This is from Life News.
Excerpt:
A young Irish woman has spoken of the trauma she endured by travelling to the UK for an abortion.
Cork woman Tara (24) has told how she and her partner Steve felt they had no choice but to travel eight hours – almost 590 kilometres – to an abortion clinic in west London.
Tara, who does not give her surname, appears in a BBC Three documentary “Abortion: Ireland’s Guilty Secret?” to tell her story and why she’s pro-choice.
Under the Protection of Life During Pregnancy Act, it is an offence to “intentionally destroy unborn human life” and those found guilty face a maximum jail term of 14 years.
Tara, who had an abortion because she wanted to travel and she wasn’t yet ready, tells reporter Alys Harte that the Government here is “ignoring” her right to choice.
“I’m really angry. I’m angry that they are ignoring women basically at the moment.”
“They shouldn’t have control over my uterus. I deserve that choice and it was taken away from me by my Government.”
“You deserve to be treated as a human and not as a criminal more than anything else,” she said.
The stress of travelling abroad to have an abortion was “not really pleasant”, Tara added.
“This could’ve been so simple. This could’ve been something I could’ve done two weeks ago basically when I found out.”
“It’s not really pleasant for anyone to have to go through the fact that you have to leave home and fly across the water and do something that is such a simple procedure. It definitely adds to the stress of it.”
Tara is one of around 4,000 Irish women who travel to the UK every year for abortions because it is illegal to do so in Ireland.
The country’s abortion laws will be the subject of a special report this year by Amnesty International.
Ireland is one of five countries chosen by Amnesty as “emblematic of global abuses of sexual and reproductive rights”.
The report aims to include testimonies from Irish women who have had abortions and explore issues such as the “prohibitive” high cost of travel, particularly for young women and socio-economically marginalised groups such as asylum seekers, undocumented migrants and Travellers.
The criminalisation of termination of pregnancy which results from rape, incest or sexual violence will also be reviewed as part of the My Body My Rights Campaign.
Tara claims that Ireland is behind its other Western counterparts on the abortion issue.
“The rest of the world can see that this is wrong but we’re in a western society and yet it hasn’t changed yet.”
I think the picture that goes with the story is really telling. Look at the man that she chose… hoop earrings, tattoos, piercings. He is her “partner” – not her husband. He is there for recreation, not to provide for her or lead her on moral/spiritual issues. They are having sex, but it’s doubtful that he has the discipline to provide for a family. Yet she is giving him all of herself anyway, because it’s fun to have recreational sex. Marriage isn’t fun though – marriage is boring. Marriage is work. Marriage is self-sacrifice. She is only 24! It’s too early to think of marriage. Now is the time for having fun, seeking thrills and traveling. It’s time for adventures! Not for prudence and caution. And if a child comes along who wants to stop her fun, then that child just has to die. And he is all for it!
I think this story goes very well with the mean post I wrote earlier expressing my frustration with how we as a society seem to have lost the ability to tell young, unmarried women “NO” when they want to act selfishly and/or unwisely. Look at the man she chose! He is not the kind of man who would tell her NO for anything she is doing wrong. He wants the sex, and he is willing to keep his mouth shut to get it. He’s not looking for a competent partner to support him in some enterprise. They are both more interested in recreational sex than they are in marriage and personal responsibility. I sincerely doubt that this man is financially prepared to be a protector and provider – he chose a woman who just killed his child! And she chose him because she could get his attention and acceptance, but without having to be judged or led by him in any way.
Why would she choose this man? A person who understands morality subjectively will try to surround herself with people who will always tell her that she is doing the right thing – no matter what she is doing. “Follow your heart”. She will also seek to silence anyone from telling her that what she is doing is wrong. She will also vote for laws that will punish people who say in public that what she is doing is wrong. With respect to abortion, that means no clinic protesters, no graphic images from protesters, no mandatory ultrasounds, no public expressions of Christianity. Anything that makes her feel that a majority of people are opposed to her has to be tuned out or silenced by force of government. The most important question that a subjective-morality person asks is “what will people think of me if I do this?” And also “I want to do this, how can I make more people agree with me?”
