became a self-publishing sensation last year, swiftly rising to the top of the New York Times Best Seller List.

The This Man trilogy explores the love affair between young interior designer Ava O’Shea and playboy Jesse Ward. The second part of her new trilogy, One Night, has just been published by Orion.

‘I was 23 when Aaron and I got married, so we were both very young,’ she says. ‘I didn’t really know who I was. I got on with being a wife and mother.

‘But over time I started to feel that something was missing – my normal everyday life had become a routine. I was bored. I guess that is what couples mean when they say they’ve grown apart. Aaron couldn’t understand why I wanted to write my fiction and I couldn’t understand why he didn’t understand.’

The couple have two children, Alfie, 14, and Patrick, ten. But although they divorced in August last year, Ms Malpas says their relationship remains amicable. She is currently single and insists that she has no time to get involved in a relationship.

‘My children and my writing are enough for the moment,’ she adds. ‘In any case, I suspect some men might be a little intimidated by my independence and my success.’

And she insists she has no regrets. ‘It’s been crazy, but I’m loving the stronger more liberated me,’ she says.

They are “her” children. Not her husband’s and hers. And they don’t need a father – because children don’t have needs distinct from her own needs. Her husband doesn’t have needs distinct from her own needs. In her own mind, men are “intimidated” by her success. But that’s not true – they are intimidated because she is insane and irrational and self-centered. She is not capable of relationships, and that’s the main thing that a man wants from a woman. They avoid her because she divorced her husband of 10 years (with children) for a fictional character!!!!! 

Good Lord. What have women come to under the influence of feminism? The feministy ones seem to place no value on what a married couple can do together. They place no value on the needs of children. Everything is about getting their own fulfillment through worldy “success” and experiences; traveling, feeling good and taking pointless risks. When I think of the men that these feministy women seem to really want (at least when they are in their teens, 20s and 30s) it really scares me. I used to think that most young, unmarried women were sensible and thought that being a wife and mother was a good way to make a difference. Now so many of them are influenced by feminism and they seem to be avoiding it in favor of making lots of money. As if that were an end in itself.

What is so boring about marriage that women no longer find it fulfilling? I go to work every day and damned if I think that is more fulfilling that loving a wife and fathering children. I don’t think any man would think that. We work because that’s how we relate to our wives and children, by providing for them and leading them. And work is not meant to be fun or fulfilling. It’s WORK. Nowadays, I am seeing a lot of men who are interested in the idea of marriage and becoming a father. But I also see more and more women more interested in careers and travel than they are in marriage and becoming a mother. Men avoid women like that – we don’t want to be accessories to a self-centered career woman, we want a partnership and a home and children raised by a mother.

11 thoughts on “Woman invents hunky man character for her book, then leaves her husband for him”

  1. Wintery Knight, I think this happens on a smaller scale kind of frequently… women read those romance novels all the time, and they ALL have a main male character like that for them to fantasize about and swoon over, making their husbands pale in comparison.

    So even if they stay with their husband, they start to see him differently, disrespect him more, and feel much less attracted to him.

    You ask why is marriage so boring that women no longer find it fulfilling? I honestly think it’s selfishness, which when I read into the history of feminism and what those women really thought and did, it all came down to selfishness and putting their desires above everyone else’s in the family. You can clearly see that in this situation. It’s become much easier for women to choose selfishness, than self-denial and true love for their husband and children.

    1. Yes. On the male side of the equation, I don’t see that a lot of Christian men have much of a vision for their marriage as part of a Christian life well-lived. I am friends with a lot of Christian apologists, and they seem to be much more dedicated to their apologetics stuff – especially when they get to talk to large groups of people – than they are about picking and loving a good woman, and getting their kids raised by a smart, hard-working stay-at-home mom. Although I might find you valuable, because I know what a woman can do that I can’t, they don’t seem to know what to look for, in terms of how a woman treats a man,and how a woman sees marriage and family and children. I don’t think most men care much about women as mother of their children. They just don’t value it. I can tell you this – I would not want to inflict the way my mother raised me on my kids. I think that men should choose a smart, hard-working woman who knows how to be a wife and mother, but I don’t think most men know what they need a woman for. Look at Donald Trump as an example.

  2. Honestly, I don’t know anything about the writer, but I read the article you linked to your page. I think that leaving her husband for a fictional character sounds pretty wacky, but she also mentioned other reasons to end her marriage (like being too young when they met, and not sure of who she really was — people change with age, and after experiencing life). Anyway, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to get married and have children, and an old school wife, if she’s okay with that. At the same time, what is wrong with wanting to be successful, and single? Believe it or not, some children of single parents (like myself), don’t have anything to complain about when it comes to how their single, hard working mothers raised them.