If we want women to stop making poor decisions with their lives, then we have to speak up and be convincing on issues like abortion, and to teach them to be careful about surrounding themselves with people who are using them, and who will agree with any crazy thing they want to do in order to keep using them.
One last point about this woman. When I look at her picture, I think about her future. I think about whether the man she has chosen is wasting her youth, and whether she understands that men like that do not stick around when a woman gets older. In order to get a man to commit to a woman past the time where she is at her peak of physical attraction, she has to do two things. First, she has to be developing her own skills and accomplishments. Second, she has to choose a man who s trying to achieve something that requires those skills and accomplishments. That’s what causes a man to fall in love and remain devoted to one woman into old age. But this woman is not looking to improve her skills and to get achievements that a good man would find valuable. Instead, she is choosing the easy road. Giving her physical beauty to the wrong man, in order to have fun and thrills today – and there’s no plan for tomorrow.
And as she ages, she will probably find herself without a man who is dedicated to providing for her, and will instead vote for government to take that role in her life. That means higher taxes, more government spending and borrowing, more debt for the next generation, and fewer young men who can afford to marry and have kids. That’s why we need to tell the women of today NO when they want to behave selfishly, and be guided by their emotions.
WINTERY KNIGHT 
Now, THAT is connecting the dots, WK! All the way down to the dirty deed. Too bad your blog was not around “in the Garden.” :-) Excerpt: “Just look at this woman! She wants to be selfish and eat the apple and get “everybody” to agree with her and not tell her “no”. She’s not worried about the consequences – that stuff is boring. And, look at this man! Is he ready to lead?!?”
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He doesn’t look very reliable, but that’s why she chose him. He would agree with her, once properly medicated with sex.
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“medicated with sex!” That’s at least an honorable mention in the WK Hall of Quotes. He might be medicated with something else. But, this is so sad! That young man does not know what it is to be a man: he is a woman with hair, and doesn’t even realize that he has emasculated himself. What are we doing to our kids?!? Think he studied apologetics growing up?!? This is a tragedy for the baby and the two “parents” who murdered her. :-(
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LOL, your other post was not mean, it was interesting.
There are two things in this post that I question, but only slightly. First, “Yet she is giving him all of herself anyway, because it’s fun to have recreational sex”
It is NOT fun for her, not really. She is making an exchange, as cold and detached as an economic exchange. Most women truly do not enjoy sex outside of the context of marriage, outside of security, intimacy, long term trust, and even then it must be with a man who is worthy of her respect. Women may well give the impression that they are having fun, but they do not even know what they are seeking. Sex may well be different for men, but if you speak to women who had a lot of promiscuity in their past and now do not, they will all speak to you of how foolish they were, how deceived, and how sexually dis-empowered and dis-satisfied they really were.
“Follow your heart”
I know what you are saying here, but honestly, most women who are emotionally driven and truly following their heart, seek marriage, commitment, family. For women it is usually our emotions, our heart, that leads us down the right path. That is also probably different for men, but for women that is where our innate sense of morality lives. This woman is not following her heart at all, she is following her head and the expectations of the world around her. Abortion is actually what happens when women chose reason over their hearts. Her behavior may appear irrational, illogical, but what it really is, is devoid of emotion and empathy.
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Some women are driven by emotions toward marriage, but certainly not all or even most. That’s the thing abut emotions – they’re unstable and unpredictable.
When women have premarital sex, it’s usually driven by emotions. She isn’t thinking rationally about how good it is to have sex with this man she just met in a bar and how this will prepare her for marriage. She isn’t thinking rationally about the risks of pregnancy or disease. She’s feeling like he’s attracted to her and she’s attracted to him and so she’ll just go ahead and do what feels good right now. She’s living in the moment, with no thought of tomorrow when she’ll wake up with a hangover in the apartment of a guy who doesn’t even remember her name and a lovely case of herpes she picked up from him.
Even if it is often driven by cultural expectations, women are accepting those expectations without thought because it sounds good. It’s emotion, not reason.
Even when women do hold out hope for marriage someday, engaging in premarital sex is not something they do rationally to move towards marriage. They see no connection between what they’re doing today for fun and what they want someday in the form of marriage and children. So, no, they’re not engaging in premarital sex out of rationality. They are sometimes doing it when they don’t want to, as an exchange, but they aren’t coldly exchanging sex for their goal of marriage. They’re exchanging sex for a man staying in the relationship out of fear of losing him. That’s emotion driven, not a rational choice.
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I was just talking this over with my best friend Dina. Why do women have premarital sex and what does it say about their judgment?
We agree with you that it shows an inability to connect ends and means (marriage and chastity). The emotional ones basically think, I can have fun and thrills now, and it won’t affect my ability to choose the right man and love him at all! Then they meet the right man and don’t want him, and don’t want to care for his needs. He isn’t as handsome as the guys who one-night standed her in college, and those images are stuck in there, no matter what she says she wants now. I know a girl who was wild in college whose first criteria is physical appearance. Christian girl.
There’s a 50-something-year-old feminist in my work who is still single and is always pouring cold water on my caution and telling me to live in the moment, live in the moment. In fact, another girl I know who is very much into seeking fun and thrills told me the same thing a few months ago. She is 30 and still working as a waitress, and in debt 25K from her (unused) college degree. “Live in the moment” “Follow your heart”. That’s their battle-cry, no matter how many times it fails.
So to cut a long story short, I agree with you completely. It’s the inability to see the consequences of the choice to have recreational premarital sex that causes them to do it. They don’t know how it affects them. They don’t know how it impacts their future plans. It’s sad when a good girl who has been raised Christian has to go through this, though. That really hurts me a lot when I think about the ones I know who rejected their parents and went off in their own direction. I am sad when I see how it changes them.
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Yes, Wintery Knight you have said it well. Here in the US a 46-year-old Planned Parenthood event coordinator died, and many are protesting her being given a funeral Mass. Lisa Benitez’s obituary unsurprisingly informs us that she is survived her “loving partner John Hitt and their precious dog Elliott Piccone Benitez.” Isn’t that fitting?
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It’s so ironic that the reason she wanted to get an abortion is so that she can travel, yet she complains about the inconvenience and cost of having to travel to the UK, which isn’t even very far away from where she lives!
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She doesn’t mind traveling to “have fun” and be a narcissist. She objects to having to travel to murder her baby. There should be a baby disposal machine on every block in her sick world.
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“I wanted to travel so I killed my child.” I don’t even know what to say to that except that this is why am starting to favor prison sentences for those who have an abortion.
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Yes, that is a really good point. A lot of pro-lifers have told pro-deathers “Don’t worry, we are going after the abortionist, not the woman.” But, it seems that might be wrong on a basic legal point: if abortion is murder (and it is), then why would the person who authorizes the hit job not be charged? Also, any nurses would be accomplices, as a minimum. Even the receptionist is fair game, IMO.
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I would only charge the doctor, since that solves the problem without giving the other side the to portray the pro-life side negatively for going after an apparent victim.
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I think, at this stage of the game, where whole generations have been raised with the idea that abortion is not only okay, but a right, the thing to do is to punish abortionists, not women seeking abortions. However, as society learns that the unborn are people and that abortion is not okay, then we would move to punish women who abort as well. The first plan, however, is merely to punish abortionists. If no one will act as a contract killer for fear of jail time, then we’ll have far fewer murders of the unborn.
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So if she was denied an abortion then what? The child would just be put in the system hoping to be adopted like many others and if they never get adopted for example in america when they turned 18 they are legally an adult now and on their own. So whats the solution for babies who are unwanted and dont get aborted? Also men also need to stop going after fast women, not all women are made to be wives some are just side pieces sadly.
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