    On top of that, you say feminism makes women act irrationally. True feminism isn’t about women overpowering men. It is about equality. Decades ago women didn’t even have the right to vote or speak for themselves… That’s why the word “feminism” HAD to emphasise the importance of changing the way society treated women. I don’t think you will look up anything I said, but Beauvoir’s The Second Sex is an interesting reading to show why and how women were treated just a few decades ago.
    I rarely comment (even if the topic interests me, like feminism), but I couldn’t help but to comment on yours.

    I hope you have a fantastic weekend, even if you disagree with my point of view (which is opposed to yours!).

  3. “And she insists she has no regrets. ‘It’s been crazy, but I’m loving the stronger more liberated me,’ she says.”

    I don’t think anyone can question her love for herself.

    1. I agree with you, her love for herself is immense. Her love for her children is very small. Her love for her ex is very small. Her love for virtues like honoring prior commitments is very small.

  4. You allude to it in your last paragraph, but the reason women choose work over children is that work is perceived to carry higher status than raising children. Women are desperate status-signalers, thus the trend towards work and away from children.

  5. Rings a bell… the mother of my children after joining a feminist consciousness raising group. informed me, and the world, that she needed to ‘put herself first’, so she did… our youngest was just 3 at the time. That was 35 years ago.. I raised the girls myself… sole custody… The girls grew to be wonderful women… They have maintained contact with their mother… It was only in their mid twenties, later even after they had children of their own, that they have adjusted to the full realisation that they cannot rely on their mother, they cannot rely on her to ‘be there for them’ when they need someone. She still always ‘puts herself first’.

  6. “But I also see more and more women more interested in careers and travel than they are in marriage and becoming a mother.”

    Davis Aurini put it well; girls today are raised to be like sons and sons are raised to be little maidens.

  7. “‘I was 23 when Aaron and I got married, so we were both very young,’ she says. ‘I didn’t really know who I was. I got on with being a wife and mother.”

    I think one reason why her marriage seemed boring is that she didn’t know who she was. Before anyone gets married whether man or woman they should know who they are and what they want in life.

    Second everyone has a fantasy man or woman. The difference is how we handle it, in this case she choose to live with a fantasy than reality. I have plenty of romance novels they are all paranormal but i know its fantasy,its not real.

    3rd. I have no issue with feminism in general. If it wasnt for feminism, i wouldn’t be able to vote and i would still would be considered property among other things. However this ‘new feminism’ i dislike because it has distorted what feminism actually stood for.

  8. Anytime a single woman cannot get a date with a “perfect” man, Christian or not…..

    Out comes the “Well, men are intimidated by strong successful women” excuse. Mind you many of the women who say this that I know are not really strong (they are relying on the State to take care of them via welfare benefits). They are not successful (they work because they have to, and many….like their male counterparts….are not living their dreams and work a job because they just have to.

    When a woman says the above phrase….I tune out…..I know immediately that I will not be able to “match” her list of what she expects in a man. Be Jesus, or the romantic lead of my ‘christian romance novel’and ‘make me laugh right now’ or it will “never* work.

    Men who are indeed intimidated by “strong, successful, modern women” are the exact men the writer writes about. An alpha man today is 100% packaging and zero substance. He know what to say. He knows how to pacify “itchy ears” and physically is an “accessory” to a woman, to compliment her or for the woman to say to other women “look what I got”

    Again, men in and out of the church have openly ALLOWED women to dictate what “manhood” is, and also they have cornered the exit / excuse with comments like above being a “strong, successful woman” if no man shows up.

    Being a single mom who initiated divorce on her husband living on welfare or being stuck in a minimum wage job is not being a “strong, independent, successful, modern woman”

    That is called being a fool. But we never say ANYTHING today that may harm the “uber sensitive self-esteem” culture we live in today.

  9. Whenever I read such things, I always wonder.

    I am a big proponent of any social rules applying to everyone, and not different groups having different rules that benefit only them.

    What would happen if men started leaving their families and using the same excuses that women often do? Some may say some do, but what is the social reaction?

    If a man walked away from his marriage because he fell in love with, say for example, a porn character or decided that now that he’s older and compares his wife with other women decides he bored and tired of working 50 hours a week for someone that does not excite him any more when he could spend that money on a bigger TV or a nicer car, what would society think?

    I know some feminists will think that in such a situation all the men in his life will be giving him high fives for dumping the #$@%, but I think that for the most part the guy is going to be labelled a fairly self centred jerk by about just about anyone he knows. The result is not going to be “Look at that strong, self-confident man.”

    From a Christian perspective, when you look at what Jesus gave as reasons for divorce, “I’m bored. Look he’s hot.” is not a valid reason.

    I apologize to some. I think that in the end, God will not simply say “You broke up that family and ruined some lives because you were bored, but since you are a generally nice person come on it.”

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